Pissed at my mom.
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I'm guessing this goes here? If not, a mod can move it to the correct forum.
My mom has recently been obsessed with using her laptop, and I just found out why a few days ago.
She's pretty much cheating on my dad. They've been married for 26 years, but she's talking to this 60 year old man from Colorado, promising him she'll move there with him and all this other bullshit.
She calls him like...five times a day, and constantly talks to him online.
It pisses me off because 1) she's still married to my dad and 2) she met him through Pogo. A game site.
She won't talk to him unless I'm around. If I'm at school or work, she talks to him online. She makes me drive the car while she talks all mushy mushy to the guy.
I don't wanna say anything because I don't want to piss her off, and I'm definitely not going to say anything to my dad about it because I don't wanna be the cause of their divorce.
It's eating me up inside. I promised my mom a kidney, and she's ready to take off halfway across the country to be with a stranger.
I don't know what to do. I tried talking to Shaun about it, but it made him cry because his parents got divorced and he got so depressed over it that he almost died...
What do I do? I don't want my parents to get divorced...they've always been there. If that does happen, god knows what my dad will do. =/
I'm sorry if this is way too much information or anything, but I really don't know what to do or what to say anymore...
Wow. That sounds really tough. My dad cheated on my mom a few years ago... he had a job where he had to travel a lot, and he met a woman during one of his trips... wouldn't answer the phone when my mom or I tried to call him, kept lying to us about it... mom finally asked about it and he admitted to cheating on her. It sucked for everyone... but honesty is the best policy. I think you should talk to your mom about this and tell her that she needs to come clean to your dad, regardless of whether this "fling" of hers is serious or not. He needs to know the truth so the two of them can work something out.
If she refuses to tell him, I think you need to tell him. You won't be the cause of their divorce if they have one... it's not your fault. It's your mom who's going behind your dad's back and talking to this man, not you... and if anything, you'll be helping them both out by doing them a favor and revealing the truth. Your dad will hopefully appreciate your honesty, and if your mom is angry at you for telling, then that's her problem... she should've been the one to open up and reveal her secret, this situation is her fault and she deserves the punishment she'll get from it. Doesn't matter if she actually plans on having a future with this man or not... it's no excuse to lie and cheat.
Good luck, though. Talk to your mom first, and if she doesn't admit to this, tell your dad. This needs to be stopped... cheating is wrong. Either your mom and your dad can work this out (perhaps marriage counseling?) or they'll be separated... either way, something good will come out of this. If they work things out, congrats... but even if they do split up, it's better than staying with someone you're not entirely happy with. So, just think positively... when this is all out in the open, something good WILL come out of it.
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Obviously if your mum is making promises to some other man then she isn't happy with what she has. I would talk to her. If she won't tell your Dad then I think you should. Cheating is wrong, even if it is only over the internet and phone.
My dad's cheated on my mom before. It's better to let your mom come clean to your dad. Leading people on and cheating on them is wrong.
Do what Jazzehchan said.
I would take JazzehChan's advice.
The worst thing you can hear from another person's lips, even if they're from your daughter, is that your significant other is not being faithful to you. It is a whole other ballpark when you catch someone cheating on you rather than having that person tell you that they cheated on you. ---> Lesson based on personal experience
Like it was said, talk to your mother. It is not okay for her to have an affair so blatantly in front of you like that. Tell her she needs to come clean with your father. If she refuses to do it, you're going to have to do it.
If your mother is really in love with this other man, I'm sure a divorce is inevitable. However, just because people cheat doesn't mean the next result is a divorce. Many people try to work things out first. Your mother may choose to stay and your father may decide to stay with her.
I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. This is a horrible situation.
They refuse to do any sort of marriage counseling. My dad's bullheaded/stubborn and my mom won't stand up for herself. I suggested it to my mom one day, and that's what she told me.
She also told me the reason she's doing this, and the ONLY reason is because she and my dad haven't had sex in three years. He destroyed his back when I was little, and has also been in a hit and run accident in the past three years, resulting in a brain aneurysm and brain surgery to clip it before it burst. He's not in the greatest physical shape to do that sort of activity.
