I'm under my parents health care, and will be for at least a couple more years. Great for my pocketbook, not so much for my peace of mind. You see, I've run into something of a personal problem, sexually, and I want to see a gynecologist about it, but I don't know how I could do so without my parents finding out. They don't know I'm sexually active, or whatever, and I don't want them to because they're religious and believe in waiting until marriage. Is there some way around this?

Where do you live? Maybe your city has some sort of teen help centre that could help you out. Although, I don't know how likely you are to get help. Getting help from professionals isn't usually free. Are you legally considered an adult?

Is there a Planned Parenthood in your area? Or a free clinic? It's worth a try if you don't want your parents to know. Planned Parenthood specializes in this kind of situation.

I think it is also going to matter how old you are. If you are a legal adult I think you have a better chance of keeping your medical business private...

not every gyno appointment means "oh god i'm fucking someone". if your parents ask, tell them you wanted to make sure everything was right down there or you wanted some information.

and if you're an adult, your ladyparts are none of their business anyways.

I don't know if your doctor will, but my regular doctor does my gynecological exams as well as other medical stuff. If you have the number to your doctor, maybe you could call and ask if they do that stuff as well. I'm sure they wouldn't send your parents a letter that was like "VAGINAL EXAMINATION FOR SEXUALLY ACTIVE FEMALE". I mean maybe they would lol, but I would think that as an adult your information is confidential. I'm still under my parents insurance plan and as far as I know they don't send my parents mail or contact them about what I get done. Although, my mom knows that I have sex and am on birth control so I haven't had to actively try to hide it.

If your parents do find out and start getting crazy about it though, assuming you're 18, you should be getting those check ups to make sure everything is in order and they also check for breast cancer so maybe you could just tell them that your doctor mentioned that you should get a gynecological exam.

I feel like my post is terribly written, if so I apologize, just got off work :P

I honestly don't know if they do or not, but I'm just going to throw my two cents out there.

If you have a problem, the best thing would to be go ahead and go see a doctor. I don't know the nature of the problem, and it's none of my business, but especially if it's one that will cause more problems later, take care of it now. Because if it's something that is going to get worse with waiting, your parents might find out later anyway. This way at least if you are going to be active, you are going to be responsible in taking care of yourself while doing so. You can't change your parent's religious views on sex, but since you've already gone against their views, it's going to be best to make sure you take care of yourself while doing so.

In the end, they can't force their views on you either, like said. There are other reasons you can say you needed the visit, or you could simply say that it's not their concern.

I don't think so, since you're under their insurance they'll get the insurance notice about it.

You should just tell them you'd like to see one because you are getting irregular periods and want to see if there's an underlying problem with that and a gyno will help. And then tell your mom you are uncomfortable with her being in the exam room. Then you can tell the doctor whatever problem you are having. Doctors are under a law where they can not share your medical records with out your permission so your parents wont know that you are having sex.

It worked for me. And my doctor found out I had PCOS. I was sexually active at the time, but you don't get PCOS from sex. If I never went to the gyno it would have gotten worse and I would have developed large ovarian cysts that could have lead to cancer.

, if you live in the states, I am pretty sure that it depends on your state as well. I only say thins because when I went for a check up when I was about 13 years old, my doctor told me that she legal had to provide free birth control, or something along those lines, if needed and without parents knowing. Similarly with gyno visits. I suggest going to Planned Parenthood just to ask. Then take it from there.

Planned Parenthood is wonderful. My friend when she was 17 got a completely free appointment at a gynecologist and a free STD check as well as a free pregnancy test and ultrasound (because she thought she was pregnant). She didn't have to pay a cent. I'm not sure what she did exactly, but I would highly recommend going in and talking to someone and seeing what they can do for you (:

Like another user said, they specialize in these types of situations.

There is a planned parenthood where I live! I'm going to make an appointment to go see if they can help me, thank you everyone!

Why not tell them you think you have a yeast infection of bacterial vaginitis? Both can be gotten without sex and require a seeing a gynecologist :]

You said you were going to talk to Planned Parenthood and that probably your best idea if you don't want your parents to find out. I just hopd everything works out.