So as some of you know already I was dumped 2 months ago after dating my boyfriend for 2.5 years. The day it happened was terrible because he had me all built up on the promise of marriage, that I was his forever and couldn't live without me in his life. Kept asking when I'd be home after work and wanted to see me. I get home and he ended it, some hard tears were had among other things as well as some swords thrown around the bedroom (we had a huge collection and it was the nearest thing) . He moved on with a girl from his job less than a week later and insisted it wasn't planned, please I wasn't born yesterday. So eventually I started to feel better and got out of all men are scum phase. No sooner than that happens and a friend asked me if I was interested in dating someone they knew. I said nothing can hurt to talk to the guy so our friend gave us each other's fb info and he messaged me.

It's been a few weeks of chatting and I've gone to see him twice, but times it felt comfortable to be around him. I of course had my anxiety going the first time I went to meet him, calling myself stupid and yet my heart was saying to go and see him. Also the fact my good roommate threatened to never talk to me again if I didn't go try to meet the guy lol

The first time we met he hugged me and gave me a kiss, I was shocked honestly. Mostly because I'm shy and had been told he was shy to, so idk maybe he liked me that much from one face to face chat? In any case for the most part I'm excited because he's brought things up first, he was the first to talk about things he values in a relationship, the first one to say how he felt about us meeting, even foods he dislikes. So far all of it has been the same or similar to what I also like and value. He was also the one to say that no matter how much we like each other there won't be any sex without a relationship involved, which is something I agree with 100% and was relieved to hear him say it. He has two kids that he does want me to meet, both under 5 years old, has some solid plans for his life. One for example is he's promised himself to date someone for a year before proposing, he's sticking it out at a job he hates just because it provides him the time off to see his kids when he has them so he can spend the day doing things with them.

It's honestly so amazing to think that I thought my life was over 2 months ago and now here's someone with a good mind on his shoulders and we match up so well he's used the word perfect to describe it. Of course my mind is doing it's best to cast doubt due to past relationships gone bad. Thankfully my sisters have helped me keep a good mind about it.

Though he did drop his phone in the toilet so now making plans will be tough until he gets a phone. We have been keeping to just one meet up a week with texting and so far its gone ok cuz we both have talked about where we are in this.

That's really nice that you went from having a relationship that nearly tore you apart to a relationship that is healthy and going in the right direction (forward). I know how that can be though. My ex husband came home one day and was like "Bam, I don't want to be together anymore". We had one young child together and it was devastating. After a year of being alone with my young child I found my now husband. Who was much the same. That's even nicer that he wants you involved in his young children's lives. :)

- Aw enjoy it ! It took me seven years of singleness before I got into a serious relationship again, just this past spring, and it's nice.

- That is so sweet. I hope things continue to go well for you two! :D

Soo apparently pinging on a phone doesn't work? nnIn any case thank you all for the supportive words <3 it's still going really well, in fact one night I wasn't home until 9am haha the look on my ex's face was priceless when he realized I was gone all night. I think he's got the memo now his "saftey" net wasn't safe to begin with. Plus I'm so done with his ass after shit he's told me trying to get a reaction. One thing he told me he asked for "favors" from his female friends in the form of them playing with themselves, disgusting behavior there and had the guts to say it helped him be faithful to me. So yeah just no, no more. Makes me wish I wasn't lease stuck.nnAs for my new guy it's still comfortable to be near him, talking is easy and I love the cuddles :) Normally when I go meet someone, even if I'd talked with them before, it ends up with me nervously going through my purse or something so I don't directly have to deal with the full situation. Thank you shyness and anxiety. With him however none of that has happened, not even me being on the phone, it gets set to ring on calls only and then left in the purse. I am just so extremely happy I met him. It feels like he was in hiding, kinda the whole where have you been my whole life thing. And he says he's happy to have met me as well.

Congratulations! <3