That's for sure. Charlie does seem to get separation anxiety so easily.

I am not feeling better yet unfortunately. It isn't as bad as it was yesterday for me, but it still isn't good.

I had all the kids and grandkids over for the Sabbath. Except for sleep, I had someone in my arms from Thursday afternoon until Saturday night. Totally how I felt and loving every minute! (However did I do that for 18 years though, day in day out???) RE: your comment to Violet, my friend told me to get the fb trivia app, she plays it all the time. I said a resounding NO WAY!!! Already addicted to subeta can't do anymore screen related things! hehehe Miss you and your wonderful cheeriness and all the other parts.

hope you're doing well.. and should we just lock up the old thread and make a new Laurie's Corner? The coffee may be getting cooled anyway? Perhaps a link to the old? Just a thought.

, get a psychologist involved (independent from the school) and get orders from him/her on what is helpful for your brother including advise to this stepdad to lay low on the numbers? shrugs Difficult decisions I realize but what is it your brother wishes?

Perhaps he would more likely benefit from special rather then interum classes and this psychologist can make a decision on medication?

Just throwing things out there. I understand how it is to be frustrated and not quite know what to do. I'm sure whatever you decide will be good because ultimately we only do the best we can do, and can't do any better.

: Education laws are in your favor, especially laws concerning minors with exceptionalities like what you described. If you aren't getting the help you need, the head of the Special Education Department for your high school, or your school district need to become involved. Beyond that, the District Superintendent, County Department of Special Education and possibly the State Department of Education. There are lawyers who specialize in these kinds of cases. You are not without resources. Nobody has to put up with a turkey like the counselor you described. They actually have to comply with your needs and wishes, you are the ones with the power in these situations. Just keep pressing your case.

Congratulations and Good luck Commented to you since I couldn't double post. Hope things work out. Hon, you need to reping darkvixen and silverlunarfox, as those were beyond your ping limit on a previous post.

-km ...I don't need another screen addiction either but am crocheting beanies per friends in high schools requests keeps my hands busy too..hmmm what nice thing can I do today...maybe a midmorning NAP hahahaaaa

I was working on a Kippa (beanie style hat) but ran out of green. Working full time and only Monday got my car back after weeks of being carless. Good for you for crocheting!

I don't even know who my local governmental-type officials are. :x We almost never head up towards our own county center and live so close to the southern county line we're often accused of living in a different county all together. Not sure if they would attempt to find time to do anything anyway. Most of the officials up my way are trying to find happy middles between citizens and the fracking companies regarding the roads. All the company trucks are destroying them. The trucks are so heavy and come through so often they're leaving ruts in the asphalt paving.

I do what I can from the homebound sidelines. We've encountered so many issues along the way that I just don't trust myself not to get angry when it comes to fighting for him anymore. This counselor is the first to take it to this level in a very very long time. The whole reason we found about the Aspergers was a teacher making us live out a new level of Dante's Inferno during 4th or 5th grade.

Exactly what I would love to do. Angry brain and heart say break some noses. Bank account says stay home.

The actual school counselor has been trying to help us. She has nothing to do with the program whatsoever. The troublemaking counselor belongs to NHS. The program is funded by NHS and they bring in their own counselors for it. My step-father is a whole 'nother kettle of fish so to speak. He would benefit greatly from counseling of his own but nothing short of handcuffs and a court order will get him to do it. If we left the decision up to my brother he'd choose to stay home and have nothing to do with school, or the world in general outside of mum and me. He finds it boring and bothersome. We want to keep him in normal classes as much as possible and his teachers agree - he really is a bright kid. When the inclination hits he can show up just about anyone he wants. He blew a local dj out of the water with musical knowledge on a recent vocational field-trip. This dj has been at the station in one way or another since 1988.

It was the school district, I think, that turned us towards NHS in the first place. So they're out. We'd have to jump right to the State Department I think and the best results would come with a lawyer's help. It's starting to look like lawyers may be our last option here. You'll see why in the update below.

-km Pinging so you can read about yesterday's meeting. It's under the spoiler.

-km my dad encouraged me to learn to crochet I started on such a small size hook and like for doiles and threadsand then he taught me how to make my own Barbie clothes hahaha

Yeah, a meetup would be super cool! This time I'm travelling with my colleague though, and I don't want to drag her from one place to the other just so I can meet people from the Lair. I'm sure Arizona will be great! I can't even concentrate on work anymore, I keep thinking about flying, what the food will be like and all the cool places that I'll hopefully see!

Ah thanks! I'll definitely go shopping in Scottsdale! I'll check out the other things you mentioned, thanks!! Looking forward to seeing my first desert too!

Sometimes it's not even fun to go to a highschool game over here. Parents take things way too seriously and keep yelling at their kids, throwing curses everywhere. There is where the bad behaviour starts I guess :/ Maybe it's different in the States though, since your highschools have their own sports teams that are highly competitive. In the Netherlands we don't have that kind of clubs associated with the schools. I guess our country is just too small to have such rivalries :P

Woa, amazing! Congratulations! Last December I was presenting my research in a conference, but it was in a parallel session, so there were only 200 people or so. Presenting for 800 people is amazing! I hope you'll have lots of fun that day!

