I'm 14. He's 17. He has beachy hair - (aka brown with blond streaks). He's not in school and I'm in year 9. We both have feelings for each other and my mum is fine with a relationship. But is it worth it? He's really caring and doesn't like to hurt girls feelings. But I wanna make sure it's right before I start something with him.

Advice?

Well he seems fine to me. Why not go for it? I don't there's a huge age difference and he seems like a nice guy.

Hang out with him a little before really getting into anything... also, consider the laws in your area regarding age of consent. If he is 17 going on 18, that poses a problem for any relationship that you might be considering. Your mom may be fine with it but if other people report, there might be an issue.

Other than that, don't rush into anything. Go to the beach or the movies, something that friends would do before deciding whether or not you'd be compatible in a romantic relationship.

Thank you Jem. I was going to go with it anyway, but some advice can never hurt. anyone else?

Thank you Jenn. We've known each other for a year. The laws in my town are fine. And yes he is going on 18. We've talked about it and we're not gonna do anything sexual, besides kissing and cuddling. We both know the difference between right and wrong.

anymore advice?

The only thing that I could tell you that might help is try not to.. idk, ruin it? Those aren't the best words. -poor word choice- -_-; But what I'm saying is, see, this year, my friend Amber (8th grade) was going out with this kid, Connor (7th grade). And apparently he was telling people that they were going out, kind of bragging about it, and people kind of thought he was cooler since he had an older girlfriend. Amber thought she was being used and they broke up blahblahblah. But your case is vice versa anyways. I don't think (and I hope) that it won't happen in your case, so good luck. c:

Thank you Allie for your advice. We've talked this all through and stuff and telling people is something he doesn't plan on doing unless he has to. Same with me.

Along with my mum's rules ; he's allowed to come over during week days when he's not working and i'll see him every saturday coz he doesn't work then.

You're not going to know if it's 'worth it' until you're actually in that situation. And, you're the only one who'll be able to answer that question.

Just proceed slowly, don't rush things.

Thank you Kai. You're quite right.

Thank you everyone for everything.

Well, if you both like each other and he seems like he'd take care of you, then I'd say it's worth a shot. You won't know until you're in the situation... it never hurts to take a chance, so I'd say go for it! Just be aware of age of consent laws in your area for when he turns 18, if your relationship goes that far... and good luck!