Well.. my grandma has lung, bone, and liver cancer, and she has been getting treatments and stuff for it. Well a little bit ago she was arguing with me, and I snapped at her. Well I was complaining to a friend, and he told me to go easier on her because of something, and I asked him why (I mean yes, I am easy on her, It just sometimes gets hard) (I live with my grandparents) And he told me that his dad (family member) said that, the doctor told her she has less then a year left to live, and I did NOT know that. I feel terrible, stupid, depressed, and a complete retard right now. My eyes are puffy from crying, and I don't know what to do. I am going to apologize to her tomorrow because she is asleep right now I just..... I didn't know.. I swear... Advice? Please?

Tell her how you feel and the regret and remorse that you felt afterwards. It is best to have happy memories of her. What I wouldn't give to tell my great-grandma I love her one last time. Time is precious. If she gets angry a lot or says something you don't agree with brush it off. That's all I can say.

Your best bet is just to sit down with her and tell her that you are sorry for what you said/did and that you regret hurting her feelings and then the two of you can havea good long cry together. But you might want to also try working things out with her and attempt not to snap at times like that. I mean, I know it may be difficult not to just blurt out what your thinking, but then again, she may think she can get away with it because of her condition. By which I mean no disrespect, but some people change in situations like that.

Just don't try to buy her forgiveness, I've known people who do that and it causes more problems than they solve. And on a slightly unrelated note, I'd suggest spending as much time with her are it is possible for you two to do. Suggest that the two of you watch a movie together or you could always take her to a park to something of the sort. maybe even just take a short walk around the neighborhood, if that is possible in her condition.

I think sitting down and telling her how you felt about the problem and that you are sorry for your actions. The next few months will be really hard for her and those that love her, so the best advice I give is try to make your peace with her and try not to fight with her anymore. I wish you and your family the best hugs

Well honestly, don't beat yourself up over it. Shit happens and people gets mad. She's obviously been around a long time and knows that. Just apologize to her, be sincere and move on. Spend as much time as you can with her and enjoy her company.

I'm sorry your grandma is so sick. :( That really sucks.

But, I agree - sit down, talk to her, and apologize. I think she'll understand.

And, tell her you love her.

Thank you guys so much. I am going to do that, I was going to do it last night, but she was asleep so.. I really did not mean to, it was a mistake that I snapped at her. I was just having a bad day, I mean we all have one, do we not? But thanks so much. hugs you all

I agree with this. I don't think you have to walk on eggshells around your grandma and treat her differently because she is sick; it would probably annoy the crap out of her anyways, if she knew you were doing that. :P She'll probably have forgotten about it by tomorrow anyways. No big deal, we all get annoyed from time to time.

I'm sorry your grandma is sick though. :(

I wouldn't be too worried about it. I know if I was that sick I wouldn't want people to have to walk on eggshells around me, or treat me differently because of it. I can't imagine that she wants you to be all rainbows and magical moonlight around her constantly.

It's perfectly normal to get mad once and awhile.

grand parents understand these things, just make the most of your time left with her. Dont dwell on your arguement.

I lost my grandfather this past jan. I did all I can to enjoy the time I had left... It makes it easier.