, so sorry to hear of your problems.. I would say first order whether attorney or not is to call for another meeting when ALL responsible parties can attend.Basically just sending hugs. Hope you get some positive help soon!

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does anyone know how many balloons takes her should receive a cheese mint for training and balloons I can't reach my achievement page from my phone to check any help would be thanked by me

My sister knitted Barbie clothes. My mom didn't save them. I, on the other hand, am a packrat. My kids throw my stuff away, so I have tossers on both sides of me, my past and my future. They are probably all better for it. ;) First and foremost, it's not a sob story. It is a rough situation and you are doing the best you can to be a contributing adult within the circumstances that are available to you. I know exactly what it is like to bear the burden of taking care of others. It doesn't help much, but know you are not alone in this situation. I think a lot of us come to subeta to look for relief from the stress of their lives. I am in a 12 step program and the way to healing is all about being a giver, which you most certainly are being. Frieda's suggestion to get a lawyer is a very good idea. They have legal aid where you are? I hope you and your family manage to get the the help you need.

-km There are pro-bono and reduced fee groups around. Cases that have the potential to drag on are generally left in the queue until last minute emails are sent by the groups to other area lawyers because no-one will take them. I see this a lot in Bossman's email. If it weren't for a potential conflict of interest I'd ask him.

Another update. Parent-Teacher conferences were last night. Mum, Teacher, and School Counselor are attempting to get a meeting scheduled for 2/10. Thats...Tuesday I think. They are going to look into getting the contingency plan going asap instead of waiting for brother's NHS funding to run out. If they can do that then Teacher will have more authority over my brother in telling troublemaker to back off. During program counseling time Teacher and brother will retreat down to the school library, so he won't even be in the room then for troublemaker to pester. (Program counseling time is generally the point where brother's day starts the nosedive into bad things.)
Also got a giggle from learning that after Teacher vented to her husband about all of this, he ranted about troublemaker being a crackpot and not doing her job.

I hope ya'll don't mind the update pings. :x

My envy and respect for the artists here has gone up 10 fold. I made some "angry eyes" in photoshop: when I tried to shrink them down to HA size all thats there is a hideous blob of black and red. I dont know how they do it.

It takes 500 balloons to max that set, I dont know what they cost now but I bought up a pile at around 5k each. Blech.

Hold up now. Several of us are poor, several of us face struggles about things that happen to us that we don't know how to deal with and several of us come here when we're at the end of our rope or feeling lost and alone because here is where friends who dont judge hang out. It's what we do, luv. I would not have survived several heartbreaking things in my life if not for my friends on Subeta. I couldnt talk to anyone else about things cuz almost everyone here is living the same way or wouldnt understand.

What you've shared is not a sob story, its the facts of how you and your family survive - and you should never feel that you can't talk to us about it. We don't judge, we may not know how to help but we can let you know we're listening - and we care.

good luck!

sounds like things are improving and of course I don't mind any ping, thanks for the update!

hugs On an unrelated sidenote: Those angry eyes are amazing.

[edit] : Sweetheart! You are in deep for sure and nobody really knows how you are feeling. We have all been in similar circumstances, but you must be feeling terrible right now. I can tell you that you have come to the right place, the Lairbears will support you in any way that we can.

The Lair exists for fun and friendship as well as comfort and aid in difficult times. Nothing you have mentioned sounds like a sob story. You have genuine concerns and you have been near the end of your rope and we are proud to offer you the advice we have from our experience. We all reach out to each other, sometimes to offer help, sometimes to steady ourselves and sometimes when we are in desperate need of a paw up. We are honored that you have taken the time to share with us your burden.

Hopefully, the school will realize their legal obligation to you and resolve things peaceably and promptly. This cannot continue to drag on because your loved one is at risk of not getting the help he needs. ( There is a reason it is called an IEP, the I stands for Individual. The IEP process is not a cookie-cutter process...my 2-pence worth...)

I believe that it is time to contact a pro bono Civil Rights lawyer, one who specializes in Americans with Disabilities Act cases, specifically Section 504 violations. ( or if you are in the UK, the DDA 1995 ) Don't worry about payment at this point, a good lawyer will earn his commission by winning the case and his payment comes out of any compensation. The winner will be you and your family by securing your brother's rights are no longer violated.

A word about debt collectors, keep an open dialogue with them. They really don't want to go to court any more then you do and they just cannot harass you endlessly. But keep up a dialogue. Even if it is just a phone call every week. let them know what's going on, most collection agencies now no longer use heavy handed techniques because the laws have changed. They can be assertive, but they cannot make threats and confiscate your life. There are some very good resources on the internet that you can read about debt-collection laws and the consumer that will give you some peace of mind. If I can find them I will send you some links.

Above all, hand in there, so many people need you. while this can be burdensome at times and you feel the weight of responsibility on your shoulders, there is a reason...you are important! Continue to reach out to friends, family ( including us bears ) for support, advice, prayers, comfort and strength. You will get through this and it will get better. You are still young and face it...life seems like an all or nothing proposition ( especially when it comes to money ) but just remember, there are a lot of resources available if you are connected with people, even if it is a small person on a silly website who tells you she loves you and is praying for you. ( that would be me...)

Hang In!

Love Frieda

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