Over the recent years I've, for some reason, developed a number of food allergies, and some I've had for quite some time. I'd list them all, but that's not the point. My Mom and Dad know full well that I have allergies and, instead of them thinking about dishes we can all eat, they think about dishes and foods that only the three of them (my parents and brother) can eat, excluding me.

For example: Mom wants to make cabbage rolls for Christmas Eve dinner along with perogies. I can't eat cabbage or food that may come in contact with it. I get sick. My parents are thinking about making a turkey for the day after Christmas and I can't eat it as there's an enzyme or something in there that makes me sick. Instead of being inclusive, all they say is, "Make your own" (which is bloody difficult given as there'd be so much activity in the kitchen with all the other food preps and cooking going on) or, "We all have to suffer because of you. Move out!"

I've found a job that I'm applying to and I pray to God I get it. If they want me out of their lives just because I can't eat what they can eat, then I'm going to do everything in my power to make it happen.

Still, however, I don't know what to do. I never asked for these food allergies. I never wanted these food allergies. I'm typing this all up near tears. I'm just so unhappy right now. My family is Christian. I'm Christian. However, it feels like I'm no longer wanted just because I can't eat the way they do...

Sadly compassion and religion are not always synonymous, regardless of the faith.
A lot of people don't understand the seriousness of food allergies, or the fact that a devastating allergy can develop over time. Too often people think you're just saying it makes you sick because you don't like it. Even when my husband ended up in the hospital from a food allergy, the reaction was "I've never heard of anyone really being allergic to that"
Good luck, and be careful when you go out to restaurants.... They generally ignore food allergy based requests. I carry an Epi-pen in my purse all the time now.

Well, I'm not religious and my family isn't either but I'm absolutely (as in 10,000% XD) sure that they would care and do whatever they could to assist me if I had your allergies. Anyway, it's sad to hear that your family obviously decided to leave you alone with your issues and I can only wish you all the best for the future - I hope you will get that job and that you can move out soon.

That has /nothing/ to do with religion, i'm sorry but don't blame it on that.

Its just that your family is being selfish.

Sounds like your family is being really inconsiderate! I have a food allergy too, and sometimes my family does make things for dinner that they know I can't eat, and on those nights, I have to figure out my own food. That's okay, but it's not an every night thing. I can't expect them to make sure that every thing they cook is something I can eat, because that's not fair to them. They would definitely make sure there was something I can eat for Christmas, even if I couldn't eat everything else that was cooked. Is it possible to compromise by subbing out ingredients that you're not allergic to, or asking for one part of the meal to be something you can eat?

Personally I don't think that they are necessarily being "selfish". Food is a big important thing to some people, and to cut out a huge amount of it for someone else for every meal can seem unfair to the people that can eat whatever they want. Now, I don't think it's fair they don't make something special for you. Perhaps ask if your mom or whoever could make a side dish for you with the meal, so that you can eat with them and not have to figure it all out for yourself? Tell them you like having family dinners but it's hard because you can't eat anything on the table? The reason I'm not as mad for you is because I have been vegetarian nearly my whole life and I have never had my family accomodate me. I just get to eat whatever sides don't have meat. So I'm very used to it and while yes it'd be nice if they always made food for me, I don't really expect them to and now I'm not mad about it.

Well, people that are really religious are supposed to follow their religion's core principles, and one of them is compassion for Christianity, but religion really has nothing to do with it. There are a ton of people that follow a religion who aren't compassionate or caring about others. Family is supposed to care about you, though, and you would think that especially your parents would care about their child's life, and what happens with them. Your family is just being inconsiderate because it's more convenient for them, and they don't want to have to go out of their way to accommodate you. Unfortunately, people are kind of jerks. Hopefully you're able to get the job, and move out soon so you don't have to deal with these people anymore. I'm sorry that they're being jerks about everything. hugs

hugs I'm sorry, I wish I could invite you do my house for Christmas! I have all kinds of crazy dietary restrictions and while I do usually end up making my own food, it's by choice really and my family would go head-over-heels to help me if I let them. I really don't know what advice I can give you. ): If it were me I would try to search out a safe recipe that seemed like it would be appetizing, present it to whoever is doing most of the cooking and ask if you could help and prepare the dish for everyone because you want to be a part of the meal too. I know your family SHOULD be sweet and accommodating, but it sounds like you're going to have to be the one who doesn't fuss and tries to be nice and help out everyone else, and hope and pray they have an attitude change when they see you doing your best not to cause any waves.

-hugs- I'm so sorry Wolf. Though not nearly as sever, I'm in a similar boat with the exception that my father is also allergic to just about everything- and then some, that I am. My sister and mother adore sea food, but even the smell makes me sick. My dad does most of the cooking, so that's easy enough to avoid, but whenever we go out I have to sit as far away from them as possible so I don't get nauseous. Then when we're with extended family I pretty much only eat vegetarian to avoid contamination by shellfish. A good rule of thumb: If it smells bad, don't eat it. Your body has ways of telling you something's not right if you learn to listen. Maybe cook some of the dishes yourself in a way that doesn't aggravate any allergies? Substitution works great with a lot of things. Can't eat A? Replace with B.

Unfortunately, Christian is not synonymous with nice or kind or understanding...no faith is. Faith isn't what makes people who they are and it certainly doesn't mean they'll act as they preach. I mean hell, my father claims to be Christian and he's the most inconsiderate, emotionally abusive, bigoted, insensitive asshole to exist. My mum is Christian and she practically disowned me for the better part of a year before I went off to uni. I've had Christian people tell me that I'm a horrible person and that I'm going to rot in hell because I'm different than they are; trust me when I say that not all Christians practice the religion they preach. And not all compassionate and kind people are religious. If you and your family don't get along, it might be a good idea to move out, as you've mentioned. I personally know I can't stay at my parent's house anymore after this break because it's extremely unhealthy for me. Family is who you choose to surround yourself with; it is not merely dictated by blood. Don't be discouraged.