Yeah, it is crazy. And yes being know as instead of yourselves is awful. Those other people take up all the space and attention for them.

My husband's great aunt passed away and we all adored her. She was wonderful. We were all spending time with her and doing things with her forever. It was just a thing. I got to take her to the library until she couldn't go anymore and then I took her books to turn in and picked up more for her to read. My Mother-in-Law and Husband took her shopping until covid then they started just picking them up for her. One aunt had a spread sheet and people would call dibs on taking her to lunch or bringing one over, same for dinner. And just dropping bys. Making sure she didn't know and it wasn't planned or on a regular schedule. She donated her body to a local medical school. Then she will be cremated and the ashes will be returned to the family. It costs nothing and helps medical students train. Her going away party was lovely, calm and educational. She had a couple people help her put together a family history that went back several generations and other countries and everyone had to gather had lunch and watch it. It was warm and wonderful. I swear I married my husband partially for his sane and lovely family.

These people are so ridiculous. And yet they act like they are the perfect ones. It is so disturbing and hurtful. (((hug))) One of my sisters always became the best friend of anyone that might be dying. Now previously she may not have given them much attention or her attention was when she needed something from them. Of course when they passed away she would try (and sometimes succeed) to sit with the family up front. She would toss herself across the casket, screaming and crying and raising her fist in the air at god for taking this precious person too soon. Then after the service and food she would make an announcement that she was have a private service for them and their closest ones on this date at this place and it would be more to their liking and personality and truly send them to heaven supported and loved. SIGH!

You did the best thing you could do. What a situation. ((hugs)) The unexpected loss is harder in many ways. I have a sister that has my phone number and address but, continues to message me on facebook instead. Actually she just posts on my facebook page if someone dies. UGH!

ah if you need anything in the shop I have plenty of coins. Just let me know. ((hugs)) I cannot imagine how you feel. Hope you find some peace.

You are such a sweetie! Thank You!