Absolutely no idea!! But my drama just keeps going Today I got a phone call from Shane. Apparently he has decided to quit while still in orientation. And to be honest it comes as no surprise. This is a flat-bed truck company and we knew he had issues doing flat bed before. So today while tarping and climbing around on the truck/load he says "his chest hurt" and he "was having chest pains" Now not knowing exactly what was going on ... I feel he had a panic attack honestly. Soooooooo Now when Anna gets there, they will spend the night and then BOTH of them will head this way. No freaking idea how they will get the rest of their stuff now because no job means no money to pay rent there which means eviction MORE likely to happen and more likely someone will notice they aren't there....so most likely they will lose everything that is left there. I'm so freaking pissed and stressed now over all this Oh and to top that off, my lovely ex Ryan and Shane apparently got into a fight over the phone too so now Shane has informed me he doesn't want to hear anything about his dad "so please don't talk to me about him" (apparently Ryan told him he needs to grow up in lots of not so nice words) SIGH

And oh yes if there is an instance like that I would step in for sure to help!!! I would not be able to let the little one keep crying either. But I'd try to let them fix it first at least!!! And Ryan told me, apparently Anna talked to him, and said her doctor told her to find a doctor asap out here. So I dunno what she will do but we will see....so I guess her doctor at least wants her to have more appointments regardless of what she said before ... Figured that but I was only reporting what she told me.

And this is why I'm so glad I don't have family drama anymore (although now that I said that some is bound to pop up. XD ) I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Hugs It's just my 2cents worth but I think they're both scared and you're a safe haven. They know that you won't kick them out while they have the baby.You're going to have a lot to do once they get there. Is your place even ready for them to show up? idk what to tell you about the doctor. Most are appt only unless it's an emergency and then they'll tell you to go to the ER. So, maybe take her to the er to get checked out by the on call ob/gyn. That way she'll have someone here you can calll if she has questions, etc. I really hope this gets resolved favorably for you because it just keeps growing in size it seems. Hate to say it but your hubby is right although he could have used better terms if it upset your son so badly. Diplomacy is what they need and you should be good as a diplomat. :D

Yes better timing and words for that talk would have been better. But it is what it is. (This type of crap is one reason I'm glad I'm divorced now to be honest). And yes I am sure they feel I am a safe space for them and they ought to by now because I've said it and so has my ex. That the can come here and I won't kick them out. But that we will need to discuss rent payment from them to me because I can't support them, only provide a place to stay - because they need to be responsible too and them being here will increase some of MY bills

I have Shane's bedroom pretty much cleaned out, I placed my old queen mattress in there for them to sleep on, I cleaned out the middle room, which Nathan has been using as a game room, so they can turn it into a nursery or use it as a closet/storage space depending on how long they stay (longer stay means it's likely to turn into the nursery/baby room) I've moved my desk to my bedroom so that when I am online for class I can close the door and not be disturbed by crying babies, dogs, or people in the kitchen.... So yeah. I guess I'm as ready as I can be house-wise

There are several urgent care/walk in clinics in town. None are ob/gyn but I'm sure they can still assess her. As well as the ER if it comes to that.

I'm not sure I'm really diplomatic. I am more avoidance... My own brothers always say I live in lala land because I ignore problems. I ignore those I can't do anything about and try to keep the peace. For instance, Shane doesn't want me to talk to him about dad? Not a problem. Been there done that for my daughter already. And I find it quite hilarious that as soon as SHE decides to start talking to him again, that he and Shane are now at odds ... Seems he always has drama with at least one of the kids if not more than one. Nathan really doesn't want anything to do with him either (And I bet he feels that my fault too like he did Katie but eh that's a whole other story).

Kat, it seems that you've got everything pretty much ready for them to come live there. That's awesome considering what's going on. I hope they arrive safely with all their stuff. Hammering out a rental/utilities agreement may be difficult at first because I think both their minds is on the baby. Do you think there's aspects to this that they aren't telling you? As for not talking to their dad, I can't say anything because my daughters don't talk to me for the most part. Only my sons talk to me and I think it's our personalities. I usually clash with women but get along with men. I think bothof them just need to cool down and things will straighten out a bit. Is your hubby very strict with them while they were growing up? Heh, I'm not much of a diplomat. Hubby says the filter is lost on my mouth because I tend to say the thing everyone is thinking but not saying. Irt has taught me to avoid as much as I can.

