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My grandmother is in hospice and I know she's going to die. I don't want to get into details, but she fell and has gone downhill from there (clearly). I keep telling myself she'll get better even though I know she won't. I was really close to her and I'm not sure how to deal with this situation. Any advice?
I spent her final moments with her and she died this morning. Could you lock this please?
The biggest advice I can is that you spend what time you can with her, remember who she was and the good memories you have of her, but most importantly: DON'T BOTTLE UP YOUR EMOTION. IF you need to cry, Cry. If you need to talk to someone, just have someone listen to you. Do it.
I was very young when I lost my grandfather on my fathers side so I can't really use my own personal examples too much, however I can possibly help you by using my boyfriends difficulties. He was very close to his great grandparents (They practically helped raise him. Mom was a single mother.) and when he was 18 they're health quickly just deteriorated. First he lost his Great Grandfather is a freak hospital accident and then his great grandmother shortly after that (She pretty much died of a broken heart.) But it hit him hard. Unfortunately, he put his grieving on the sideline (Even though it hurt him so bad, they were very very close) because he was dealing with everything from a very very depressed grandmother who he was taking care of, angry family members (They left EVERYTHING to him) and felt that he didn't have time to grieve. It wasn't until he met me and through a lot of talking did he finally let loose of his anger, pain, and hurt by their death. . . After that, he's felt a lot better and feels that he just needed to get that out. He tells me that it felt like a ton of bricks had been lifted from his heart.
Basically I'm just telling you that, It's going to hurt, but so long as you have someone to talk to, remember her with, and know that she loves you, you'll be okay. Don't fall into a depression and don't be afraid to show you emotion sometimes.
Hope this was helpful. And I'm sorry for your grandmother. I'll pray for her okay?
She died this morning. I was in the room with her. I got this message a little late, but it was comforting nevertheless... thank you for responding.
