I usually don't post here, but I do want to know what you guys think of this:

The night betwee friday and saturday I was spending the night with my boyfriend. Someone pushed the doorbell at half past 12; I was asleep and my boy went to tell whoever was pushing the bell to stop because he didn't want me to wake up.

Then he got a cute gun in his face and they told him to lay down and be quiet. My boy lives in an appartment where they share the kitchen and stuff but do have seperate rooms. Two more guys came in and literally crushed the door of the one of the neighbours. We were the only ones at home and the guy with the gun came to watch us. My boy was just hugging me and telling me that everything was fine,, but yeah there was a gun pointed at us so I wasn't too sure about that.

Eventually the guy left and we heard the front door again. We went to look and they were all gone. The room of the neighbour was... terrible. They had thrown everything that could have been thrown etc. We called the police and they came within 5 minutes.

The police handled it fine, but I'm not sure if I'm doing find. Everytime the doorbell rings now I'm scared - I go look through the window who they are and I won't open the door until I know it's someone I know. I asked my boy to lock all the doors when we go to sleep etc.

So my question is: what would be the best way to handle this situation? I know that we are able to get professional help and stuff and I am going to accept that. Nevertheless I really want to know what you guys think, if someone has had this kind of experience and how they handled it etc.

XD I'm sorry for the huge text XD

That's scary. x_x Increasing the security of your house is probably your best bet, so well done for thinking of that first. Secondly, just don't open your door at odd hours in the morning! Is your front door strong enough? You'll need to make sure they won't be able to break into it if they tried. One good thing to have is a peep hole in the door. My family's old door used to have one, and it was incredibly useful. Probably quite cheap to get too - it'll save you having to look through the window and possibly being sighted.

Now that this has happened and the police were alerted, it's likely they might increase security around the area. x)

That really must have been scary. I hope that you'll be okay.

The fact that your friend submitted to him 'till he left was the best thing he could have done. Increasing your security will do you good when you are out and at home, sleeping. I hope the police catch the guy.

I'm so sorry. You probably need some therapy for a little bit, just to sort your feelings out and get help coping with this so it doesn't develop into a serious issue. Extra home security might make you feel safer too. Do what makes you feel safe just don't go to extremes because that's unhealthy.

That would definitely be scary. x.x You two should work on getting more security for that place and do as much as possible to stay safe. Therapy is also a good idea... it's good to talk about how you feel and get those things off of your chest and get suggestions and support from someone who's qualified to give it. Also, be extra careful at night. See if you can get a peephole for the door so you can easily see who's outside... if you don't know who it is, don't answer and just wait until they're gone. If they give you trouble over it, have a phone near the front door so you can call the cops. Make sure your place is securely locked, or you have a security system set up... maybe some cameras or alarms.

That kind of thing doesn't happen very often... and if it does happen again, the cops will be sure to take care of it, and you should be fine. They won't do this for the rest of your life, I'm sure. It'll take time to get over it, of course, but just looking on the bright side is good... at least you weren't by yourself, and it could've ended much worse. You got very lucky, and handled it in the best way possible.

Yeah, we decided not to open the door after 10 pm and before 8 am. But the front door can be easily broken - because it has two big windows. The door of the neighboor was locked, but the guys broke it with 2 or 3 kicks so closing our door may make us feel a little saver... in fact it isn't.

The neighbourhood where my boy lives isn't very save at all. The guys broke in because the neighbour was supposed to have some drugs in his house - he had been dealing for a couple of months.

The house is rented and we aren't allowed to make a lot of changes. Change the front door is one of those things we aren't allowed to do :(

My boy already came up with a plan of him moving to another neighbourhood - but I'm not sure if that's too extreme at this point. Of course it won't happen again soon, but things like these just happen there. This was the third time that someone broke in because of the neighbour - they always want him...

Thanks for all the advice so far ❤ makes me feel a lot better just telling the story!

Wow that must have been terrible. At least both of you are fine now.

I think his plan of moving into another neighborhood is the best thing. But keep in mind that you both should scout everything and I mean everything. Should he have another neighbor that is the same as this one. Or the doors and everything are easily opened or broken down.

However another solution maybe is to tell the landowner that this thing has happened and that the door and security needs to be checked. Also, I think it would be best to also inform the authorities (police and landowner) about his neighbor.

Oh sweetie, that's horrible! I'm glad you and your boyfriend were alright and that no one else got hurt.

It's totally understandable that it freaks you out when the door bell goes off, and I think over time that will eventually wear off. All of this is still pretty fresh and having a gun pointed at you is very freaky, give yourself some time to heal.

As for what to do about the place... replace the door (of course), get good locks, and maybe a good peep hole so you can look out to see who's there instead of through the windows.

And of course talk to me! I know our time zones are totally different but I'm always on pretty late.

i don't think moving would be too extream.

We did inform the police about the activities of the neighbour - we were both pretty scared and honestly didn't care if he was going to get locked up or something for dealing with drugs.

The neighbour is a pretty nice man but I won't cover for him or anything. It is his fault in the end, for dealing and having bad friends and stuff like that 8D

Thanks sweety ❤ I'm glad we weren't hurt either. We aren't allowed to replace the front door snifs so that's going to be a problem.

Really? Could you explain why? Not that I want to attack you, but I'm just doubting if that would be a good solution. Of course we wouldn't be leaving with the neighbour anymore, so a lot less contact with weird people... ^^" but still...

You guys can't replace the front door? So what are you going to do?

I don't think you should cover for the neighbor, because of what he is/was doing you two almost got hurt or worse. He chose to deal, taking all the consequences / responsibilities that go with it.

You could look into moving but I don't think that would necessarily solve anything. There was a drive by at my step mom's house, I think she found over 20 bullets - we have big bay windows in the front - and once my dad found out he wanted her and the kids to move.

We all had to tell him that it was random, the house is on the corner and that moving wouldn't solve anything. You can be a target anywhere.

Ah I'm so sorry this happened to you and your boyfriend! How incredibly scary.. I wanted to pop in and recommend one more security item for your door.. I cant for the life of me remember what its call (Will ask the husband when he calls) but its something you put under the knob of your door and it sits on the floor in front of it..anyway its super effective at keeping people from pushing or kicking in your door..They try it they break their leg..giving you more time to call the cops or flee out another exit..I know we got ours for $45 at Menards..

Good luck hun! (And I would recommend moving to a safer place too..Perhaps a gated community?)