Will you leave your country and say goodbye to family, friends, job and even your studies for your partner?

I had to do it, my boyfriend got a job in Nice, France last year. And well it was not that easy.. I had a wonderful job in Apple Store, I was in a middle of M1 in my studies, and I had to say goodbye to a lot of friends, and of course my family and my dogs..

And now a year after, I visited my parents, and everything is so difficult again, I'm leaving on Sunday, and to say goodbye again is so scary and makes me sad..

And also, a lot of friends left me, and I understand, but it's pissing me off, I mean, only because I'm too far you left me? I'm not good enough anymore??

I love my boyfriend, soon we will even marry, because we can marry in France.. but sometimes I wish we could just come back to my country and live there.. but then I think that it's not fair for him, because my country is not his too.. we are international couple from different countries and from different continents..

But, there are good things of course, France is wonderful and I visited many cities, and I live next to the border with Monaco and Italy so I'm visiting there too.. the food is amazing, and it's kinda perfect..

Well, maybe our next destination is Brazil.. scary!

So, tell me your feeling about my question, will you be brave enough to do this step?? share please :)

I wouldn't. Not because of the country I live in, that I would switch for certain others and never look back I guess, it's my family that is just too important to me to ever leave. I need them around me so I'm going to stay here, end of story. :)

I would. I don't have much family around, just my parents, although I am very close with them. Scattered aunts/uncles/cousins/etc. around that I don't really know all that well. I would have to find a way to bring my cats, because there's no way I could leave them.

I once did something I consider to be quite similar; I moved from one side of Canada to the other. While there was no culture shock of having to move to another country, Canada itself is rather large; I was over 3000km away from all of my friends and family, in a small nowhere town where the only person I knew was my now ex-fiance.

I was absolutely miserable, and I grew to resent him for inadvertently putting me in a position where I had to choose between our relationship or my home/family/friends (it wasn't his choice; his folks retired there and initially he had to go with). Even after we returned to our hometown a year later (without his folks), the damage was done and despite years of effort trying to fix it, our relationship never recovered (there were other factors, but it was a major catalyst).

After that experience, I vowed I would never make that mistake again. I know now I am far too rooted in my city to ever consider leaving it. Some may see this as selfish, but my major deciding factor is for the sake of the relationship. I know that if I were to live anywhere else I would be just as miserable all over again; it would hurt the relationship and history would likely repeat itself. I knew I needed to find someone just as rooted here as I am to avoid having an otherwise great relationship fall apart. It's about finding someone who wants the same things as you. That's why I was always upfront about this with any new/potential partners.

Luckily I found (and married) someone amazing who has just as many ties to this city as I do; so the odds of this scenario ever coming up again are slim to none. =)

wow you really had a bad experience! hugs but I'm so happy that your story have a happy ending :)

I had some difficulties at the beginning, gladly my boyfriend is used to live abroad and far from his family, so he helped me a lot, because it's just the two of us.. We had our almost break up moments but we survived them.. Now in some sense I see France as my home.. but I'm trying not to be too attached because maybe we'll have to leave France too to another country..

And also, I always moved from city to city when I was a kid and adult, and I never had my "home".. every house was temporary, so I'm still looking for this permanent place to call home..

Yeah I think part of the reason it was so hard for me was because I was moving right from the house I grew up in (from the age of 3) to the other side of the country. It was my first time on my own, and I didn't have any family or friends around for support. This was about 10 years ago now; so while I realise moving to another city probably wouldn't be as horrible as it was for me then, I'm still not willing to risk finding out.

I'm glad to hear that your boyfriend has been a good support for you through all of this, and that moving around isn't a completely foreign concept to you like it was for me. It sounds like you're adjusting muuuch better than I imagine I ever could. =)

I would, though I'd go long distance first. I mean, especially if I was in the middle of studies. That's actually my situation now, though not the new country part. I'm finally graduating and getting fully certified so I can get a job anywhere in the country (except California) and I can finally move to where my boyfriend is. We've been thousands of miles apart for a year now. It's going to suck leaving my family, but I don't look at this move as forever. I will always be back eventually, even if it's years down the road. I love my home. But also I have been dying to get away and start something new. I need to move. There was the option of him moving to me but I'd rather be the one to relocate, I'm at a point in my life where I can and want to.

