So, I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months. My first serious relationship. The first time I've loved a guy.

The problem is, we fight/he makes me cry at least twice a month, and he sometimes can't cwallow his pride and say 'sorry'. I am 14, too emotional, and I'm having HUGE tests at school, like the tests for the DNB (Diplome Nationale du Brevet, French or people who go to French school, you understand what I am talking about), and I really need to be good emotionally. He makes me smile almost everyday, and I really need someone who supports me for my exams. He also helps me with my homework and when I don't understand my classes.

I should keep dating him, or should I leave him?

I personally think that I should keep dating him, because he really helps me in school, and emotionally. What would you do if you were me?

Keep him. There are always roadblocks in relationships. This is probably one. If it gets worse, leave. Immediately. Or it'll get so bad you can't leave.

No relationship is gonna be perfect, and if it seems to be then its defective.

A couple of fights a month isn't bad at all. There is always gonna be something that could get in the way. But if you guys talk it out and get past it most of the time then thats doing good. He seems like a keeper overall. And the fact that you yourself feel you should keep him is all the better.

Ultimatly its up to you. So go with what your gut tells you to do =]

Thank you, I feel better now. I think I wrote this because we've been about to break up 3 times, and I was worried. :c

Just as a question, you're 14, is he 14 also?

I dated a guy for 2 years that made me cry on nearly a weekly basis. He never apologized. Now I've been dating someone else for over a year and he spoils me rotten.

For me, it didn't get better and I had to leave him. And I found someone else who's a thousand times better.

For you, I think that it might just be that maybe it's getting too serious for him, and he's not sure how to handle it. It's a normal guy thing. My current boyfriend has already gone through that phase and is fine now.

If not, you could be stressing too much about your tests and it's effecting him. And you might not even realize it.

I'm going with my first assumption, about it being a bit much for him. I would talk to him about it and wait it out with him. If it doesn't get better over time, you should probably move on.

Well, at 14 you have roller coaster emotions no offense and things seem more stressful then they usually are. I say keep him, and after the tests if you still feel too stressed, just tell him you want to concentrate on studies. Hang in there- all great things take work.

safetysadie; Nope. 17.

Today he told me why he was like that yesterday. He was probably going to Berklee, and was going to leave me. We talked a lot and he said that he'd stay for me, ut when I'll end school we'd both go to the US. He told me 'I'd understand if you wanted to break up...after all, it's 5 years.' And I just couldn't. I think I really need him to be happy. :)

But he helps me with school, and I'd have probable failed Maths if it wasn't for him. D;

There will be other guys who will be willing to be an emotional support. 14 and 17 is a bit of an age gap, and, yeah, he helped you with math, but there are other people who can do that, not only him. If he's going to college, maybe you should support him in where he wants to go. Not that you don't already, but you should tell him to go where he wants and what will be best for him. Berkley is a good school, from what I hear, so he's fortunate to be going.

I dunno, me and my boyfriend havn't had a real fight yet, and we've been together for a year. That being said, we've had the usual misunderstandings and discussions at least once a month :p But then we are both in our twenties, so I guess there's a bit more maturity going around here. At least sometimes :P

At 14 you are bound to be an emotional rollercoaster anyways. In my country it's not illegal to date someone under 15, it's just illegal to have sex with them. Dunno how it is in your place though :)

But think it through, do you love him because of who he is, or just because he helps you with the homework?

I certainly hope you're not from the US. If you are, I think you need to relearn the laws. It might be frowned upon or perhaps MAYBE illegal within your state, but do NOT categorize all states in your words, thank you.

Not to mention I see nothing wrong with a 14 year old being in a serious relationship. Some girls mature years beyond the actual age of their body. I was engaged at 15 and my parents were even going to agree to sign marriage papers if we decided to get married then. He was only 17 at the time. I was forced to mature very quickly thanks to my childhood.

On topic, though: Appeal, I've already responded to you in CHIC. I hope things work themselves out over the course of your relationship. :) If you ever need more advice or someone to talk to, we'll/I will be happy to help. ^^;

My opinion is, if you're almost failing math, than you probably have bigger things to worry about than your boyfriend. :) Also, the age gap is another thing, that's 5 years... :o

Wait, your basis for wanting to continue dating him is that he helps you with school and otherwise, you'd fail? And of course, keeping you emotionally stable goes along with that.

Im 14 too. and NEVER had a bf -_- anyways keep him. everyones ganna fight at one point or another. and if you think he`s "MR.RIGHT" and NOT just"MR.RIGH NOW" then why would you dump him???

Keepkeepkeep! :D You said he makes you smile, which means he obviously makes you happy. Ok so he cant swallow his pride and say sorry - many many men can not do that ~! Just forget when he does that, take that hes sorry without hearing it, or you could tell him how you feel. Why should you always be feeling bad ? Especially with exams and important things coming up.

If you think hes gonna be a distraction from doing well in exams, decide whats better -- your future or him ? =3

Nilfy; There isn't a law that forbids relationships, but you can't have sex with a minor unless he/she's 15 and agreeing to have sex. :) And also, I really like him because who and how he is. He's the best guy I've ever known. :D

Delicacy; Thank you. ^^ I feel like I'm more mature than the girls in my class. :)

NiKKiBEE; Not only that, he helps me while making me happy.

safetysadie; I don't care much about maths, because it's a little bit easier now, but if I lost my boyfriend then I'd fail everything, due to depression.

Akarithor; He's the one who forces me to study, not even my mom does because I usually do well without studying, but he just forces me to. :)

Thank you all, now I feel hella better. :) I've decided to look for colleges near Berklee, so we can go together. If not, I'll try to be a Music Therapist or a DJ. 8D