If there is a good urgent care then I'd take her there for a check up. Yoou don't want pre-eclampsia or anything cropping up.

I wouldn't say really strict. But he usually enforced punishments more than I did. And often ones I had already learned didn't work or just pissed the kids off more. And we won't go into the alcoholic issues. That never helped anything. And yes I think after cooling down (and other things settle) they'll talk again. And yeah I think there are always things that aren't being said. For whatever reason. But I get told quite a bit by one, the other, or his dad if they told him and not me. Because that is one thing, we don't generally keep things from each other about the kids, not if we think it will impact the other. So he's made sure I know about issues he's been told especially since they are coming to my house to live AND he pretty much told them to do so 😝 but that is because he knows I will always welcome my kids home if they need it AND there is the baby on top of that. I will NOT have a baby be homeless!!!!

I have been rearranging and organizing my house to be set up for them since they said they wanted to move back here (original plan was later in Aug or Sept). And I wanted to be set for school and not have to disrupt myself when they moved in. I even have plans to discuss how to make the living room feel more like their home by taking down some of my pictures and allowing them to hang some of theirs if they wanted. Or to put some of those things like decorative or movies or whatever out on shelves...etc. I have ideas and plans for rental agreements ready to discuss but wasn't going to until they moved in, and now not really until he also even HAS a paycheck because he can't pay anything when he has no $ income.

[edit] Thursday 7am Anna arrived before 10pm to Alabama and Shane. Hope they got a good night sleep. When they wake up they will head this way, which is a normal 5-6hr drive, so I expect it to take them a little longer as they'll need to stop for puppy pee time (and Anna stretch her legs time hopefully!!)

In other news (OH yes! YAY! I HAVE OTHER NEWS besides Anna/Shane drama!) I got an email last night for my financial aid award! yay. Knew I'd get pell lol but needed the letter. So now that I have it, I tried to go to DECAL to update my application, but I can't see a spot for "renewal" so I just started a new application (the email I sent/recieved back in May said to do my application no sooner than 60 days and school starts in Aug, so I THOUGHT I was within that range now) BUT - the website online application won't let me choose FALL semester, only SUMMER right now sigh SO I filled out everything BUT that, printed off my 3 most recent pay stubs (they only want two but as the one in the middle has my BONUS retention pay on it, I wanted them to see my NORMAL monthly amount anyway so I chose three months...I will see if I can upload 3m or not.) and now I need to find my schedule/grades that I printed back in May so when I can choose FALL semseter I can finish that and upload it. AND I need to go to Mercer and try and talk to someone in Financial Aid because its showing I get a 4k work study amount? But I don't do work study? Unless me working at my job counts for that? ALSO because I need to get them to fix whatever happened last year so that my LOAN amount gets lowered instead of them sending me the DECAL funds like they did spring semester. Not that I minded or would mind this semester honestly to get the extra funds, but I really don't want to have a larger amount of student loans either which way do I decide LOL AND I have to figure out how to get a parking decal and I guess that will just go on the mazda and I'll have to take it even if I get another car because I don't want to pay for more parking decals but I guess I could change my mind on that later depending on the cost.

Oh and I guess its kind of weird to fill it all out like this right now because in August I'll be getting bi-monthly paychecks not monthly, but right now its still monthly - not that I think that will make a difference other than paycheck stubs :P - oh but also I should get a small raise, if not the 2500 one supposedly agreed to for "all government employees" by the govenor? (starting in Aug or Sept) I am NEVER sure if I am getting those, as I work at a public school but PreK is funded by the lottery and DECAL deals with PreK stuff? So I never know. So my "pay" amount may be off as well but I know its STILL low enough to qualify so it doesn't really matter I guess - just one of those things I wonder about. BUT as of RIGHT NOW when I am trying to do the application everything on it is correct to my knowledge! :P

Hey Ladies :) hey how you doing? :)

Glad Anna arrived safely at Shanes Gosh Kat you have so much going on right now your life is definitely like a soap opera especially with Anna picking up sticks and coming to live with you and now Shane just quitting his job how are they gonna pay you rent and buy stuff for the baby and puppy with no jobs and now Shane not speaking to Ryan that's gonna cause friction and even more stress for you. Phew you have your work cut out for you :P not to mention work and college. hugs i'm sure it will all work itself out

Hi chelle and yep. DRAMA house here. I am hoping once they get here and he actually gets back into a job things will settle down (well as much as they can with a newborn in the house)