Eventually we want to leave the country together so I can get an even higher paying job in a place where university is cheaper, so he can go back to school. We're hoping for Germany, though that's even further down the road. Moral of the story, it will be hard to deal with change but we're both eager for it too, and neither of us is necessarily sacrificing. It's not just on one of us to make things work, we both want these things. So it's working really well for us.

Good to hear things are working out with your bf! I hope things keep getting better and better for you guys. :)

Ah that must be tough, particularly having to drop your studies.

I think I would do the same though. My boyfriend isn't from my country, and is only still here now because he met me. He's suffered to stay here with me, and I know he will probably want to move at some point, even if not to his home country... but I'd go with him, as long as I had a means to support myself in the new country (i.e. learn the language and get a job).

8C Not being with family is always tough. I guess it's a case of compromising when you're in a relationship. I'm originally from South Korea and my partner was born in France. We both moved to Hong Kong to study.

I would. I travel regularly and plan to live abroad eventually, I never get all that homesick and I don't feel all that connected to any particular spot. Frankly it'd be harder for me to settle down with someone in my own country, especially if they didn't want to move around.

Although I temporarily moved to Australia for a guy and that wasn't my brightest move. If someone wants to do it JUST for a partner, that relationship better be rock solid.

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Not at the current part of my life, no. Right now I'm not mentally capable of the incredible challenge it would be to leave everything behind with a partner (let alone have one). I'm studying currently, and I'm a proud bird mom. It's not really an education I would be able to take living in a much different place than mine, and leaving my birds behind or let them suffer through planerides stressing them so much they could possibly die? I would crumble already then.

I would, eventually. At first I would keep it long distance. I am still in college with scholarships that I'll lose if I leave, so I'd stay here for a couple more years and finish my degree. But once I graduate, I'd move to another country for a relationship. I do live in the same town as most of my family but I'm not very close to them and I wouldn't mind leaving at all. Also, I really want to travel and see the world. Moving to another country would give me the opportunity to do so.

My current boyfriend moved across the country (2800+ miles) to come and live with me. He was only going to visit at first but he ended up staying and he loves it here. He and I plan on moving to another country (or at least staying there for a long time) in a few years.

I would and I will. I am living in France at the moment and about to move to Australia for living with him. I got graduated in June 2014 and honestly I haven't been able to find a job after that so I've decided to move on. Now, more job offers are appearing daily on the job agency websites I check but I made my decision and I don't think I will regret it. :)

No, I wouldn't. I would leave this country (native one) because it's kind of shitty here, personal reasons, but not for a partner, it's not worth it. We could be in ldr for a while and eventually break up, but if I imagine myself in the perfect place for me, why would I leave? Not this country, but some place I'll move to someday.

I would, and I am going to because I'm not well in my own country. It won't be hard at all. All I have in here is my family and people have to learn to let go.

I would. I used to live in Pennsylvania and moved to florida. My best friends (who I've been friends with since we were children) stopped talking to me and eventually just didn't exist. Which I guess was because I couldn't actually be physically there. x.x but still...uugh. The only thing that would be hard about the move would be because of my family. I really only have my mom and siblings and we are extremely close. I'd probably try to convince them to move near me later on. lol

i agree with what said: the relationship should be rock solid for that to happen. I would also be happier to do so if they would also agree to move to another country for me. this is a sacrifice both partners should be willing to make for the sake of the other. I also agree with what said: both partners should want the same thing.

It would be hard for me to leave a stable job for love, but i currently freelance and this means i can work from anywhere i want. And i would have to be able to bring my fur babies with me.. :/ yea not leaving them behind, lol

I would leave the country if the person I was dating was destined to be with me sure, I'd make sure that my bridges wouldn't be burnt in case I had to go back to wherever.

To be honest, no. I won't even move a hundred miles for him. My boyfriend lives in a small farming town with approximately 1500 inhabitants, there isn't much to do there. You can't even reach it in the evening because there are no buses after 8 o'clock. I live in a large town with most of my friends closeby, and if I moved in with him I'd become pretty isolated (can't afford a car so public transport is all I have, at least for the moment). I suppose it does depend how social you are. I've never found it easy to make new friends and find it difficult to keep in touch with friends who have moved abroad for their study. I wouldn't want to lose contact with the friends I have now. I suppose I'm a bit of a coward though, I have a lot of respect for people who have the courage to move abroad for their partner!