Okay so i've been doing this for a semester now. I've hated my first name since I was a little kid i've finally gotten the balls to go "Okay I like one of my middle names (both middle names are nicknames of my grandparents) I got permission from the grandparent I go by this name now."

But people that go by a middle name/other name how do you deal with other people not calling you by it?

Like gngngrgh i'm getting really frustrated with a teacher or two forgetting it "Oh hey -first name- go join this group introduces me to a whole group by the wrong name" And i'm coming up on summer employment here, how do I tackle this with bosses and name tags? Even worse if i'm going back to the same workplace before I went by my middle name?

I don't know the tact for this yet /sob

On apps they usually ask if there is anyone other name you go by, just stick it there. Not sure about teachers though, I guess just remind the group you prefer to be called something else. Or if your old enough, go to the court house and change your name legally.

Mhh I don't go by my first name or my middle name because my parents were (literally) high when they named me and I ended up with a DISTINCTLY female name despite being DISTINTLY male. ...Except on Tuesdays.

Basically, that's a problem you're going to have your whole life until you get some actual legal documents changed. Whenever you enroll in any school, your teachers are going to know you first by your first name. The problem might not be so bad at work, though, since don't a lot of places let you decide what goes on your name tag, rather than automatically sticking your full name on it, etc?

Something I'd suggest doing is take a first initial approach. A lot of authors do that and it works well for them. Like say your name is John Bob Doe, you'd go by J. Bob Doe. A lot of people would ask you what the first initial meant, but they'd probably just call you Bob. Make sense?

My cousin goes by his middle name as well, he just makes it clear right when someone introduces him with his first name, "I actually go by [middle name]" and no one has ever had a problem with it. Can't you put your own name on your own name tags? Or at least ask your boss/some higher-up if you can switch your nametag and explain your reasoning? People are generally pretty understanding, and at first you might need to keep reminding people but eventually they'll catch on. Just be upfront - politely, but from the get-go - when introducing yourself/having others introduced to you.

Well, I've got a friend that goes by her middle name, and when she signs her name/fills out paperwork of any kind she always writes it as "A. Jane Smith" as far as I know, and introduces herself by her middle name. Granted, she's gone by it her whole life, so there wasn't ever any confusion regarding switching names, so I don't know if that really helps you. :/

I had the same problem as you. I much prefer the short version of my middle name to my first name. All the advice I can give you is just politely inform people that you prefer your middle name to your first name. To handle people who forget, especially if they've known you for a while by the first name, just keep telling them which name you wish to be known by. It shouldn't take anybody more than a couple of weeks, depending on how much interaction you have with them, to get comfortable with the "new" name and begin using it on a regular basis.

I'm going to be honest though, there are going to be some people who just won't be able to grasp the name change and if you have to remind them every time they talk to you that you'd rather be called the other name, you probably should just resign yourself to them using your first name. :/

With school registration you CAN put your name to whatever you'd like to be called. You can go to the office I think and have it changed on the attendance. Maybe do that next year.

With work, just put the name you prefer on your resume/application and they will hire you on that, as long as you give them your full name for pay purposes so the bank knows it is you.

That all solved my name problem :)

Ugh. I hate my first AND second name so I was hoping if I could non-legally change it. And I worry about being in the same issue, I don't want anyone to call me that anymore.

I go my middle name because my first name is not only a boy's name, but it means masculine as well. D': To be fair, my mother had very good reasons for naming me that and I'm proud of it for those reasons, but I won't go by it.

Back to your problem, though, just keep reminding your teachers. My school files always have my first name and my middle name together, sort like how it is in Mary Jane. They'll call out my double name, and then I'll say something like, "Yep, that's me. I go by Annie though," on introductory days. That's what I do for job interviews, too. "It says ----- Annie on there because my first name is ----- but I go by Annie."

Do what says -just say it. "Could you call me X, please? I haven't gone by Y in a while." (That's the cool thing about the word "while" -it can mean "two weeks" or "two years") If you're calm and treat it like a normal thing, then so will everyone else. Unless your boss is a total hardass, he/she will probably let you change your nametag.

I also hated my legal name, and so I now go by another one. Usually, when people call me my old name, I just shrug it off and ignore it, but that's because most people call me my new name now. Name changes take a while for people to get used to, but they'll get there. Soon enough, most people will call you whatever you want them to.

Ah yeah name change is the eventual plan after i become something more than the starving art student |D

Ah I hadn't thought of spelling it that way! :X I'd actually been kinda confused what to spell my name as on papers and projects etc. I actually really like that, then teachers won't get all confused because I put down a name thats not on their list, and they can get the point eventually.

Ah yeah thats been my policy thusfar, it helps to clarify its not a made up name and actually my middle name because some people are huffy about it until I point that out.

asdfghjkl; Yeah my family, and old friends from childhood/toddlerhood have all clarified that it would be to weird, and will forever refer to me as my first name. It'll probably be a bit confusing if I ever bring a date home to meet everyone hahahaha. I've just shrugged my shoulders for now and look foreward to when they're the minority calling me by my wrong name.

D: I didn't know schools do this i'l have to check up and see if mine does.

My experiences thusfar are the sooner the better, and having the balls to stick to it no matter the negative opinions or strange looks given by family/friends it takes time for them to adjust but if you stick with it they realise how serious you are and as much as they might/probably reject to call you by it they'll respect your decision. And with strangers I just persist on correcting them till I name change, but alot of what people here have posted are good ideas too you might want to pick up if you follow the same direction as me.

|D Yeah it seems persisting on the change is the path right now, like the day I made this board though, it gets really frustrating some days when it wont stick. I'm glad to know i'm not the only one the responses to this board have been very nice 8)