so here is the crazy thing I changed Xx Canth Xx who was male to blacklight last night and I noticed some how his gender changed female. I fed him a sex berry to change him back and it didn't work he remained female

He's showing male for me. Could just be you need to clear your cache for the correct icon to show?

scratch that It was something i did wromg with the berry all set now.

Ooh yeah. "Fed". I should have picked up on that. xD

Glad you got it sorted. :)