Survival 2020!

February 19, 2020 2:35 pm

It’s the time you’ve all been waiting for, Survival 2020! Gunner has been working hard with some Subetan businesses that wanted to sponsor strains this year for the Volunteer Infection Program.

Celebrate your love safely with the new items from L’amour Parlor!

You can purchase items from Louis by using candy hearts you receive by kissing on the forums. Use the following code in your status or on the forums.

If your tastes lean a little more underground, try visiting Skitters. He’s got some great items this year.

Don’t forget to pay your respects at the Survivor Memorial. Keep an eye out for these flowers, as they’ll either restock at Seedlings or float around the site!

You can also frag the flowers you find floating!

First year celebrating Survival? Or maybe it’s been a while and you’d just like to brush up on how the holiday works? We’ve put together a frequently asked questions thread for you. If you have any questions that aren’t covered in the first post, post and we’ll get to you as soon as we can.

Survival ends at 11:59pm on March 4th! Survival forums will close at 11:59pm on March 6th.

February 20, 2020, 6:44 pm by

February 20, 2020, 6:00 pm by

O, zombie gore is AWESOME! Roadkill gore, not so much. It's a small distinction that my brain seems to make on an arbitrary basis shrugs So I go "GYAH!" the first time I run into something that kicks me out, then just do my best to either avoid it or look at it enough times that I stop having such a bad reaction. I can't look at the graveyard terracoon but actually like the graveyard archan. Like I said, weirdly arbitrary. Bingo! your infection may be hidden under your wardrobe items. Try taking them all off?

February 20, 2020, 5:49 pm by

There are items on this site that I don’t like. So I don’t buy them. Why is this so hard for some people????

February 20, 2020, 5:48 pm by

Peeking my head in just to say again that everyone wins with a filter. underage accounts wouldn't see the mature stuff such as the kink items and gore, and adult accounts could choose if they want to or not.

February 20, 2020, 5:45 pm by

I actually really liked the gore. X'D It's a zombie holiday after all. lol Nothing is showing up for me so far. I should at least have the odd looking pot for the smoke strain on my avi, but I checked and nothing. :(

February 20, 2020, 5:44 pm by

yes, I don't like the graveyard pets myself, so I try not to look at them, hehe. Awww, I'm so glad you take care of them! I used to get this huge congregation of up to 12 half-feral cats hanging around my porch because I left food and water out there. They seemed to have things worked out pretty well and never even wanted to come inside, so I just petted them and talked to them and let them be otherwise. Where I am now, I haven't seen a stray in well over 10 years, which makes me so happy. I always leave a dish out just in case if I see a cat I don't recognize though.

February 20, 2020, 5:36 pm by

Oh also, as to cats yowling though, I used to hear a lot of stray fights when I moved here, but now that I'm constantly feeding the entire neighborhood (including this big fat raccoon and an opossum, at huge expense), I haven't heard a fight in aaaages, they're all fat and contented and happy.

Also I took in two of the strays to get them patched up at the vet, and um... that was supposed to be temporary but it's going on for over a year now, so uh yeah I guess I've got two more cats.

Anyway that should please you. Don't think of the roadkill bad stuff, think of suckers like me with five damn cats now and one more I'm taking care of outside, because I just can't take another inside I just can't I'm sorry guy I've got two rooms and five cats!! (But he's got a heated bed for winter and constant food and water and seems pretty happy with himself...)

<.<

February 20, 2020, 5:30 pm by

Oh yeah, there's a beheaded cat or something on here, I don't know and I don't want to look, and every time I see it I get flashed-back to this horrible video I saw...

But yeah, I would never ask someone to change their behavior or items on their site to coddle to ME, so I just never will understand this mentality, it's mind-boggling.

Heh, "titty."

February 20, 2020, 5:29 pm by

i think if you're done you'd stop responding to me, but i just want to make it clear i am not trying to /fight/ you. i never said sex is evil. i told you i use all these things. i am gay. i am poly. i am not some Other enemy. sex is not evil, sex is not taboo, sex is not morally wrong, sex is healthy. i also said i grew up on the internet, didnt i? i know how early kids learn things - how early they're naturally driven to learn things, and having access to that information in a safe and educational environment is good. the issue comes from when 1. what's more immediately accessible to them isn't safe and educational environments, it's adult environments, where they can instantly be pushed in over their heads when trying to find information to understand something - and where they can be exposed to adults who may or may not know they're a kid, and may or may not go too far. 2. when a corner of the internet makes itself both welcoming of children AND adult content, it tends to inadvertently become a place where people seeking... both of those... go. it's just dangerous to set the precedent, it's dangerous to have this mix, even if there's not that many kids coming here they still /can/ and /will/, and we can't just write that and the potential harm it could do off as okay.