I think have talked to Ryan more in the past week than I have practically the past almost year since we've been finally divorced. :P Today Ryan at least did have one half-way decent idea (IF Shane gets and keeps a job) - I have my other car down at my brothers, its almost fixed. I was going to get Eric to sell it for me so I could get a smaller car - Ryan said to get that car back and put it on insurance after Shane gets a paycheck so that Shane and Anna can pay the insurance on it and have a vehicle to drive. May not be what they want, but its better than HER car (which is in Texas ANYWAY!!!) I mean, at least its a car I already own. AND I know after my brother fixing it, it will run good too. Because Anna will need to be able to go to dr apts and stuff, and take/get Shane from work on weekends (OTR) or daily depending on what job he gets. Or if he freaking ends up at McDonalds he can take himself because he CANNOT STAY HERE W/O A JOB!!!

851 am Shane just called to tell me they are leaving, and I guess I was wrong before, he says its about a 4hr trip from there to here. So thats good at least. A little less drive time.

OMG Kat that's all insane.

Also, I'd check the websites for the urgent care and walk-ins, none of the ones around here will take anyone who's more than 7 months pregnant.

YES IT IS INSANE!!! and Oh really? (about the walk in clinics there) Thats interesting and I guess something we'll have to find out. Whyever not tho, because you're just checking on them, not delivering the baby so thats silly to me to not take pregnant ladies. What if that is your only option for a doctor? You just go to the ER instead even tho its not an emergency? Weird. I mean, honestly most pregnant ladies probably DO NOT MOVE in their last month of pregnancy or have a plan in place BEFORE doing so...but surely its come up before THIS TIME!

I need to do dishes, probaby need to vaccum the floor again (Belle is shedding like crazy and doesn't like to be brushed too much, I am so tempted to go blow her with the shop vac but she hates vacuum noises too, so I don't know that she would let me) I need to clean up the dog pen and I have the stuff to redo it (new fake turf/grass carpeting and some mulch to put under it to level out the ground some) and wanted to do that before they brought Daisy so I guess its gotta get done today. (hoping that new turf plus mulch will help reduce the "marking" smell of dog pee/poop from my dogs and help the two of them get comfortable as they'll smell each other's stuff at the same time on the new turf- if that makes any sense? LOL NO IDEA but it was a random thought of mine and I wanted to redo the turf anyway).

And I have a few more small things to remove from the two rooms. Like Nathan has some candles and junk on the shelf that is still in the baby room and there are some random items plus sodas and waters in Shanes room that need to be moved out.

[Edit] 2pm Well they've arrived, unloaded and are arranging the things that she brought. The dogs have greeted (and puppy peed on floor) And they are discussing extending the rental on the truck and going back to pack up everything else they can fit in it.... One hand, good idea...other hand...stress me out with her travelling. If they go back Nathan will go too to help pack up so she doesn't have to do too much.

Maybe Nathan and Shane should go and Anna can stay and help move in here? Though ofc you can't say anything so who knows LOL.

Good luck with everything new here, kat!

And yeah, they won't see you (unless it's for a cold or something) because at that point, if something is wrong, they can't do anything except be held liable, is what I heard from my friend who's a nurse at one.

Hi ladies! Been so busy with work that I haven't stopped by forums as much!

I heard about Non-24 from commercials. That really must've been hard to adjust to at first, not having a definitive time to go to sleep.

Wow I hope Shane and mama-to-be have a smooth adjustment to a different state! And that you can get peace and quiet before the baby comes, because I know babies are hunnggryyy!

Oh that's interesting to know! Not that I'd be pregnant (I can't imagine the pain in having kids, so kudos to all of you for being mamas!)

Glad your VBS went well Mieke! Ours comes the week of the 7th of July.

She wants to go because they're planning to sell her jeep and it's in her name ... I'd rather she stayed too but then they'd have to find a way to haul the jeep here too ... And yeahhhhhh I did say I was worried about her going back and forth but then she said that about her jeep so I just shut my mouth about it

Shane will be fine I think. He grew up here lol so I hope Anna adjusts well. And Beth, baby is due July 14th so I don't think there will be much peace or quiet in my house anymore 😝

And to think that my drama today was that my son decided to pull all our pods for the wifi out of the wall to reboot them. His Switch was getting an intermittent signal so he took down the holw house's wifi. Hubbby was about to kill him. facepalm

Hi, Chelle - how have you been?

