I'm going to try to keep this short and sweet because I'm typing this in class. :P

I recently met a guy who isn't exactly my type, but he's been very sweet since we first started talking. I'm very picky about my guys, so while he's not exactly what I'd be attracted to physically, his personality is pretty much to die for. He's very sweet and funny, asks how my day has been every time we talk, etc. He even calls me "sweet" as a nickname, not as in "oh, you're sweet". How cute is that?!

We met online, though. He lives on base, so he's not exactly a creeper, since the military kind of weeds out the weirdos from the rest of the pack. lmao But things have progressed and he's asked to meet me in person.

In comes the conflict. I would like to meet him face-to-face, but I am kind of (really) terrified to do so. I'm scared to trust him too much. Scared to put my faith in him. Part of it is just because I don't know how to handle this, since I've always been the pursuer and not the pursued - and I've only dated girls. I'm used to being in the "guy" role, so to say. I don't know how to be the "girl". The other part is because I always tend to distrust guys because of my past...And another part of me is scared to put my trust in someone because I'm worried I'll only get hurt again.

I just don't know what to do. :c Help?

, from seeing all your past posts i can understand where you're coming from... however I think you should take the plunge and try something different.. he may be the person you've always dreamed of having and you'd never know what you're missing/no missing if you don't give him a chance. You don't have to trust him-trust should be earned and not given (imo) and he should be respectful of that. Take things slow and see where it goes, if it makes you more comfortable take someone with you.

I've always been a bit more guyish myself, my man loves it though... mainly because we both enjoy doing the same things (you'd be amazed how many guys are attracted to girls that are a bit more "manly") together and I don't have to be someone I'm not. I'm not into makeup or girlie clothes, heck-anything related to girliness I am not-but he's 100% happy with that and it makes things so much better :)

give the guy a chance and let us know what happens :) I wish you the best of luck!

I agree. Trust, for me, is earned. However, it's always been harder for guys to earn my trust for certain reasons...And most of the time they get tired of trying before I can really trust them. I only have 3 guy friends I moderately trust, and 1 is slowly earning it after I've known him for 3 years.

Also, a part of me is worried about what could possibly happen. My dad is still active military, which tends to discourage a lot of people (regardless of gender) who approach me. My dad is a bit...over-protective because I'm the baby. xD So I don't know how well he'd take me dating a marine.

I'm not guy-ish, per say. I'm just a very...dominate person. xD I like taking my SO out, getting them gifts, etc. Hence the "guy" role comment. :P

Sometimes those who will work for it are the ones worth it ;) I totally know how that is to have people give up after a while (I have major trust issues) but those are the people that make the one person even better.... because that person kept at it :)

My dad's super overprotective... I"m his first kid AND I'm engaged. he doesn't like the whole "ces is getting married" thing... and I'm 21 years old! Its just a dad thing ;D

I read your first post, and I just wanted to say, if he's been talking to you online for that long and wants to meet you, he probably likes you for you, don't worry that you don't know how to play the "girl" role versus your normal "guy" role, just be who you are.

Good Luck with whatever you decide, and did I mention how distracted I am by your gif? :)

Edit: Oh my gosh it changes! Even more amazing!!

It hasn't been long, perhaps a month or so. There was a long break in contact because he had to go out onto the field for training, so we've recently reconnected. I've talked to a few other people about it, and they've all told me what you and have told me.

So I guess I'll give it a chance. xD

And thank you. x3 I tried to find as many funny scenes from Harry Potter as I possible could. lmao

I agree what the two other people have said, my only concern comes from my own paranoia. If you are going to meet him, do it in a public place with lots of people around and during the day. Trust for me is earned as well, and you need to be safe.

Oh trust me, if I meet him in person, I want LOTS of people around to be safe and some place where I know the exits, just to be safer. New people, especially guys because of my past, make me very nervous. Hence to why I posted this thread. lmao

I'm glad you're safe, that's the main thing I worried about :)

late to the party BUT! i'm glad you're choosing to go through with it!

i remember seeing a bunch of stuff about your ex and all the stuff she put you through, and i think it's definitely a new time for you to shine.

i was hesitant to meet my (now) boyfriend irl after talking for a little over a month with him online, but it does work out! we hit up a coffee shop near my house so i'd know my surroundings just in case rofl, and coffee made it so that it wasn't a full on "omg this is a date holy shit this is a date i hope i don't embarrass myself this is a fucking date". it was a more relaxed environment imo and i didn't have to worry as much.

I HOPE IT ALL GOES WELL AND THAT YOU COME BACK AND MAKE A THREAD ABOUT THIS NEW BEAU WHOSE FALLEN HEAD OVER HEELS FOR YOU.

Also jumping in a little late.. I've met a few people off the internet and that's how I met my current and hopefully life-lasting sweetheart :) Everyone uses the internet. There are creepers out there for sure, but (much) more often than not, the other person has well-intended interests.

Hope your story turns out to be something like mine.. man am I ever grateful to the internet for delivering him to me hehe.. :) good luck