I'm a girl, have a boyfriend and I do love him very very much indeed. Though before I dated this guy I used to have some... things with some of my (girl) friends. You know. At night. LOL, I'm sure you got me. Anyhow, I really have no clue if I play for both sides or not. I really enjoy playing and having fun with girls and I surely love breasts but I can't even imagine myself dating a girl.

So, how did you guys figure it out about yourselves? Do you have any tips?

Maybe you just like girls physically, but romantically you're attracted to males? I'm sort of the same way, although I can see myself with and have dated a girl, in the long run I see myself being with a guy. I guess you can't know for sure if you'd enjoy dating a girl unless you actually try it out, and even then every relationship is different so it might not work out with one person but could be okay with another. But I think for the most part, people tend to know what they like (unless they're super against something, for example people who think same sex relations are wrong) so you could very well just like females for their physical traits but not be interested in them mentally.

Guess you're right. Still, I reeeally couldn't see myself kissing a girl arround people I know... No girl at all. Not even the hottest girl in school. Even just to think about it makes me feel very weird and uncomfortable. I surely could kiss a girl inside my room or something like that. In a party too, as long as there weren't people I knew arround.. I have no doubt that I physically enjoy girls, but it doesn't feel good to feel so confused and mest up, so I'd love to figure it out, you know? You think I should try dating a girl?

I think its very easy for women to enjoy the company of women because they can appreciate how stylish they dress, how good their hair smells, how pretty they are etc. women are beautiful, and we know this first hand! Boys, as much as I love them, are kiiiiinda gross. There's nothing wrong with experimenting, in fact, I have dabbled myself but in the end I love men, want to get married and have children with a man. Sometimes its fun to let off some steam or be curious. Physically, girls are pleasing. You always hear girls saying wow I wish I had her boobs or her butt, her hair is gorgeous, blah blah, but when it comes down to it we probably don't want to be a couple. If you are confused its most likely because society has made you feel you have to choose, or its wrong to bat for the other team. I say screw it. Do what makes you happy but without hurting others of course. If you feel in your heart you couldn't date a girl, then its probably not for you. I think its normal to be attracted to people that are the same sex as you. Heck I'd rather be smothered in a girl who smells like flowers and actually maintains her appearance then a zitty boy who smells like axe! haha. all i can say is don't sweat it, don't over think it. my entire life I have gone with my gut- never fear womens intuition it is ALWAYS right. and maybe, just maybe, your boyfriend isnt the right guy for you which is making you focus more on your other "tendencies". the best advice i can give is to find yourself before trying to find someone else. xo

That's some awesome advice there~ And about my boyfriend, hahahahha hell no, he's fucking perfect, I wouldn't leave him for anything. I don't know how I started dating him to begin with. Anyhow... You're really right! I guess I have to find myself but, until that happens, just follow my guts :3 Thank you so much dear!

maybe you do. maybe you don't.

Sexuality is a fluid thing. It's never set in stone. NEVER. You may decide "yeah, I like girls" this year, and next year not be interested. Don't think you "made a mistake" or anything.

And then there's the super complicated "I know I'm straight, but this girl I'm in love with. Only her. No other girl. Just her." At that point you're a them-o-sexual. {Bonus points for reference get}

Okay, serious. Sexuality is fluid. Don't sweat it if you think that maybe you're physically attracted to girls. Maybe you are a bit bisexual. There's all sorts of in-betweens.

Edit: Also, yay Pusheen. <3

Thanks guys, this is very helpful indeed. The only thing that bothers me a bit is that my boyfriend is totally cool with me sleeping with my girl friends if I'm straight. If I'm bisexual he said he rather not, you know. I really would stop hanging with my friends since I have him but the hottest girl in the class is hitting on me right now so I'm confused :|

Let me translate. He's terrified that you'll leave him for a girl. If you're straight, then he has no reason to fear that you'll leave him to be romantically involved with a girl.

Truuust me. Being bisexual {When I identified as bisexual cisfemale} was the biggest issue I had with finding someone. No one wants to be left for someone else. It hurts even more when they're left for someone of the opposite gender. And of course, some people who are one way or the other {Heterosexual or homosexual} would rather not be with someone who was previously with the opposite gender.

