I don’t know that it’s considered feedback about the site, per se, but I would DEFINITELY like Charity and Red Rreign to be less handsy. ESPECIALLY Charity omg.

I realize how dramatic this sounds, but she literally did the “I think I’ll grab you really closely now; you don’t mind, do you? (only without the question)” thing, like five or six times in a row … and I twitched, repeatedly, and haven’t been back.

In all seriousness, maybe consider making the hugs have an accept-reject button? I know I can’t possibly be the only touch-averse person in here, and it may not seem like much, but think about it? Please? I know you guys have been very sensitive to real world effects and representation, so yeah. I’d really appreciate you guys thinking about this, please.

I did not think I got immersed in this site (or any of them, ftm), at all, but several of the unsolicited grabs in a row, followed by also unsolicited lizard kisses, and yeah. I made my way over here to whinge, lol.

I know the interactions and dialogue have been that way since their start, and it didn’t bother me enough to say anything before, but an entire year of surgery/chemo/brachy radiation and the attendant peripherals and now I’d apparently like even the pixel ppl to step back plz. 🔪🔪🔪

Thanks for your time.

[edit]Wow.

I still support a change in this. I don't have to understand it entirely to get that it would be helpful to others.

I don't really enjoy this aspect of Charity either. Can't she just say thanks? lol

What really bugs me about her, though, is how she's blowing all over a bowl of soup that she's presumably serving to someone else. And the way her long, incompletely-tied hair almost dangles into it. How many stringy purple hairs do people find in their soup? 😬

I've always joked about it only because I find that type of character highly annoying, even though, yes, she's not real. I wouldn't mind a thank you or maybe once in awhile offer a high five. I don't care how much you just have to hug someone, mind personal spaces. Drills, stop sending me over to give her food. As it is, I now picture myself throwing the food straight at her head lol I blame that on Drills.

As for the Rreign I'll admit I've never really paid much attention to that so I've never really registered it. Usually am just reloading the give page so fast until what ever item I'm giving is gone.

yall are reading the text on those pages? man i just let my eyes blur and mindlessly refresh.

[Edit] . . . Hmm OK then. Please forget I said anything.

I get it because, while I can blur my eyes and not read Charity's text like Frenchi said, the kissing during the survival holiday makes me generally averse to participating in forums haha. It's kinda gross. I'd rather be bitten then kissed by every single stranger?! Or kiss the same memorial statue that everyone else is kissing?!

Since I can only relate on the level of being touch-averse to unsettling people, would her saying something like "Is it ok if I do that?" in reference to her urge to hug be a more palatable response instead? (You're free to tell her No then) It's an idea, but I'm not sure if it's a good one, so I wouldn't mind some feedback on that.

My personal background on this is that I respect the touch-averse, but I also respect the "touch-affectioned" if that coined term makes sense, lol. Like I gladly wouldn't touch someone who doesn't like touch, but for someone that does, I'm fine with accepting it from them(unless they set off my alarm bells, as an anxious person). I've given air-hugs first to people I haven't been sure about. I don't have an opinion on the Kissing matter since the virtual aspect of it is enough separation from the real thing for me to not be bothered, though naturally I am opposed to stranger kisses IRL.

So I personally think Charity's hug-giving is cute as she seems like a well-meaning person, so I'd feel bad taking that element away, so the above is the best compromise I could come up with on the fly. I'm open to kind criticism on that.

How about if her text was changed to something like "Thank you so much! Can I give you a hug to show my appreciation?" or something like that, but didn't actually require a response from the player? I think adding an actual yes/no interaction for this is really unnecessary and overcomplicates the whole thing but at least if she framed it as a request, that implies she'd respect your answer if this was a real interaction. You can just headcanon the rest of the conversation where you offer a high-five instead or whatever, but nothing in the text suggests anything is being forced on you that way.

I like your text change suggestion a lot!

Thank you! I meant to give credit to , I was building off of their suggestion. But importantly, I think adding a yes/no dialog option is just way too much here lol, the solution should avoid that.

Yeah, that was what I had in mind as well, sorry if I didn't make that clear enough in my post, also that a dialog prompt would be too much extra programming.

Oh, I was mainly referring to the suggestion for a response button in the OP. I don't want to deal with having to manually accept or reject all those hugs when trying to turn stuff in either. Not to mention, if I had to keep explicitly rejecting her, that's just gonna make me feel bad lol. She's a sweet character, I'm just very selective about who touches me. I probably take virtual interactions more seriously than most people so I do empathize with OP and other touch-averse users.

My apologies for misinterpreting your post. EDIT: I re-read your post and I'm actually not sure if you think I misinterpreted your post actually. I was in agreement that an extra dialogue response prompt would be too much of an extra step, and that an open-ended "Is this ok with you?" question on Charity's part might make it a non-interactive but consensual thing instead of an unsolicited-touch implication as it currently is. Sorry, did I miss something here? I am confused easily sometimes.

Lol I think we just both agree. Your post inspired my idea for what her text could say but I wasn't really commenting on anything else in your post, but rather on the subject of the thread in general. I guess I wasn't really sure about your stance on further interaction but I wanted to make my opinion on it clear. I just mentioned your post because you suggested before I did that she ask instead of just going for the hug. So you get the credit for that idea. I'm sorry for any misunderstanding too.

While I do like the idea of changing Charity's dialogue so that it's more of a request, you'd also have to do something similar with Tempest's visits as well.

I don't agree with changing any of this. You're not getting a hug or kiss irl. o_O

You know, it's really not a big deal to me personally if it gets changed or not. But if making a slight alteration to the text, which should take like a minute for a staff member to do, improves the user experience for some people, I don't see a reason not to do it. If you really just don't care about this, it shouldn't bother you if Charity offers you a hug rather than immediately giving you one.

As for Tempest, I don't remember the exact wording of the event, but I know you have to click on the random event to visit Tempest. So you already have the option to consent or not.

I think we have to be mindful of over-simplifying NPCs and their personalities to attend to the needs of a few.

Appreciate if you are sensitive to this, so perhaps be proactive and consider running some kind of blocker on that page? One that removes the words/phrases that you don't like? I'm poor at explaining myself on this, but have seen anecdotally people hide particular item images or phrases that they don't like, so sure you could apply something like this for the affected pages?

This sounds like a non-issue to me. NPCs do not really touch you at all. They are giving "symbolic" and "virtual" hugs. If any of you have a problem with that, you should quickly see your analyst to find out why you are emotionally bothered by a non-existent character is hugging you.