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Fervent Love Letter

Hey guys hugsall just bored and questing in case anyone is on and missed the news, TS new wearable hummingbird feeder ^_^

Hi Kelli :-)

I grabbed the patch of grass. Didn't have that and I thought it might make a cute addition to a summer HA.

LOVE your HA. So cute the way those two line up!

Hey :) Thanks for the ping! Miss you! Thank you! ❤ Miss you too!

How is everyone doing? Heck, anyone that stops in (please don't be mad if I didn't ping you, I'm tired lol)... Miss you all! hugs

I'm fine. Just bored....

Lost motivation for pet stories.....

it's so hard to stay motivated these days. :(

Hey Yvette, glad you caught the grass C: Hey Jenn, I miss you too as always ^_^ I wish I were a more consistent communicator :/

bored, depressed, gaining weight. It's getting better as the weather slowly gets better, but even I am going stir crazy

Hey all, I've been having internet issues and insomnia issues so between the two I haven't been able to pop in much. Hope you all are doing as well as can be at the moment!!

Good morning to all!

Hi yes sorry I don't check in here more - I'm useless at posting but do try to join in on the events. I think the current situation is just wearing us all down, and we all have different challenges to face.

Eh, I'm ok I guess. Depressed. Husband has me really confused. I came out to him (I'm Bi-Ace). He was really upset, but now it's like nothing changed. I thought we were going to have a more in-depth conversation, but he asked a couple questions and then hasn't mentioned it since. I don't know if he literally forgot, if he chooses to ignore it, or if he really doesn't care that much. It's not like I purposely kept it from him. I've known I was bi for a long time, and he knew that, but the ace part....I'm still figuring it out.

I've always known some of my family are assholes, but I've learned that the majority of them are, based on the current situation in our country. I'm having a hard time with that. It's easy to ignore your asshole, racist, homophobic, sexist, xenophobic uncle. But It's harder to ignore several of them (aunts included).

Not only that, but knowing I'm bi, some of them aren't going to accept that, even though I'm married to a man. I'm just sick of keeping that shit inside. I have really severe depression. Most days, I just want to say "fuck it" and stop fighting. Some days are better and I want to be better.

Sorry for being depressing.

I love you ALL and I am sending good thoughts and smiles your way.

You are you! You are beautiful inside and out. It's harder to take in when someone you love has a hard time understanding, but don't worry too much about about that. LOVE yourself first! ❤ ❤

restock!

================ I haven't dropped by much because I'm dealing with migraines and other health issues. The garden is going slowly but surely. I'm thankful my friend is there to help. I'm working on finding ways to not have panic attacks going shopping... especially since the volunteer service is ending. We're starting to have restrictions reduced so new things to get used to. My balcony swing is up and I am enjoying using it... although there are issues with my neighbour letting his cat out unsupervised (against the rules) whereby it causes problems between Gismo, the cat, me, and anyone that has ears... hopefully, things will calm down. Right now the garden isn't producing veggies (plant still too young) but thanks to the food bank and others helping, my fridge and freezers are full. It's more trying to convince myself to eat in the heatwave that's the issue. I got my parasol for the rollator... bit wabbly and I'll have to test it out but it's too hot to go outside for now.

Have a great Father's Day everyone.

yeah, I gained too. Am starting to knock it back down. I'm sure you will too! The weather is getting too hot for me... is it fall yet? internet issues suck. Insomnia sucks even more! I hope things get better for you! I agree. This whole thing sucks and I keep hoping it will get better soon... HUGS you know, you can't pick your family by blood, but you can pick others to be your family. And let me tell you that WE are your family and love you the way you are. No judgement here! So feel free to vent, post, cry. I'm sorry that your husband has stopped talking about it. That worries me that he's trying to pretend it isn't happening. Not good for a relationship. I don't know what Ace is, but I'm willing to learn. I really hope you can reach out and talk to us if you need to. hugs again I'm glad you got your balcony swing up! That must be relaxing :) Gotta celebrate the small things as they come. It seems that we need to cling to whatever comes our way, no matter how small they may be! happy Father's day! I know you don't come around much, but I'm thinking of you today :) Do we have any other dads in here??

