Ok..

I rent through a small real estste firm, this firm has just put a new guy on. He's nice enough.

But he calls me about 20 mins ago, and arranges the inspection for the banker (the house is being sold) then he proceeds to get all shady, and says "look, Amanda, do you mind if we have a talk?" Can i come around this arfternoon? When are you home. This is on a personal level. Even though I have to maintain professionalism, we need to talk, I'd really like it if we were alone"

I lied for some reason and told him i was out all day, when in fact I'm really just sitting at home.

So my problem is- I think he is going to hit me up for sex, or something just as funky. I know he likes me, he calls me babe and sweetie, which is fine, I don't mind a bit of light flirting. But he's marrid, and even if he wasn't married, I just... can't do it.

So I'm freaking out, and don't know what to do!

Am I blowing this all out of proportion? I mean, when someone wants to talk to you on a private note, what the fuck does that mean?

I don't know, I'm kind of curious, myself. Although.. I don't know how comfortable I'd be with having him over at my house - I guess it depends on you.

Maybe if you could like, negotiate it so that you still meet with and talk with him, or just talk with him. I mean, I'm sure it would be awkward.. but I'd have to know what this "private matter" is. Even if I had an idea of it, I'd still have to know, haha. Guessing would kill me.

Wanting to talk to you privately could mean anything. He could feel like he could confide in you, want to give you some under the table tips about selling your house, anything. I don't think you're overreacting, though. I wouldn't feel comfortable having him over at my house to talk about these private matters. I think it'd be a lot better to like, talk about it over the phone or in public.

I rent this house. I don't own it. So it's not about the sale. It's just the way he was talking, all serious like, and shit.

I guess that's why I'm a little... flustered, because I don't know what he wants.

He wanted to give me a ride to this imaginary place I said I was going to. I'm like naaah I'll just take the bus.

I won't let him inside. I hope it isn't anything arkward. I have to see him again tomorrow for the inspection :(

I would talk to him on the phone. That seems a way less... creepy... way to discuss these 'private matters'. :)

I was contemplating that.

But I have no credit. :( Which makes it worse. I would have just texted him anyway, rather than speaking. Its much less personal.

Are you packing your stuff up? 'Cause you could have a friend come over, and have them in a room next door. Tell the guy that you don't have a lot of time because you're packing, and sorry that it can't be completely private.

LOL

My brother is coming home around that time xD

That's why i said I was out all day. Like hell I was gonna be alone for this little chat of his.

But no, we're not packing. My lease is til August. They said we can stay on till the end.

Ooh, that's an even better idea. Or you could call him while you're at this imaginary place to talk.

[edit]or instead you could get your friend to help you unpack something. :D

UGh

It was even WORSE than I imagined.

Now just remember I hardly even know this guy, I've met him like twice or some such shit.

He claims to have left his partner. He said he was only engaged to her, but a 10 year relationship, youre as good as married in my book.

He is proceeding to move out as I type this.

Anyyyways. He said to me that he can't stop thinking about me

" I don't just want to fuck you, Amanda"

He said he wants to buy us a house and cars, new furniture, set myself and mychildren up for life. This is long term. He's very well off. Dresses very well, nice shoes, great suits. Fucking sweet ride.

I shit you not guys, this dude was srs bsns.

He seemed so genuine, I felt bad turning him down.

Because he wasso nice and all about it.

I told him that I was in no way ready to commit to anyone, because I had just come out of a really shitty relationship, and I wasn't interested in persuing a man right now. I didn't want to hurt him at all, but I can't do this with him.

Now, why do I feel like such a bitch?

Meh, don't feel like a bitch. You probably feel bad because he acted so sweet and talked about future and stuff. But if you don't like him that way, there's nothing you can do.

"Only engaged". Wow. :( My mom always said you could tell a lot about a man by how he treated his last girl at the very end of the relationship. I've always found that to be true.

Don't feel bad. It's not like you can will yourself to like people. (And shouldn't try, imo. He sounds like he wants a pet not a woman.)