Not sure whether to put this under relationships or issues and advice but im sure our wonderful mod will sort me out if im incorrect in where I placed my topic :)

So Ive been dating this guy for a bit now and things are so awkward between us at school I cant even look at him in the eye. He has really strong feelings for me and I'm very bipolar about us. My preference in relationships is girls. I dont like being with guys at all. But I don't know if I should try to make it work and get over my awkwardness around him or just break up with him?

And for those that are going to say "Well why are you dating him if youre gay?" I can't tell guys no, I get bad anxiety and I just have a fear of the outcome of me telling people no. It terrifies me. So I had to say yes and he was dying for a chance.

So there. Advice would be lovely guys. Thank you :)

My simple advice is to be honest with him. If girls are for you tell him so! Leading him on is bad, going on with something you aren't into is bad.

So unless you are 100% sure girls are for you then end it with him. If you're with him to see if you -might- be able to be with men then I'd also let him know. A relationship of any sort built on lies is only doomed.

can you help her? You always seem to know what to say...

I did the same thing, only backwards lol. A really sweet girl asked me out when I was in school, and I was too nice to say no. I have extreme anxiety and this was before I took medication for it, now I look back and think "Why did I ever let that happen?".

Anyway, long story short I ended up really hurting her. My advice to you is really sit down and think about this situation. If you're sure you like girls and can't picture yourself with a guy, then you need to end it now before it gets out of hand. At the very least you should talk (or text if its easier, since theres no face to face anxiety) to him about how you're feeling so he knows the relationship may not work out. Remember, you do not ever NEED to say yes to someone. Your happiness comes before anyone elses.

I know it can be difficult, but neither of you deserve to be unhappy :)

If you are into girls don't hurt him. The longer a relationship lasts the more it hurts to let go of it. Better tell him now that you are into girls and didn't want to hurt him. If you wait too long it will just be more painfull for him. Also you know you don't feel comfortable with this. Trying to feel comfortable with something you are not is absolutely the wrong way.