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since my earlier post didn't go through, let's try this again
I have to speak at a conference with about 800+ people
and I am excited (and a little nervous) about it! Its a work program conference and i have to speak about my experience. Today I got the program for it and not only is my name and short bio in the program, I GET TO INTRODUCE THE KEYNOTE SPEAKERS!
HOLY !@#$
Here's hoping i don't mess up their names!
oh and I got second round of interviews at a senior center i applied for
BEST DAY EVER
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Woah! I wish you the bext of luck! hugs You'll do great :D 🎉
You can do it. good luckhon
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: Good luck at the conference that you'll be speaking at! :D Sounds interesting and all the best!
Congrats on the second round of interviews too. :)
Good luck and congrats!! :)
Where does it end? Where does it begin? Does it begin again, is mortality a revolving door or indeed life's final exit
I need to vent before I break something. I just can't anymore with the idiots causing this issue.
Under the cut for long-winded-ness
I may or may not mentioned it before, but my youngest brother has Aspergers which can make school a living hell for everyone. He's in high school and was placed into something called the Partial Program. It slowly integrates the kids into their various classrooms over the school year so its not as overwhelming coupled with in-room counseling (There is an actual teacher there too). The whole issue stems from this school year's new counselor and her interns. I just don't even know where the hell to start I'm so peeved over this. She's a one-trick pony, one technique fits all sort of counselor and now the very reason my brother was placed into this program in the first place is going to be the very reason he's kicked out of it.
The counselor started this school year off with a big glass of jealousy over my brother not immediately loving her. The best way to describe my brother with new people is he is the un-trusting, people wary, stray dog that everyone loves and wants to help. Get too close too fast and he runs. You have to move at his pace and let him warm up to you and get a connection going before you can really get things moving along. This caused her to make my brother the center of her attention when it came to her part of the program - nagging him, calling him out on things, etc. without actually taking the time to make that incredibly essential connection or learn about him and our family life first.
About mid-way through last year it was decided that for the benefit of my brother his daily points sheets more or less "scale of 1 to 10 how did he do" survey) would no longer include a 1 to 10 rating because my step-father would focus on only the numbers. This caused extreme stress at home because no matter what little notes about how awesome a day turned out, if there was any rating lower than a 7 step-father would yell and throw a fit.(Step-father exhibits many many of the same signs of Aspergers that my brother does but they manifest in different ways [if that makes sense] - which is a major part of why they're constantly at odds with each other.) This, in turn, caused my brother to focus more on the numbers on that sheet than his actual classes causing a Godzilla sized snowball effect. It was decided that number rating would cease and worded notes on how he did would be the only indication of how his day went that lead to a deal struck last year between the previous counselor, the teacher, and my brother regarding his daily points sheets. If he could turn a bad day around before the day ended, they would redo the sheet to reflect that he had indeed done everything he was suppose to. After this was done, last year passed by rather uneventfully.
This new counselor likes to sit pretty on her high horse. Without learning why last year's deal was struck, she put a stop on it and the numbers ratings came back and so did the snowball effect we had fought so hard to put a stop to. So when he began to shut down and withdraw into himself again during the counseling sessions or combative when they made him feel cornered the counselor suggested that he be pulled from the program.
A meeting was held and as this counselor never bothered to need the notes in my brother's file step-father was the only one able to go. (My mother needs at least 2 weeks notice so she can request the day off from work.) Step-father made mention that after he spoke that the NHS program official and all their counselors seemed incredibly unprepared to handle Aspergers and the mutterings and questions asked by a few seemed to indicate that they didn't even know what Aspergers was!
The teacher in the room has strong suspicions now that the counselor and interns are trying to guilt my brother into compliance now by telling him that NHS is looking to have him booted from the program. The interns, to my second hand knowledge, seem to have completely stopped trying to connect with him and instead turned to the counselor's way of doing things which, rather recently, has made my brother feel so cornered that a fight or flight response kicked in.
