My "fiance" is friends with his ex. No problem. BUT. While she was incarcerated, her "fiance" was messaging mine, talking provocatively, all but begging him to sleep with her again. AND the fact that my "fiance" talked to her daily, told her he loved her and missed her didn't help.

We recently went 26 days without seeing each other. He rented a hotel room for the night so we could spend SOME time together. TWENTY SIX DAYS. She gets out of jail less than a week ago and he's hanging out with her, and he hung out with two other female friends as well. I feel like I don't mean sh*t to him. He says he loves me but won't take the time to come see me. He knows where I work, he knows where I live, he knows my work schedule... I dunno what to do anymore. I'm ready to leave him, but if I do, I'll lose my car and my cell phone, I'll have to leave my job because I need a car for it and my mother said under any circumstances I am NOT allowed to use hers for work, and I'll lose the roof over my head (another toxic situation, long story)...

I'm at an absolute loss anymore. Am I wrong for feeling the way I'm feeling? He keeps saying I mean the world to him, but his actions are proving otherwise.

You're definitely not in the wrong for the way you're feeling, and it doesn't sound like he cares much for your feelings at all. It really doesn't seem like he deserves to be your fiance, much less your husband. I know you can't leave right now, but you shouldn't commit yourself to somebody who treats you this way. I hope you're able to get in a better situation soon.

I agree with Psilo, you're definitely not in the wrong for being upset over this. Also wishing you'll get in a better situation soon.

I don't think it's wrong to feel that way. Promise me this. As soon as you can, get out of that hell hole.

It sounds like a genuinely complicated situation, but I don't feel like your wrong for feeling the way you do about his behavior and feelings towards you. You deserve better. I hope things have gotten better since your last time posting.

Keep my exes in check in my basement 'Cause kindness is weakness, or worse, you're complacent

I would not let my boyfriend be friends with his ex, that just me because of that reason! I am sorry. I would dump his butt

I got out of the situation. I'm with an absolutely amazing man now, he treats me like a legit queen. We don't argue, he isn't shady, and we even took in said ex to get him away from a real nasty situation and help him financially recover from being completely drained (like this dude dipped into his retirement fund for this chick even).

If you're unhappy in that relationship, I think you should try talking to him about your needs. Try couples therapy if he's open to it. If he's not understanding, maybe breaking up is the only option.

If you break up with him, make sure you surround yourself with a support group you can count on. Maybe a friend can take you to work and have you home for a while.

Things will get a lot better once you are happy.