Hi all, I am originally formerly Seans_Girl. That didn't age well, as that relationship thankfully ended. So I used a Loyalty Box to change my username a couple years ago, changing my name. And I didn't like that name either, after a former partner started to make me feel concerned about my safety. The name was my old gamertag/username for varying things, I'm trying to change it everywhere I can right now.

So currently, I like this name. It's a name I picked out for myself when I was introduced to a LARP community that my partner is part of. My personal life is much healthier and safe.

Last weekend, my partner and I were tangent-ing and somehow got on the subject of a certain site that isn't this one (lol), so I told him all about Subeta. And when I was at work yesterday, I couldn't stop thinking about it, so I logged onto Subeta last night and changed my username to this one, and I totally wanted to stay up all night exploring the site, but now that I'm home from work, I realistically have about 4 hours to get things done on here. Heh.

A bit about me, I'm a musician (bassoon, 20 years!) with a full time job totally unrelated to music. I am autistic. When I first joined Subeta 12 years ago, I was a college student in a relationship that was abusive, and I was in denial about it. We were together almost 8 years, engaged for almost 5. In 2014, we ended things peacefully, and it was just 3 WEEKS after I started my current job. It was a bumpy ride, but I've been working on myself and I know my worth now. I upgraded, and I know it.

So, I'm glad to be back on Subeta. Not sure if I'll remember anyone, my memory is spotty.

Hey there! Welcome back and glad you're out of that relationship and in a healthier place :)

I used to play the bassoon! Wasn't very good at it unfortunately xD Glad you're in a healthier place now. Think I also joined ~12 years ago, but my memory for names is atrocious :D

Welcome! <3 <3