Well, ace is asexual. Basically, sex doesn't interest me at all. I have no issues watching it/reading about it, but personally, I have no interest in it. I've felt that way for a long time, but it wasn't "normal," so I just figured something was wrong with me and tried to like it (even though I hate it). Hubs thinks I need therapy, that there's something mental wrong with me and that's why I'm like this. I explained it the best I could, while I'm still learning. He was, understandably, really upset at first. He didn't talk to me for hours, and then he asked a couple of questions. And this was over 2 weeks ago now, and it's like nothing ever happened. The next day was like normal. I thought maybe I imagined all this happened, but I wrote him a little note when he wouldn't talk to me to try to explain a little, and it's still on his desk, so I definitely didn't imagine it.

I don't know exactly where I fall on the ace spectrum, but right now I'm leaning towards biromantic. I am attracted to men/women, and like the romance part, but I don't want the sex part. See...there's a thing though, I don't like cuddling or being touched a lot, so I don't know if that's just because of the person, or not. I could be demisexual (which is sexual attraction to people I have an emotional connection to...), but I don't know. I know I haven't felt good about my marriage for awhile now. My past relationships have been similar for me. I start out really into the person and then it fades really quickly. Sex has always been a "meh" and "eww" thing for me. It gives me no pleasure, at all. I feel gross.

There are lots of different types. I'll just post this https://www.glaad.org/amp/ace-guide-finding-your-community if anyone is interested in reading up on it.

So, anyway, that's pretty much the bare bones of it for now. There are several options on the spectrum I relate to. It's hard, because I'm married. It's hard to know when I don't have much experience in anything and I can't exactly go out and explore. My relationships before my hubby were bad, and I often wonder if it's because of this. My first boyfriend forced me to have sex with him when he was drunk. My second boyfriend cheated on me. This this stuff happen because I'm ace? IDK. I tried to give them that intimacy, but probably not as much as they wanted it. I don't want hubby to be uncomfortable and I want him to have that connection he needs. I told him as much, that even though it's not something I enjoy, I do it for him. It makes me uncomfortable but it's what's expected. And that bothers me, too. Hubs basically said that we have to have sex. So....it's all so confusing and I'm sure I'm confusing everyone.

There was an article in a local paper about a guy who is ace, and he wanted to educate people about being ace because everyone knows about gay, bi, lesbian, trans, but there are so many other sexualities that people don't know about. I contacted the journalist and she gave him my email, so maybe he will email me. It would be nice to have someone local that I could talk to, and maybe become friends with, someone who understands and maybe has some answers and won't judge me.

Hubs is the only one, other than you guys now, that knows I'm ace. It was so, so hard to tell hubby I was ace. Terrifying. Good news, it's a weight off my shoulders. I've kept this close to my chest for about 2 years now, which is longer than I should have, but I'm someone who would rather suffer silently than cause anyone else any hurt. Unfortunately, that backfired and hubs got hurt, but I didn't intend to hurt him. I wish I would have known all this before I met him and married him. But he knows now. And it's as if nothing's changed shrug

Thank you for educating me (and the rest of us) on this. I sincerely hope you connect with the person that wrote the article. You NEED to find someone that 'gets' you and can possibly help you. Surround yourself with others that will support you. I'm sorry that this has complicated things with your husband. I'm glad that you are staying true to yourself because living a lie will tear you apart. Everyone deserves to be happy. Even you. ❤

hugs I hope you don't think this is trite, but Winnie the Pooh had it right. “You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.” I hope your world settles down and those who love you remember that they do and what that means.

In the past, many homosexuals were forced to try to change... but one can't change certain fundamental things. It's the same with Ace. You obviously don't want to hurt your husband... but you both need to accept your limitations and that neither of your needs are being met. The good news is that it isn't your hubby's fault and no amount of practice or counseling he could take would make it better; it's just that he needs someone that is hardwired differently... just like you need someone that can enjoy you for you. You can't change the past, but you can make your future more enjoyable. There is a large community of Aces out there, it's just taking the time to discover and reach out to them.

You tossed your into the rift and a moment of calm is followed by a flash of red lightning, before the rift shoots out ! Yay! :) How is everyone today?