Im so sad, so chitchat with me!

Just got my car fixed after a faulty tire came off and slammed it into the ground. Then this morning we discovered someone broke into my fiance's car and failed to hotwire it causing tons of damage and making it undrivable.

All in the middle of planning a low budget wedding. Subeta has become some great escapism!

Anyone else have problems? (I know you do!)

God, I'm so sorry to hear all that happened within such a short amount of time! I hope the wedding planning is going well, and that your fiance's car fiasco will be smoothed out soon... Do you guys have insurance to cover it?

I'm always having problems, mainly mental health issues. It's mostly my friends on another site (I'm very new here, so I don't know very many people on Subeta - which is a wonderful escape, I agree!) and just how intrusive thoughts and things like that are telling me I'm actually just poisonous to my friends and that I'm only hurting them. No one has told me any such thing, and when I voice my fears people reassure me that I'm not like that, but I'm always afraid I could be like that, or they're just placating me... I have some serious trust issues, OTL

Yeah but the deductable is still going to be $500. I hope the twerp that did it is happy they caused us so much trouble!

Hey I can relate. Ive had some serious trust issues mostly because through middle and high school I was badly bullied and had no friends. When I got to college and met my fiance I started to get a lot better but I still fall back into depression easily. Especially when it is triggered by someone being dissapointed in me for something (or at least me thinking they are) or by someone being angry (even if its not really because of me).

Ouch! But at least it's not as bad as it could have been. And yeah, what a creep...! Go find something else to do. Go weave a basket. Go mess with an abacus.

Man, you totally get it. I'm sorry we can empathize... I was bullied pretty bad throughout middle/high school too, and also had no friends... And grew up in an abusive home environment, so that was pretty damaging. My self-esteem has gotten better since I started coming out of my shell more and making true, actual friends for the first time in my life, but like you said, triggers can really bring you down hard. I can totally relate to those... Even the sound of someone raising their voice, even if they're not yelling, makes me tense up - it's not yelling, but it sure sounds like it! It puts me on high alert...

It helps to talk about it and find people that can relate, for sure.

I was actually really lucky to come from a pretty good home life. My mom was abused by her dad growing up so she made it a priority to be sure it wouldnt happen to her kids. Im grateful for that!

My little sister, shes 14, actually has really bad depression and a moderate case of aspergers. She was bullied in school before my parents started homeschooling her. She actually had a few friends while being bullied but she still had a hard time. She just started homeschooling and seeing a psychiatrist last year and its helped her a lot.

I never have seen any type of shrink, I actually have bad social anxiety but Ive tried hard to work it out without professional help. Ive actually passed out once in Walmart because I felt too crowded!

Dude, that's great! It's wonderful when abuse survivors can break the cycle (it's such a shame not all of them can...) I'm happy you came from a healthy home life! My mom was abused growing up (and still is, unfortunately) by my grandmother, and my dad was severely abused by both of his parents. My mom broke the cycle, but my father did not... I have a lot of "daddy issues" (ugh) and it's impacted me pretty seriously, but I'm trying not to think about it too hard in the meantime until I start regular therapy.

Aw, I'm so sorry to hear that... I have Asperger's too, actually, I know how hard it can be in public school when you feel even more like an outsider than your average neurotypical teen. I went into homeschooling in junior year of high school or so, and was matched with an amazing teacher who's ended up a part of our little patchwork family. She really helped build my confidence up, and still does. Teachers can be hit-or-miss, but when it's a hit, it really is a home run. I'm glad your sister is doing better these days.

God, I know the feeling! Panic attacks are just awful. When I was younger I would feel dizzy and faint and break out into cold sweats just calling for pizza... It's gotten better over the years with the self-confidence I've been getting from my friends and family, but it's still a bumpy road - and it's definitely a road you don't have to go alone.

You really sound like you have a pretty good grasp on what your struggles are, thats awesome. I think sometimes people suffer a lot more when they cant make heads or tails of their situation and they just give up.

Thats great you found such a good teacher! A caring teacher can really make a huge impact in the life of their student or students. Just as much as a bad teacher can make a student miserable!

I never understood how bad my social anxiety was until I got older (Im 21 by the way). Im actually not at all a shy person, but sometimes I just randomly get overwhelmed. Its often a struggle to go to a friends house to hang out or invite a group of friends over because I begin to worry about all kinds of things and then I just want to be alone.