As the big rotting cherry on top of all of this, NHS has been pushing again to put my brother on medications. We refuse because my step-father, who is incredibly prone to addiction, has noticed the same addition prone signs in my brother. I'm afraid that should we refuse again that they'll bring in CPS/CYS which would only spell disaster for him. The teacher and the school's own counselor have stood by us and our decisions the entire time, but that would mean little in the eyes of CPS.
I have been invited on more than one occasion to sit in on meetings and such, but choose not too because I don't trust myself not to take a swing at these people who have proved to be inadequate and unwilling to take the time required to properly work with people like my brother. The family's financial situation dictates that there is no room for arrests, court hearings, or fees for counselors that don't rely on medications to make their clients manageable.
I just seriously don't know what to do anymore.
- ah thank you honey. I wondered why we had a new board ^_^;
Gah! Reading your post makes ME want to hit someone! Is there any way you could file a formal complaint with the school about the troublemaker? I'm guessing that a private tutor or homeschooling wouldn't work. Maybe you could look into a special program in your community?
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What gives her the right to put a stop to something that was put in place to help your brother.
I agree with RedCalypso is there not someone you can complain to about her and if there is a teacher in the room can she not say to someone about what the female is doing.
@ so sorry to read that sweet, I hate people like that, if the old way was working they should of carried on,
good luck :)
I don't know. :/ I don't know how much the school can say/do about the counselor in the room. She's there on contract, I think, from NHS. We have complained to highest official in our local NHS branch that oversees the program, but he did nothing and offered no suggestion. I believe my mother's last call or two to him went unanswered. Our financials don't allow for tutors and the only socialization he gets is through school so we're trying to avoid homeschooling. In a make or break situation I think we'd do it but the financials don't really allow for that either. I don't know if there would be any special programs within a reasonable distance, but that's definitely something to look into. Thank you for that suggestion.
According to the counselor, she does. She also has to sign off on the sheet before it can come home so there's no sneaking around it. Attempts were made with the help of the prior year's counselor to come to a happy middle, but this year's counselor will have none of it. She's turning out to be a 'my way or highway' person and for counseling that just doesn't work. I don't know why my brother's classmates require the program, but I worry about them too. :/ She's already proved she's not above trying to brow-beat/guilt a kid into submission. The teacher contacted NHS about this the same times we did. For every one email or call of ours, the teacher sends out two. Without causing a scene in front of the kids there's not much she can do. The teacher has tried to intervene before things went bad once and it didn't go well. She just tries her best to clean up the mess the counselor and her lackeys makes every day now. Unrelated note: I love your HA.
The teacher and the school's counselor have devised a contingency plan where my brother stays with his teacher and would get his counseling once a week from the school's counselor. We're torn on this because he would still be in the room with the troublemaker who only does and follows what she thinks is the only way, but its been so long since my brother's bonded this well with a teacher that we'd hate to pull him out of the room. :(
awww you will blow them outta the water..pracitce theri names and the rest just take a deep breath and focus un the back door pretending to look at all them peoples :P:P
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Oh man, that's amazing! Congratulations :D I'm sure it will be an incredible experience.
Thanks about my HA
Do you have an MP if you do what you could do is contact the NHS again and say to them if this situation does not get sorted out you will go to your local MP and your local paper about what this person is doing and that the NHS is doing nothing about what is going on Sometimes things like that work.
I am so sorry hun. I work with students like him everyday and it is so sad when they don't get the programs/services they need. All I can tell you is be his advocate!!! It is so important. Don't give up on it ever! Try not to get angry (hard, I know) and just keep loving him! You are the best
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Time to catch up on things as quick as I can.
We're about to lose it then, I just checked and the corner booth has 75,737 posts and 3787 pages. Thats pretty impressive when I think about it. But I still don't wanna lose our lair lol You look amazing as always by the way
Yep yep, somebody had to notice all the flatulence closing the balloon hut spread around. nods emphatically mmmhmm, Im sure thats where it came from..