February 20, 2020, 5:26 pm by

you rock, hehe. And I'm right there with you on the gore. Dead animals specifically. I lived in an area with a high stray population and every time I saw a dead cat on the road I'd just be a mess for hours. I still can't handle the sound of cats yowling at each other.

February 20, 2020, 5:21 pm by

This comment section gets wilder every time I come back. I've run out of popcorn but really if y'all are so damn offended by the items just. Don't buy em. It's not like this is the beginning on Subeta releasing a hoard of sexually deviant (these aren't even) items and CoRrUpTiNg ThE yOuTh. Y'all there's a pet that's just straight up road kill. The graveyard terracoon. If you're okay with the gore that's been around forever... (thinking emoji) Why would the sexual things be the big deal? Anecdotal, but as a kid, gore really messed me up more than seeing a titty, a penis!, or lube in a grocery store did!

ANYWAY. ALL THIS BECAUSE I WANTED TO RESPOND TO.. I never got a notification, however my avatar is progressing!

February 20, 2020, 5:20 pm by

again, thank you! Yes, YES! We are all responsible for our own happiness and safety. If you have a child, you are responsible for theirs. No one else. Use your brain already! Done. SO done.

February 20, 2020, 5:17 pm by

People are all caught up on defining what sex is, and how someone might feel uncomfortable, and whether or not kink means sex, and it's all quite clever-sounding and well thought-out and UTTERLY IRRELEVANT because every individual in the world does NOT have a responsibility to go around being careful not to trigger absolutely everyone.

We're all riddled with triggers, it's impossible.

Core issue is: Do you think everyone should be kept safe from everything?

Our side says no, of course not, and the insane side says yes, censor everything! Ban items, ban words, ban people!

That'll fix the world, and trauma! :D

February 20, 2020, 5:13 pm by

lol

February 20, 2020, 5:12 pm by

THANK. YOU! Ugh, this is ridiculous!

February 20, 2020, 5:10 pm by

Hey, no need to prude shame. That's uncalled for.

February 20, 2020, 5:08 pm by

I said I had absolutely no problem hearing/seeing OTHER people. My TMI factor on the other end is reserved to my close friends, we've already established I'm a responsible kinkster that knows very much what consent is. Now you're just starting to annoy me.

February 20, 2020, 5:04 pm by

And all those long-winded reasons still don't explain why you think ALL OF SOCIETY has a duty to protect the children of other people, and to be parents to strangers.

February 20, 2020, 5:03 pm by

Is anyone one else not getting their zombie strain? I picked mine yesterday, and still haven't gotten a confirmation of well starting the transformation.

February 20, 2020, 5:01 pm by

It is very annoying how people look at poly.

Here's the thing with the TMI factor, there's several things that go into it.

sex brings up a lot of emotions that go very deep and are just not something a lot of people want to share with someone they're not emotionally intimate with, because they feel vulnerable exposing that part of themselves.
anything involving a partner means that talking about it is talking about that other person/s to people they may not want their private life shared with.
people who have been traumatised sexually are sometimes uncomfortable with the topic and equally uncomfortable having to explain why they'd rather not discuss it;
due to religious and cultural issues, many people are brought up to believe that these topics are taboo and morally dangerous, and those feelings don't necessarily immediately vanish even if you decide that the way you were raised is BS.
people who do have religious and cultural beliefs that mandate sex should be private and/or reserved for marriage, even if they are not assholes who try to force those beliefs onto other people or get them written into the law, are uncomfortable with the discussion because if they admit to not wanting to discuss it for religious reasons, people will give them crap for it.

February 20, 2020, 4:53 pm by

You're comparing taking your younger brother to an R-rated movie (supposed to be for ages 17+) that had anal rape with a 13+ site that has some costumes in it?

Um.

February 20, 2020, 4:33 pm by

How in the hell do you have an Ace pin drowning in a sea of hardcore sex gear??? I am absolutely nauseated just going over there, and I kind of feel betrayed.