Oh to be young. The best years of your life, right? Talk to your boy. Ask him why he has an issue with you being bisexual and sleeping with girls. If it is the aforementioned issue, seriously think about it. And tell him the truth.

Wow, great advices man. Yes, I really wouldn't hide it from him, I love him far too much to lose him this way. She's so hot though :| I don't know how to ask, you know, what exactly to say to him... Because I did tell him about the stuff I had with my friends and I asked him if he wanted me to stop because we were dating and he said "No, it's okay since you're straight". And just the other day we were talking about this too and I told him I had stopped doing that to my friends and he said "It makes me happy. You being so loyal to me is very nice" and now I'm ashamed to go back... I honestly think he'd let me do it with this girl, but I'm not sure if he'd be actually happy about it, you know.

If you don't think he'd be happy, don't do it. I gave my ex the same go ahead. Go ahead and do whatever, as long as you're with me at the end of the day. And it hurt every time he did. Use your words. "Generic Pet-name, you know I love you, and I'd really like to talk to you about me sleeping with other girls. I know I said I wouldn't, but there's this girl who I really am attracted to. I want you to be honest with me, because I don't want to spoil this." Warn him beforehand. Tell him you've been doing a lot of thinking about the subject, and you'd like to sit down and talk to him.

I've been through this. About three years ago I really thought I was attracted to girls. I loved the female body and all, but I was single at the time, so it wasn't that hard for me. And I often thought I was in love with some of my best girl friends, but I thought that of my guy friends too... ;P But it was very confusing. I had a very close friend that wasn't sure if she was gay, bisexual, or straight. So one day she came for a sleepover at my house and we kind of explored each other, if you know what I mean. We didn't feel anything for each other, but we were both curious about our sexuality. We didn't go very far because we were still very young and kind of scared. Anyway, now a days I'm in a serious relationship with a man, and still find the female body beautiful. I actually like the female body more than the male body, but I'm not as attracted to it as I was before. I like it, but I don't get turned on or anything by it. I guess my feelings for women kind of phased out. But it took a long time. xD Maybe this is just something you're going through at the moment or maybe it's who you are. It may take a lot of time for you to really figure it out (like it took me about two years to really be sure), but if you love your boyfriend I think you shouldn't let this ruin it. If you start to think that your feelings for another woman are maybe bigger than your feelings for him, then don't be afraid to go after her, especially not because of other people and what they might think. :3 I bet almost everyone, sometime in their life, has doubts about their sexuallity. Just don't let this confusion make you sad or anything. ;)

You're right. I really really do not want to spoil our relashionship... I think he would give me the "go ahead" but it would hurt him anyhow, so I rather just not.. I don't think I'll be bringing the subject up at all, we've talked about it before and I do think I know his opinion about it already. I will just talk to the girl and tell her that while I'm dating him we won't be able to do anything much. I'm sure she'll understand... And thank you sososososo much for everything you said, you have no idea how much you helped me with this. I was so confused!

Oh, honey! I didn't know that... I'm glad you figured it out yourself though! And thank you for the tips, I'll be sure that none of this makes me upset. I now can see that it's perfectly natural to be doubtfull at this subject.

I read somewhere that technically everyone gets turned on by the female body, even straight women.. just that most of them wreck it by thinking things like "wonder if she does yoga?" or something close to that. (if anyone's read the same thing they'll know what I mean)

.... I tried to look it up but instead I found this "People seem to forget or not realize that sex has nothing to do with sexuality. Your sexuality is when you can find yourself in love with a person and want to spend your entire life with them. Sex is only for pleasure, and it can be towards anyone. An example is their are many actually straight people who do gay/lesbian porn. Your body and it's hormones can be aroused by any gender. What this means is you can still be "straight" but feel aroused by girls, the truth is it all comes down to what gender you want to spend the rest of your life with." o___o definitely better adv then what I was gonna say

I hope I didn't just repeat what everyone said to you ^___^;; I seem to be a bit more dyslexic today then I usually am do to how tired I am and it will take a while for me to read through everything

Hahahaha it wasn't repeated at all, that helped quite alot really. I had no idea of that difference between sex and sexuality... Now I know almost for sure that I'm straight :3 I mean, I really can't see myself even dating a girl.. how could I ever marry one? Thank dear, you helped alot <3