He explained how she is before I met her, then I met her and saw it. Now that hes gone im her target. Shes trying to make their mom hate me. Who loved me. The day he passed she was like 'My heart is broken because my son is gone but he brought me another daughter'. I am being the much bigger, younger, grown up, and not texting her back and turned off my fb after his sister threats. Shes using his phone to get on his fb and threatened to basically turn it into a war zone. I refuse to have his fb defiled like that. I dont understand how people can be so heartless and hateful. I dont know what to do. My step-dad said not to contact his mom for a while so that his sister can have time to move on to her next victim.

.. you sure it's what it says it is and not something else?

wow, i'm so sorry about your loss. if you ever need to vent, i'm here to listen. but my thoughts on it, maybe that's just the way she copes? maybe the sister is just so upset, and angry at the world, she's taking it out on you, because you were probably the closest thing to her brother.

I think your step dad is right, although it must hurt to feel like you lost so much, keeping a distance will probably be for the best. More because you shouldn't have to deal with this abuse while you are recovering from your grievances. I am not sure the extent of the situation, whether the sister is violent or what, but if you are safe enough to talk to her, maybe she just needs someone to listen. If you can't talk to her, then just steer clear. However, for a woman who lost her son, she will need support. You don't have to step entirely out of her life if you don't want to, maybe just give the family some time to heal on their own and then take your bfs mom for coffee or something to catch up and check on her.