Hey Nic's girl! Glad ya found your way into here xD
I love football but that's not saying you're wrong about anything you said about the "professionals" I've seen it a million times but I still love the game. Everyone here agrees going to a JR high or highschool game is a 1000 better then any professional game.
Hey doll, I hope you're doing the same. Doing something fun for yourself always makes the day better ❤
I know right!? I saw that wall of code and thought crash cart countdown time!
Beagles seem to have seperation anxiety at the drop of a hat - or opening of a door I should say. Bently will cry and cry making me feel like I've abandoned him or something and I'll only be going to the truck to grab something I forgot in it. I can hear him all the way there and all the way back.
I hope you get to feelin' better.
-km I had the same thing happen when I followed her ping. Its an odd time for the forums, hope they figure it out before the survival season hits in a week or two.
We may be here for awhile doll. Only time will tell
.. wow. I'm with @ redcalypso on this, the rage I feel from reading that really can not be described. Im so sorry you're dealing with this. I dont know what to say that might be helpful, my solution would put one of us in the ER and the other in jail for assault but I would feel better about things.
@ silverlunarfox Hey Nikki! Hey @ lull! Hey @ beach!
I dunno y'all, this may just be permanent seeing we're that close to 4 thousand pages in the lair =/ I would love to get some quests done today so Imma do that instead of worry about it for now. Bye y'all!
Gah! I forgot about that stupid 10 ping thing. I'll try again
LairBears never truly walk alone
Our Lair is proof you don't have to stand face to face to know you've got friends who stand with you when you need us.
Mni wiconi -- water is life
Aww thanks hon Love love you in that wig.
It will be sad if we lose the Lair.Wel I am off to bed getting tired now. So night all you all take care love you all each and everyone.
n clan I have started playing that candy crush game oommgggg help me..i5 taken over my sudoko time ahhà h.but I consider that fun time..some chores then some fun then back to chores..vicious cycle hahahaÃ
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Heh.. Doing quests before the new day I got the strangest error:
Fatal error: Uncaught exception &;GuzzleHttpExceptionClientErrorResponseException&; with message &;Client error response [status code] 400 [reason phrase] Bad Request [url] <a href="http://104.130.68.162:9200/logs/new&;">http://104.130.68.162:9200/logs/new&;</a> in /www/subeta.net/vendor/guzzle/http/Guzzle/Http/Exception/BadResponseException.php:43 Stack trace: /www/subeta.net/vendor/guzzle/http/Guzzle/Http/Message/Request.php(145): GuzzleHttpExceptionBadResponseException::factory(Object(GuzzleHttpMessageEntityEnclosingRequest), Object(GuzzleHttpMessageResponse)) [internal function]: GuzzleHttpMessageRequest::onRequestError(Object(GuzzleCommonEvent), &;request.error&;, Object(SymfonyComponentEventDispatcherEventDispatcher)) /www/subeta.net/vendor/symfony/event-dispatcher/Symfony/Component/EventDispatcher/EventDispatcher.php(164): call_user_func(Array, Object(GuzzleCommonEvent), &;request.error&;, Object(SymfonyComponentEventDispatcherEventDispatcher)) /www/subeta.net/vendor/symfony/event-dispatcher/Symfony/Component/EventDispatcher/EventDispatc in /www/subeta.net/vendor/elasticsearch/elasticsearch/src/Elasticsearch/Connections/GuzzleConnection.php on line 266
I was coming here to tell y'all things were about to get weird and beta went down, guess we now know that block of whatever that is aint a good sign.
How's that go.. "Aint no shame in that game." I am totally addicted to Farm Heroes Saga, I play it every chance I get!
-km Thank you ❤ And may I just say.. your arms look how mine feel after toting Kyla around all afternoon!
LairBears never truly walk alone
Our Lair is proof you don't have to stand face to face to know you've got friends who stand with you when you need us.
Mni wiconi -- water is life