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Jun 22, 2015 10 years ago
Lipizzaner
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First off, I live in Canada.

So here's my problem. I'm financially dependent on my brother, who is extremely abusive. My anxiety is too strong to allow me to go outside on my own, so I depend on him for money as well as help for things like groceries, going to the doctor, and so on. Until we moved in with a couple of his friend, he would forget to feed me for days. It took 2 years to get him to take me to a psychiatrist for meds I desperately needed. Right now one of my teeth has caved in because he's taking his sweet time taking me to a dentist. Recently he left me out in the sun, in a car (I'm allergic to sunlight). I did not have a puffer or my sunscreen, and so I was hyperventilating for an hour struggling to breathe. The list goes on.

Obviously I can't live with him. His friends don't care all that much about what's happening, though they are at least feeding me. I need to get out, but since I have no money and can't support myself, I have no where to go. I want to keep going to the temple where I am studying kung fu, so I can hopefully make a career out of it and get out, but my brother is seriously slowing my progress (I mean, it's hard to not be anxious around such a bastard excuse for a human being).

I'm already on a government support program but the amount of money they give is barely enough to live off of, even if I don't keep going to kung fu.

So, what can I do? :/

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Jun 22, 2015 10 years ago
FieryVortex
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I'm in America, so I don't quite know how it works in Canada, but talk to a shelter. I have no idea what the shelter system is like where you live, but talk to them and discuss your options. See if there are programs that give you housing as well as allow you to pursue opportunities to get back on your feet.

Jun 22, 2015 10 years ago
Lipizzaner
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- I have no idea how to reach those places. There is no one in my life who is willing to help me with that and ironically the anxiety stops me from using the phone or just walking there.

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Jun 22, 2015 10 years ago
FieryVortex
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See if they have a website. See if it's possible to email them to explain your problems, or even just to contact them. The Canadian Women's Foundation has an online form to contact them. They might be able to put you in touch with shelters in your area if you aren't located near the CWF.

Jun 25, 2015 10 years ago
Skylar
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- Have you told anyone in the temple about your situation? If you're too anxious to talk, you could write a letter to someone you trust in there.

FieryVortex's idea is excellent. But, I really hope in Canada, shelters are more accepting of various situations and don't discredit you because it's your brother that's the abuser.

I live in the U.S.. I tried to get out of my parents' abusive household. Exhausting all other possibilities due to lack of money and friends living with parents, I contacted shelters for assistance. But shelters kept on telling me that they won't accept me, because I'm not being abused by a spouse.

I really hope you can get the help you need.

Jun 28, 2015 10 years ago
Lisa
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Have you tried talking to anyone at the temple you go to? They might be able to offer suggestions and help as to where you could go. If it's anything like a church or if your teacher (sensei?) is cool, maybe they could help you or even offer a place to stay in exchange for working at the temple or some such thing. Since you already have a relationship with the people there through your kung fu training, I would think it'd be easier to approach them to ask for help. I have anxiety issues too, so I understand a little of what you're going through.

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