the question is this: If they do not post the dances like you like or ask them to do it and they don't then you figure it out That I have to count them out by hand. Please tell me there is a better way to count them out to make sure the numbers are true.like pressing two keys at once?

Your question is kind of confusing, do you mean what is the most efficient way to count dances people have done with you?

The Ctrl + F Option in most browsers will tell you how many searches yield with a username.

So if you go on a page where there are no user posts, and the person isn't on your friends list/any other widgets, your Ctrl F for each person's username will be 1 of 13 for example, and you'd know you have 13 pending events from the person u___u;