To anyone who thinks I'm overreacting. I'm NOT sorry. This is my sanctuary away from the people who made my life hell because I am not like everyone else.

I do not find this cute or amusing.

February 20, 2020, 4:12 pm by

Sooooo since the fourms are down imma just drop this here :3

I kisss back anyone who kisses me

February 20, 2020, 4:08 pm by

no problem :) Oh! Yes, I get what you're saying now! Just call me a total derp, I hadn't even thought of stuff like that. Probably because I managed to avoid it until I was already well into the lifestyle and knew enough to shift through the nonsense. Actually I wouldn't mind at all hearing about people's sex lives, but I know that's just me, lol. I have no TMI factor whatsoever. It's so annoying how people look at poly sideways, isn't it?

February 20, 2020, 3:59 pm by

the fetish gear items are inappropriate for a 13+ site. if staff desires to keep these items and intends to create similar official items in the future, they should make subeta 18+. if they do not want to change the rating of the site, they should remove the items. this is not about "kinkshaming" (kinksters are not oppressed), this is about keeping the site safe for 13 year olds. feel free to talk kink in the appropriate forums, but the main site should not include those themes. there is a difference between underwear and lingerie wearables and hardcore fetish gear.

February 20, 2020, 3:59 pm by

because the forums are down: mwah i'll kiss back who kisses me!

February 20, 2020, 3:59 pm by

I'm pretty sure I will never be able to do all the kiss them bacsk in my side bar because I never know if one actually went through.

February 20, 2020, 3:58 pm by

Thanks for understanding about my bro.

I know non-consensual violence doesn't have anything to do with kink as practised IRL, but a lot of kink erotica does cross that line. I've read The Story of O and the Sleeping Beauty stuff, and there's a lot of nonconsent in those stories. And he could just as easily have run into something like that somewhere and asked me about it (though at least it wouldn't have been my fault for being a dumbass 18 and not finding out why the rating was higher). That's why people are concerned about 13 year olds seeing what's in the Parlor. Not that the items themselves will scar someone for life, but the thing where someone might go from there and fall down into a rabbit hole of the internet where something really upsetting lives, and not have a big sister with them who is old enough to be comforting and calm enough to not freak out so bad that it is now all about them like our mom would have done.

And there is no reason you can't have a picture of you and your partners together, or say that you all went to a party together! Poly isn't always accepted, but it should be. I'm poly too, and I hate it that people are weird when I'm dating more than one person.

The problem with explicitly saying that you went to a play party, or using a picture of all your partners in gear, is that that crosses the line from "these are my partners" and "my partners and I went out to a party together" and into discussing what you do sexually. Do you want to know what your vanilla co-workers (who may not all be vanilla) do in bed?

If Jace says "I took my girlfriend to the football game," and Mary says, "My wife and I saw the new Star Wars movie," and Lisa says "My husband and his boyfriend and I took the kids to Disneyland" that should be okay.

But you don't want to say "I took my husband and girlfriend to a kink play party" unless you are all good enough friends and comfortable enough with sexual discussions that Sally, who is a swinger but otherwise totally vanilla, feels comfortable saying that she took her wife to a swing party, and Megan feels comfortable telling you all that she filled up Jonathan's bed with rose petals and played his favourite song to get him in the mood.

Otherwise you are shocking people not because you like kink, but because they were making small talk about what they did over the weekend, and you made a sexual disclosure.

February 20, 2020, 3:50 pm by

- As long as the cake/candy isn't spaghetti flavoured! (inb4 - that is Febuary's CS challenger. Like the frost monster from december, now we get the frosting monster)

February 20, 2020, 3:45 pm by

THANK YOU!

February 20, 2020, 3:45 pm by

I'll be back later to return kisses, hopefully all will be well then. >3<

February 20, 2020, 3:44 pm by

but I do agree that those scared-traumatized caused questions totally suck. I think everyone has had at least one incident like that in their life unfortunately. If a person hasn't, they have nerves of steel or are darn lucky.

February 20, 2020, 3:43 pm by

I am more partial to deadly sweet. Although we did have that frosting zombie skin

Maybe we can have a candy monster skin. Like leftover vday chocolates and sugar hearts

February 20, 2020, 3:43 pm by

We're really just comparing static, cartoony puppy masks to a horror movie with graphic, brutal, full-on sexual assault, huh.