:P just cause I can

Whatevermaycome - did have a problem with it but now I just go to sleep when I'm tired. No fuss or medication needed. ;)How have you been? :D

and Kat - Good luck with everything. I'm glad they're safe there now but don't think it's wise for her to go back out at this stage of pregnancy. But she's an adult, she can make her own decisions. It's just good that you're there to help catch her when she makes a bad one. :) I don't know anything about financial aid. When I was in school my hubby figured it all out. The only thing good about federal financial aid? If you go blind then your debt is forgiven. That's about all I know about it. I wish I could help you with it but I'll probably send you the wrong way. XD

Oh no. He didn't tell y'all he was doing it??? Bad bad son. Needs to talk first then take down wifi !!!

My main fear is she ends up going into labor during one of the trips there or back and gives birth in some random hospital away from everyone!!! I am a think about the worst case scenario type of person. So i can prepare for it.

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Kat, I suppose that makes sense! But if she has a car, why not bring it down and drive that, instead of yours? Unless it doesn't run well...

Morning ladies! Busy busy busy, as always, it seems like. Supposed to be a lazy, laid back summer, but now everyone has appointments, etc etc. Today I'm just going to work, coming home, bringing Lily to work.. and maybe Alex and I will take Iz to pick out a bike for her birthday before we pick her up from work? Or we might do it Sunday, but it's going to rain Sunday...

Yep. That is it mieke. She has been having problems with it. Not sure what. I've heard overheating. I've heard new computer system installed. I've heard some chip in said system needs to be replaced ... No idea really. But she's said she's had to sit on the side of the road due to whatever issue.... Can probably be fixed but can't be driven this far. So it's sell it or tow it....and they are limited on funds as they only have what he got paid for that week of orientation. So I guess they are opting for sell it if they can. Who knows what will actually end up happening.

[Edit] BHH purchase! Yay 225pm You purchased:

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Also!!! Ryan called me (Shane did too but Ryan beat him to the punch) Shane has called, talked to and applied at the company Ryan works for, and he needs to go in and pass a drug test, and then not THIS Monday, but next Monday after the holiday they will have him in for orientation and out on a truck by that thursday. So! He has a job! Thank God. Now if he will just KEEP this one.

The only down side is that same Monday he has to be in Jackson I am working as a sub...guess Nathan will have to get up and take me then take Shane and then come pick me up lol poor boy. He hates getting up early.

Wow, I wish I could get a job that fast! Congrats on the job, Shane! One problem solved, how many left to figure out?

It's been quiet hereI'm hoping it stays that way. :D

It's quiet here today other than puppy lol Since the three "children" left around 930ish.

Truck driving jobs are actually pretty easy to get. Someone is always hiring. To be honest I think they're giving Shane a chance because Ryan has been with them for 12 yrs. They were going to try and hire him 2-3 yrs ago but he had some sort of accident (backing into a pole or something) or something else on his record and they wanted him to get more experience first I am hoping Shane will settle and STAY with this company. He has followed his dad's footsteps and wanted to be like dad forever so maybe working at the same company as dad will help him settle in. They will not be in the same division tho Ryan does a special dedicated run with tires and Shane will be in the otr dry van section. (Ryan used to be there too til he switched to home nightly then to this dedicated route which is otr again).

And yep. Million other issues to solve. One other thing down is the rent-a-center is coming to get everything but the mattress tomorrow and they'll transfer shanes account to the local rent-a-center here.

Also I wish Nathan would get a job that quickly!!!! He did talk to me the other day about how a lot of the ones he was interested in won't hire til he's 18. He talked about overnight security guard for one. Can't remember what else but there was two or three he mentioned. But he says he's put in apps at fast food restaurants as well

I think it will help his relatiohnship with his dad, also. Working together tends to do that. Good that they're not in the same division, though as being too close may cause problesms.

I didn't know Rent-A-Center did that. I mean transfer accounts between offices. Are the kids going to be at their house for R-A-C to pick up the stuff? I hope so. :) You've got this, Kat. You're handling it all like a pro! :D

Yes they should be there late tonight I just checked the stalker app (life 360) and it shows they are about halfway there

I didn't know they WOULD, but I thought they might transfer the account. So this way they can keep the mattress and bedframe and pay here. And pay LESS to them also since less items.

Oh I'm still stressed about a lot of things. But thanks. At least this quiet downtime calmed me back down lol I'm still worried about the long drive especially for Anna but also for Nathan because he's never been on that long of a trip. Nor alone with his (word deleted, I need to be nice) brother for that long either.