My boyfriend of almost 7 years said this to me the earlier this week and for some reason its all I've been able to think about.

I can't figure out if I keep thinking about it because it makes me feel good or because I have an amazing amount of guilt hanging on my shoulders.

Lately I haven't been able to sleep, probly something to do with moving across the country. But in the past it was always him that couldn't sleep.

So now I'm the one that tosses and turns, while he just passes out.

we've been living together for almost 3 years now, and while our relationship only gets stronger..My inner demons and deep depression seem to get even more criptic its getting harder for me to show emotion, while he's slowly becoming the one with all emotion.

Why does it seem like after almost 7 years the guy that used to not even hold my hand in public is now pulling me to his chest with his arm around me for the world to see. All I ever wanted was him to be affectionate however, I mean, I love it, it just...It doesn't feel like him

what're you insinuating o.o'

I like sleeping next to my bf because guys are like personal space heaters. My bf sounds like yours, he does NOT like ANY form of PDAs, but he is the most sweetest person when I'm alone. For me, it's a cultural barrier that I had to get used to. Did it make me upset when he sometimes did not acknowledge me in public? yes. Do I know he loves me? yes. He's not very verbal - sometimes guys just aren't as TALKTALKTALK as girls are.

That sounds identical to how he was, a closed door relationship. But over the last say, year...Well since we got home from the last move(that failed horribly and really shoke us up) He's been extremely...I don't know, somewhere he changed.

He put me to tears a couple of months ago because he wouldn't touch me without permission he said he 'respected me as a woman and didn't want me to feel like I was getting bent over'

Somewhere he changed, I mean, hes still cynical to his friends and everything. But to me, I don't know, I like it but at the same time I don't

Well. I don't mean to sound snotty, but it sounds like you're putting the poor guy into a "Damned if I do. Damned if I don't." situation. You want him to be affectionate, but when he is you're not happy with that either. =/

He hasn't a clue that I even slightly rethink it. Most of my unhappiness has nothing to do with him, just reflects on how I act =/

Just from what you have said...it seems to me that he sees that you are unhappy or a lot less happy than you have been and may just be trying to make you feel better. He apparently loves you a lot you may just be over thinking things. Guys have many odd ways of taking care of someone.

Well, thinking about it and guessing reasons isn't going to work. If you really want to know what's happening, you have to talk to him.