February 20, 2020, 3:40 pm by

non-consensual violence has nothing to do with kink. Everything is consensual, it's the pillar of the kink community. Kinksters won't "scare the vanillas" and just put ourselves out on parade, which is why these items are great! And I'd love to be able to say things like "The play party last night was great!" and just leave it there. Not hide who I am. But vanilla don't want to hear it that I hang out with fellow kinksters, so I don't say anything. I don't get to have pictures of my boyfriend, girlfriend, and play partners together hanging up.

February 20, 2020, 3:40 pm by

Anyone else just feel so nauseous about the blatant disregard for the well being of children that some folks are displaying. It's very upsetting lol

February 20, 2020, 3:40 pm by

Anyone else just feel so nauseous about the blatant disregard for the well being of children that some folks are displaying. It's very upsetting lol

February 20, 2020, 3:39 pm by

Anyone else just feel so nauseous about the blatant disregard for the well being of children that some folks are displaying. It's very upsetting lol

February 20, 2020, 3:39 pm by

Quote by Chocolate

Get out. That is innapropriate. That kind of talk is creating a potentially dangerous situation.

THE PEOPLE WILL KNOW THE TRUTH CHOCOLATE!!! YOU CANNOT STOP IT!!! ARM YOURSELVES WITH KNOWLEDGE!!!! IT'S SPAGHETTI CAAAAAAAKE!

February 20, 2020, 3:38 pm by

Links work for me! You can test mine :)

[Kiss=kirby]

February 20, 2020, 3:33 pm by

Please & Thank You!

February 20, 2020, 3:32 pm by

Guess what, ignorance is not bliss. Sex is not evil and you highly underestimate how early people learn things. I'm done

February 20, 2020, 3:29 pm by

Soooo... Sweety Dead as an official colour when??

February 20, 2020, 3:22 pm by

Quote by 13thmaiden

And is Lasagna just spaghetti flavored noodle cake?

Get out. That is innapropriate. That kind of talk is creating a potentially dangerous situation.

February 20, 2020, 3:21 pm by

When a person comes up with a question on their own, they are usually old enough for the answer. But sometimes people ask questions because they are traumatised by something that they shouldn't have seen that frightened them.

When I was a college kid in the 80s, my brother, who was 13, and I really loved the Omen movies. When the 3rd one came out, it was rated R, and my parents refused to take him. So I waited until I was home and I took him.

Turns out there was a sadistic anal sex scene in the movie and I will never forget his wide-eyed stare or the tone of voice in which he asked me to explain what was happening.

Admittedly, he survived. Admittedly, he was better off with the explanation I gave him than he would've been with how either of our parents would've reacted.

But he still wasn't ready for that content, and I regretted that I put him in that position and I still do. I just thought we were going to see another movie like the first two.

That is what people mean by encouraging kids to ask questions they aren't ready for the answers to. 13 year olds are not all emotionally prepared for kinky shit.

Also when you say you are kinky all the time just like I am queer all the time, you are missing the point of "all the time". Queer people mean that that they want to be able to post family pictures on their desks and be able to mention their spouses or significant others without having negativity come their way because of the same gender relationship.

If 3 married people are talking about what they and their spouses did for the weekend, it should be okay for me to share what I did with someone I am dating regardless of the genders. However, I feel like you might want people to be okay with hearing, "went to a football game," "saw the new Star Wars movie," "took the kids to Disneyland" with "went to the dungeon and xxx" and the thing about that is that none of the other responses are about personal intimacy that nobody else in the conversation wanted to share with the others.

February 20, 2020, 3:20 pm by

I have no idea whether my sidebar kisses are going through because it just lags on 'kissing...' and the box never pops up.

February 20, 2020, 3:15 pm by

I gots fish eggs on my head! lol

February 20, 2020, 3:13 pm by

And is Lasagna just spaghetti flavored noodle cake?

February 20, 2020, 3:12 pm by

I hope forums are fixed sooon!

February 20, 2020, 3:09 pm by

Yea, that's what I was trying but then the site fell down. For a few lovely seconds the wardrobe was super fast though lol. With all the site issues and the drawn out back and forth of opinions and educatin' in here making it difficult to find and keep up with helpful messages and kissies..I'm gonna go play ESO. Hopefully the forums will be back today.

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