I bet you guys love hearing about the people in my house, anyways, I have another rant. This happened yesterday.

My boyfriend has moved into my moms house a few months ago. Hes never damaged anything here or disrespected anyone. He has left small messes around the house on accident but will clean it up if you ask him etc...

So apparently sometime last week someone apilt milk on the porch table (probably either me or my boyfriend) It dried Instead of cleaning it up by boyfriend drew lightning bolts in it with his fingernail...dont ask me why, but I spend quite a bit of time on the porch and I never noticed the dried up milk on the table. Apparently my mothers boyfriend, cleaned the milk up and after scrubbing the table, there was a small lightning bolt mark left (it is a color mark, not indented or anything)

Were taking a nap and he knocks on the door and we let him in and he pretty much starts yelling at both of us how hard him and my mom work for us to have nice things (he hasnt had a job in months and typically sleeps or plays xbox all day and goes out a few times a day to do who knows what) then he starts talking about how NEITHER OF YOU CARE ABOUT ANYTHING YOU GUYS ARE FUCKING TRAILER PARK SHIT YOU CAN TREAT YOUR THINGS LIKE SHIT IF YOU CAN EVER AFFORD IT Then at the end he says DO YOU FUCKING UNDERSTAND and my boyfriend looks at him and nods, and he says NO, YOU SAY YES, I UNDERSTAND.

I'm pretty sure he came to us to yell about this because when he scrubbed the milk off the table varnish came off so he wanted to blame it on us or something, I didn't see any lightning bolts on the table....not even slightly indented into the wood. .... excuse me?

My boyfriend works more than you do we do our own laundry our own dishes buy our own groceries clean up our messes, and clean our room I even clean the house every weekend for GAS MONEY so I can get to school and my boyfriend can get to work. I'm getting tutoring for my GED then ACT so I can go to community college for my AA degree so my child can have a better life.. My boyfriend is paying for me to get CPR certified so when he's gone I can make money babysitting. My boyfriend is teaching me how to drive so when he goes to job corps I can get myself and the baby around.

I'm trailer park shit? We don't care about anything?

Seriously, this was all just a huge facepalm to me. I don't know whether my moms boyfriend is just wanting to attack my boyfriends character for no reason because of how he feels about himself or if hes just trying to get my boyfriend to blow up so he can kick him out. Unfortunately my boyfriend isnt mentally unstable like my brother and his dad, so its not gonna happen.

Just another indicator to support you in getting out of there :P

i was in a similar situation and it's kind of like how you can't have 2 male dogs together or else they will fight. it seems to be like that with human males too. my bf and i lived with my mom and her husband for a very short while. No matter how much work I did around the house (might i add i never even got a thank you for cleaning up after his nasty ass family) or how much money my bf spent on groceries-- he hated us, complained to my mom every second, he burst into our room screaming at the top of his lungs at 6 am once, smashed some things and called me a little bitch for "claiming food."

He was just acting like a 12 year old. From my experience, it seemed like this almost 40 yr old found having some 19 yr old doofus in his house a threat.

Really the only thing you can do is work hard to get your own place. Your mom's bf just doesn't want you there and i'm sure your mom won't ditch him to make you and your bf happy. Just move out. Nothing you do will impress him.

honestly though who sees a mess lying around and just draws lightning bolts in it i will never understand males

Seriously? Wow. This sounds like my step-father except I never had my husband living with me. When I lived there though he constantly blamed me for shit. Like, cigarette butts. Because my room was at the front of the house and I smoked outside he would blame me for all the cigarette butts on the lawn. When... in fact, it was him who was doing it. I had a small coffee can I put on the porch for it. He'd pick any fucking fight he could with me for no reason. At the time I was paying all the bills in their house and was buying all the groceries while he sat around with no job watching television. Not only that, I was supporting his two children.

Honestly, get the hell out of there as soon as you can. It looks like you are trying your best which is good. Maybe try to address it in an adult way with your Mother present? He shouldn't be treating you two like this and it's not like your boyfriend is copping an attitude or doing anything wrong. From what you say he seems very helpful and tries his best to avoid conflict with anyone else in the house.

I really pray that he knocks that shit off. I'd start to get pissed if it were me. I can't control my rage as good as others though.

Agh, it sucks. The worst part is that when the motherfucker was in jail my biological father was raising his son (and supporting my mother fully so she could go to college), and now my brothers sperm donor pops up out of the blue and fucking mooches off my mother and still treats us like shit. Has even convinced my mother we don't deserve anything....its just disgusting. I don't feel bad for the fact he was in prison for 15 years at all. I didn't tell my mom about this incident but when he went off on us about 2 weeks after this because someone threw a wrapper away after he took the garbage out when there was no bag in the can and I was the main target (wasnt my garbage but he assumed it was?) I brought it up to my mom, she kinda just shrugged it off and I was like well the next time it happens I'm not going to let it slide. Hes on felony probation so he really needs to fucking watch his shit. I used to be scared to call the cops because of repercussions id face from my mom if he violated and went back to prison but I'm seven months pregnant, if he wants to fuck up when a child is around it's not my responsibility. Really proud of myself for letting go of this mindset I had going on for awhile that its not my place to put anyone in this home in jail (my brother and his father are very unstable) but now I realize its their responsibility if they want to fuck up around me.

Oh my gosh that is just BEYOND ridiculous. I can't believe he is doing this. Ugh. I'm so frustrated even hearing that shit! Maybe she's just so beat down by him that she doesn't even want to have conflict at all. Like, she's avoiding it at all costs because she is just worn out. You've gotta protect yourself sweetheart. I know how it is to be pregnant. I just had my child three weeks ago actually. Your baby is the most important thing in the world and I'm so glad to hear you're out of that mindset. Your Mom does need to realize though if he continues this awful behavior there will be a day you're going to snap, like any human-being would, and he will get into trouble. If he were so worried about staying out of jail he wouldn't act like a huge jack-ass.

for awhile I was like well I am kinda lazy, maybe I am pathetic? maybe we are peices of shit, but then it just clicked, and I was like no, no, no. I don't care how much someone does for me, it doesn't give them a free pass to treat me like shit. He just spews shit to us. I don't care anymore. She should realize me of all people will do it. The good times don't matter when someone starts to treat you a certain way, unacceptable is unacceptable. Congratulations on your child! :)

We're only human. We're all lazy sometimes hahah. And totally. No one has the divine right to treat you like shit just because you may be lazy or aren't always the best person. I don't get where people think they have that right. It's unbelievable. Totally agree with the statement 'the good times don't matter when someone starts to treat you a certain way, unacceptable is unacceptable.' Truth!

And thank you! :)