LDR-long distance relationship

In terms of length of time they were doing long distance before they either broke up or moved in together? AND in terms of distance?

+rant: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. But before then, we were just friends for 3 years. Now that we're graduating college, he's going to med school in and I'm going to grad school 350+ miles away. I know many people have said to set time goals and know how long you'd be apart before coming back together. Unfortunately it's not something we really know, because I plan on applying to med school after my grad school program. There's just a lot of uncertainty in the future where we could be apart for 2 years... or 6+ years. So I just wanted to know if any of you know anyone who has been in LDRs for extended periods of time??

My boyfriend and I were LDR for the first 2 years of our relationship (been together almost 4 years now). Granted we only lived 2 hours/105 miles away from each other during that time, but I still consider it an achievement (we live together now, and honestly spending so long apart REALLY made us appreciate the fact that we see each other every day now).

I know a girl from college and she studied abroad in England and met her boyfriend there. They have been together for 2 years and mostly contact through Skype and Facebook, and an extended visits during spring/summer breaks. So it is possible! You just really need to work at it!

Well I just know from my experience mine only lasted about 7 Months. But I messed up and caused it to end x.x

Its very manageable in my opinion. Brings you closer together being so far away. There is always skype and phone calls. And the once in a while visits will be amazing im sure ! <3

In my early 20's I dated a guy for 2 years who lived nearly 20.000 kms (that's 12.000 miles) away. So quite literally half a world apart. Though we did eventually meet in person and spent some time together, we later ended things amicably and it didn't really have much to do with the distance.

One of the branches of government I've worked for was Immigration. I've seen plenty of case files where married couples had been separated by continents for years, sometimes even raising children apart, with only us being able to determine if or when that would come to an end for them. It is possible to make that kind of relationship work, but don't be fooled, it's extremely difficult. It wasn't unusual for applications to get withdrawn due to divorce.

Personally, however? Unless there was already an established serious commitment (marriage) I wouldn't consider entering an LDR that would last longer than we had been together prior to the separation, and I would only consider it if it were an entirely unavoidable situation. That being said, I also wouldn't enter a relationship that started off with distance (ie, online), or get involved with anyone in the military. Being close to the person I'm romantically involved with is extremely important to me. Nothing against those who choose differently - I just know I personally couldn't do it.

- I'm in one right now. I live in northern Wisconsin, and he lives in California (Bay Area) so that's um a thousand miles or something, more ? idk. It takes a day to go see him because of how remote I am and lack of decent travel options. . We've had a very complicated thing for a few years, but now are in an actual relationship with exclusivity and all that and it's nice. It's been almost a year since the official bit became the official bit, and it'll be like this for the foreseeable future. I get to see him in person once or twice a year, I send him letters, and we talk as often as he can (He is in a very stressful situation with his work, freelance code/website development). but, he likes me, and he makes time when he can, so it's fine. I knew it would be like this when we decided to change things to official status, so I don't complain. I mean yea it's a drag, and there's days when I'd love to have him near, but, my life has been built on waiting, so I'm incredibly patient.

You just got to be realistic. Can you handle being apart for extended periods ? Is there communication ? Is there trust ? I trust mine implicitly, and he trusts me. That takes a HUGE burden from both our shoulders. Do what you can, and be there for each other as you can be. Handwritten letters go a long way, too. Plus, you can work on them for days until it's full enough to send..... or you realize it's now three pages, front and back, and you'd best send it as is, cough cough me. :D Texting is nice, even random pics from your day are a fun idea. I actually sent him one today, bundled up to the eyes with nothing visible but my glasses.... and my large I VOTED TODAY sticker stuck to the middle of my hunting flap hat because it's sleeting and snowing here. And it's cool :D

I like him. A lot.

I've been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for six years now, both of us faithful. I'm in Alaska and she's in Alberta. The only reason we're still not together in the same place hinges on financial reasons that we hope to shake out soon.

It can work if you want it to work. Long visits in the meantime help a lot.

My fiance and I have known each other for six years this year. We met playing Black Ops back in 2010. At first it was just innocent, playful flirting and friendly talking. We stopped talking for a while, and eventually started talking again and we got closer and closer as we started talking more. Back in 2013 he went to jail for 10 months, and then in June of 2014 I moved to Michigan from Alaska (after he talked me into it), and now we have been together for two years and have been engaged for most of that time. Lol.

Definitely my favorite relationship so far. It's always a fun story to tell people. Most every time I tell someone how we met, they're like, "Wow, that's awesome", or "wow, really? That's crazy!" The reactions are fun to see. I wouldn't trade him for anything or anyone in the world. <3

I was in a LDR for about 2 years with this guy who lived about an hour away from me. It was nice but we never really saw each other (he doesn't drive and I hated driving all the way there), and when we did see each other, he didn't want to do anything. I think like over the two years we dated, we only went on 3 dates. Personally I just can't deal with LDRs, I hate being far away from a person I love :c

I'm currently in one and it'll be four years in August (I think is better at this) and it's hard. She's in Washington and I'm in New Mexico and we can't visit each other because of financial reasons and then my mom on top of that.

It's been going good though and I've been so happy and more content and myself.

Three-year anniversary come August ; u; (I'm apparently as bad as you are with this cause it literally took me like 15 minutes to wrap my head around how the fack time and space works when applied to calendars and years orz I hate when I just wake up)

Once I find a job and make more money, I'm definitely taking a trip down to New Mexico to see because goddamn it I will see her in person or I will rain hell upon this mortal world.

the longest ongoing LDR i know is mine. my boyfriend lives in denmark. i've had LDR's as close as five hours away (which is still a long way away) and had a brief fling in america, too, but that lasted like 2 days because of timezones. blergh. patience is definitely the key, though, and if it wasnt for skype i think my heart would be very mushed up. anders is lovely and i wouldnt trade him for anyone, and we'll hopefully close the gap soon. i met in on world of warcraft - nerdery at it's finest - and we've been friends for four years before moving on. i think i'm closing in on two or three years now (including the short time we were apart, but that was my fault lmao it was hell)

I have been in a LDR for a year and a half, and although sometimes it's hard (because I miss hugs and cuddles) I wouldn't not have my boyfriend in my life. <3

My best friend has been in a LDR for six years -- it's hopefully coming to an end soon once she gets a fiancee visa and moves to England.

They definitely take a lot of work, and a LOT of communication. I think it also depends on the people - not everyone is cut out for LDRs and there's no shame in that.

I'm probably a bit late to the party, but the longest LDR I know of is/was my own! I've been dating my boyfriend for seven and a half years, with five of those being separated. He and I now live in Perth, and I originally lived a few hours away from Sydney.

Honestly, though, LDR's are something I wouldn't wish upon my own worst enemy. While mine with my boyfriend worked, it was a lot of effort on both our parts and it was an extremely bumpy ride. We're both really happy now, though -- obviously!

honestly how well you can deal with a LDR depends on what kind of person you are and how strong your relationship is. distance won't destroy a truly strong relationship but it can put a tremendous strain on it. i wouldn't bother with an LDR unless you can clearly see yourself eventually settling down with the other person and closing the distance, otherwise there's really no point