I'm pulling the dictator card on this one.

Very few people beyond immediate family know why I am the way I am but because I believe I can trust y'all with this, I'm going to fight my way thru it so y'all can understand what I'm trying to say.

I've said from the beginning that my group will only have one "rule". All are welcome in the Lair, no matter who they are, where they come from or what they believe and left it at that. I believe it's out of mutual respect that we seem to steer clear of politics, religion and other sensitive topics that have strong opinions on all sides for the most part. There have been a few comments I was asked to put an end to but I'm not about to try and control what y'all talk about. I don't believe in censorship. Its always been that way so I've never put much thought into what we talk about - the only issue has been ping-a-paloozas until now.

I should have realized this evil deed might come up but what would I have said to prevent it? No way anyone outside my circle could know how it can affect me. But it does. The thing is, it is the one topic I can not handle. It triggers emotions I can not control because it happened to me. When I was younger I was attacked and left for dead. Do not pity me. I survived, I am who and how I am because of it.

That's as far as I am willing to go with an explanation.

Discussing something in the Lair is in no way responsible for how I react to certain things any more than I am able to control how my body and mind react to a trigger word or object. Nothing is. That's all there is to it. Now that we've touched on the subject I have to insist such things be discussed via sMail or comments, not because I like to pretend such things don't exist - we all know evil exists. We all have very strong opinions about it. But please keep discussing them out of the Lair for me.

Thanks for understanding, I love you guys!

We love you too and of course everyone should pay attention and act accordingly.

Edit: You got a forum point while making a post! Check out the shop here!

I haven't gotten one of those in months!

I am very glad you are alive and you are who you are.

Totally fine by me. :D I rarely if ever talk about it anyway.

I haven't been keeping up with the chatter, but your request/rule sounds right to me. I am glad you are here. You are loved. ❤

sounds fair to me, somethings really shouldnt be discussed where it can cause problems, though I dont post as much as I used to at presents

We're glad to have you, and your strength laurs - I don't think it's a rule that will affect many of us, as it's not a topic that normally pipes up but more than happy to respect it :)

Wow... I had no idea!! same thing happened to me 6 years ago.. don't remember who I have told, because I don't talk about it either. Like you, I am a survivor. I am so glad you are still with us.. the more time goes by, the more I find you and I have in common. I'm also adopted. Anyway.. I love you girl and I totally get your rule. XOXO

Luffs ya.

I agree with the new rule, Laurie. hugs

nods

You didn't deserve to have that done to you! I'm proud that you came through it to become the person you are now, because I really like and care about you.

You have every right to feel safe in your own space and while I understand you don't want to dictate what people can talk about, I think this is a good rule.

I'm fine with that rule. There are many subjects such as those that can be triggers for survivors and really do need either warnings or be P2P. I have two of my own triggers and depending on the day am fine with discussing them. However it is nice to not visit the general forums and see them being talked about. (hugs)

hugs

Happy to respect that rule - I'm glad you shared so that we can make sure to make things as safe and trigger-free as possible for you and anyone else that may be affected. <3

Thank-you Mama Bear ...say no more. Survivors of horrific trauma are the strongest people I know. Hope and love are their strongest allies and the Lair is a wonderful place built upon that foundation. (BIG Bear Hugs) 🐻 ❤

Love you sweet mama bear 💋

hugs There is no end to your strength. God bless you!

, you are a darling thing and so caring. I feel very safe in the Lair and you're one of the reasons! <3

no problems with that one here huggles hon :D

, your club and what you say goes and I am good with it. I also am in agreement that certain things just aren't discussed in public...anything that would make someone else uncomfortable for one. sends lots of hugs