Very tldr on this (or well hopefully)

So I have little to no friends irl. In 2013, I met a girl at my college and bc we were in the same class, we hit it off pretty good. We exchanged our Skype and phone quickly and have been a part of each others life since then. But for a few months now, she is more distant. I know she works but there are things that does not sit well with me.

It's her birthday soon and I asked her what she was planning to do. She skipped my birthday this year for ... no reason and we couldn't see each other (she lives kinda far). So I was hoping to be included in whatever plan that she had. But, she said "I will probably go to the fair/attraction park with my friends and go out with my sister".

But I am not included in "my friends" - So it means that we aren't friends and I don't know? It makes me feel very awkward. Halp.

That sounds frustrating. I have had something similar happen before. I don't know your friend so I don't know if what I have to say fits your situation.

It may be that when she said she was going to the park with her friends she means a separate circle of friends. Some people have separate groups of friends that they hang out with and the groups don't normally interact. It may be that she felt that you might feel uncomfortable being with people you don't know.

I would just go ahead and offer for you and her to do something special one on one. If she says she is too busy, say that you would like to Skype with her.

Hopefully this helps a bit. :)

The thing is that I know a couple of her friends - so it's not an excuse at all. She has been pulling the same card for awhile now and, while I understand the whole circle of friends thing, it doesn't sit well with me. I've tried to get spend time with her but she ditches me or scribble excuses super quick and sketchy.

I'm reconsidering my ties to her.

I'm sorry to hear that. I have social anxiety so I can relate to how stressful your situation might be. If you ever want someone to chat with just let me know. :)

As far as your friend goes maybe you should confront her. She may be not fully aware of how rude she is being. You could text or email her about it if you feel uncomfortable doing it face to face. If she doesn't come around maybe it would be better for you to cut ties like you said.

Speaking from my personal experiences, it sounds like it is best to back off of the friendship. I would definitely bring it up with her and if she doesn't have anything real to say besides obvious bs excuses, I would just distance myself from the relationship. It is really difficult when you go through a transition out of a friendship; however, if it is any consolation, most of the people from whom I have distanced myself due to similar circumstances have tried to come back at a later time. I have seen that the issue is often not with me, but an issue that the friend is having within themselves. They often see that as well. I am in no way making an attempt to claim that I'm perfect, I know I've made mistakes and have unjustly distanced myself from others before, so I feel like I have a pretty good perspective from both sides.

If I don't talk to her she basically never initiate any type of conversation. We are already very distanced from each other. A bit more and there is basically nothing left anymore.

It sounds to me like that might be best for now; however, I would still bring up the issues with her at least one time. I personally prefer to know what the problem is (if they are willing to admit whatever it is that is bothering them), but I can only speak from my past and emotions. As said, we don't quite know the full history/dynamic of the relationship, so it is best for you to make these decisions based on that with which you are most comfortable. I wish you a peaceful resolution to this troubling matter.