I wanna tell her if she's that unhappy to just divorce him first or something, but as I said, she won't stand up for herself.
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I hate hearing her talk to that man. Every time she calls him, I put on my MP3 player and turn up the music. I don't wanna hear her say to him "I love you hunny" or "I miss you baby". -gag-
I don't want my parents to get divorced though, either. They've been together through his multiple accidents causing further injury to his body, and her almost dying from a misdiagnoses and kidney transplant.
She's incredible rude to you though, since she keeps talking to this guy in front of you. And I support the others, talk to your mum and then talk to your dad if she doesn't suck it up and deal with this. She have to realize she's ruining the whole family by doing this.
She won't talk to him unless you're around? Wtf. Why does she have to involve you in this? :( Couldn't she drive to a park or something and call him from there?
Have you tried asking her not to do this around you? She SHOULD understand that. If she doesn't, tell her you'll go to your dad about it. I know that's pretty crappy, but so is making your daughter listen to you cheat on her dad.
Your mother has NO RIGHT to make you a part of what she's doing. You need to REFUSE to be a part of it in any way. Its beyond WRONG for her to drag you into her mess.
I agree with everyone above. Your mom definitely shouldn't be doing that.. And it's horrible that she is :x
It's a shitty situation, but it's probably better if you let nature take it's course. If your mom is doing this to your dad, he is probably better off without her. Sometimes divorce is the best possible answer for a really bad situation.
I would suggest getting the message out to your Dad somehow. Possibly dropping hints. But he shouldn't be left in the dark about this.
Hm, I think your mom forces you into this situation. I agree it's absolutely not right of her. Not the cheating and not the way she handles you.
First of all I'd tell her how you feel. In this whole thing you shouldn't be involved. Look after youself here. I'd tell her it's horrible for you to see/hear her speak to this stranger and you don't want this anymore. It's her decision what she does with her life.. even if she does the wrong thin. But she has no right to put you into this situation and I think it's very improtant that you tell her this and especially how you feel about everything.
Who is the adult here after all? I don't think it's your responsibility to tell your dad and in my opinion you shouldn't do that. You would involve yourself more if you would do so and I don't think it would help anyway. I guess that would make things worse actually.
More bullshit.
She told me that her "boyfriend" asked if I'm coming with her to Colorado.
Pfft.
I kinda really hate her right now.
First, you need to talk to your mom about what she's doing, if she realizes the extent of it and everything. If she realizes it then she has already caused a divorce because she's already committed to the decision of leaving your dad and moving to Colorado with another man. Second, your dad needs to know about this so that because she packs up and leaves they can talk about this together. Maybe the problem is deeper than you even realize between them. If you don't want to tell him straight out you should probably drop enough clues to lead him to what she's doing.
Sorry that you have to be part of something like this. Dx And just realize that you won't be "causing" the divorce, if it happens, because your mom has already decided that that is what she wants. Also, it will be harder on your dad if he doesn't find out about this until the deed is done and your mom leaves for good unexpectedly.
First off, I understand feeling severely pissed at your mom. To be honest, I would be to. But as numerous other people have stated honesty is the best policy. I think keeping this from your dad will hurt him more in the long run. I know nobody likes divorce, but maybe talking to your mom and then talking to your dad you could perhaps give them a chance to work it out. If it happens that divorce is the best option and you fear that your dad might do something irreparable, perhaps you should move in with him for a time to take care of him and watch him until he is stable enough to handle it.
On another note, a case almost identical to this sprung up a few years ago. I can't say that, even though I live in Colorado, that it is the same guy or not. Who the hell truly knows, but you'll want to be careful.
Does she realise that she'll be committing a crime if she has woopie with him when she's already married? I think it's a crime...
well. talk to her and let her know that.
have some pie 🥧
Ughhh. I talked to her, and she's still set on leaving.
She told me she's going to Colorado, taking my sister and Ozzy, my white GSD and my kitten, Simba, and just leaving my dad and I here. She said she hopes my dad dies so me and Shaun can have the house, even though it's not even close to being paid off yet. I told her straight out that if she leaves, I no longer have a mother.
I can't believe she fucking wants to drop everything and move to a different state to some stranger who may potentially be a murderer/rapist.
