Either official or not, anywhere to chat with the community at large?

i have to be honest, i wish there's an official Subeta discord too

There is an official discord, although it's not usually super active.

Here's a link to join if you're interested - https://discord.gg/7HkZsvq6wc

It was originally used by Keith and Bug as a way to communicate more quickly a while back when there were some major issues making the site practically unusable, they posted updates and things there so people could see them. Now it's pretty quiet most of the time, but it can still be useful if the site is down and you need to try to reach staff.

alright i'm joining right away but indeed usually my discord is for friends only (i'm the shy panicky paranoid type with extreme trust issues) -3-

Should do it