So my (now) ex-boyfriend and I got together on June 2nd. Our one month would've been on Thursday. We were having some problems and such, but just as things were starting to look up again, he decides it's best we break up while he goes to Australia for a month (he's leaving on Thursday) and when he gets back we can ''talk about getting back together.'' Now, he's a good guy, but I know that the reason he wanted to break up was so he wouldn't end up cheating on me while he was gone or something. We also wouldn't be able to talk, because his cell phone won't work while he's there. My question for all of you is, is this okay? Was that reasonable for him to break up with me, or was that just low? If you were me, would you get back together with him when he got back? Advice please. :/

Honestly, you haven't been together that long, but at the same time, he can't even commit and be serious enough just when he goes on vacay. So I don't think its worth it to get back with him.

Seems like he just wants it all his way.

It sounds like he doesn't want to be attached while he's in Australia for an entire month. I don't know how reasonable it is.

I say don't get back together with him when you get back. Move on. (:

Talking about getting back together kinda means that its over. If he really wanted to stay together, he wouldn't have broken up with you at all. If he really liked/loved you, he wouldn't have to break up with you just in case he cheated on you. I wouldn't get back with him.

No, don't get back together with him. He will be the type that will put things on a 'break' when he goes on a business trip, or if he's out to vegas with his boys.

Basically, he wants a girlfriend while he's at home, but the freedom of whatever women he can score when he's gone. :/ Yichk.

The whole 'leave them and hold 'em' deal. He's only going to be gone for a month & he wants to do this? I would laugh in his face.

Don't give this guy the light of day.

don't get back with him.

He wants to not be with you just in case something happens on vacation. So he wont feel bad if he meets a cute girl. You are now his back up.

He migt come back and "still not know" just so he can look around for a better girl. If he does come back too you it just means he is lonley and needs sombdoy and you are okay not because he really wants you and you are his first pick.

He sounds like bad news. If he can't even put up with being away for a month then it doesn't sound like he's too invested in a relationship with you. If I were you, I wouldn't bother with him again when he gets back.

Well if he can't commit to it, he did the right thing. It would have been worse for him to leave and cheat on you the whole time, THEN get back and break up with you.

there is no way i'd consider talking to him after he got back from australia.

Hmm. Almost everyone is saying the same thing, that I shouldn't get back with him.

I know it wasn't good for him to do that, but on one hand we weren't together that long, though on the other he has commitment issues.

Just forget about him. If he can't even commit while being away for a month, he's not worth your time. He's just using you, really...surely you can do better than him. =3

There are better guys. Besides, he'll probably do this to you again. One can only take so much. I don't see this working out.

wow he sounds like a jerk?? i mean come on, if he cheated on you? what kind of a boyfriend would break up with his girlfriend because hes afraid of cheating. dear, get a new lover. your better than that

Ahh I think you guys are right. I shouldn't get back with him..eh.

In my opinion, it depends a little on.. well, lets us say the "maturity" level of your relationship (a mix of age, duration relationship, how long you've known each other, history,... and all that yada yada).

If you have a feeling you haven't grown that attached to each other yet (let us draw the line between "liking him very much + physical attraction" and "love"), I'd say it is somewhat reasonable. He could just be too insecure. Though, if you've known each other for years and liked each other for years now, and leaning to "love", I'd say it is unreasonable. He can't resist cheating on you for a month? Then he isn't worth it.

Anyway, I'd say go on with your life. Don't focus on the day he comes back. In case you're single when he returns and you have the option to have a decent talk with him (what happened there, your feelings towards each other,...), you can still see if you want to get back together or not (though I would be careful about it, and at least discuss the fact about what he would do if he again had to leave for a month next year). But don't let it hold you back from starting a new relationship with someone.

Don't get back with him. He obviously doesn't like you THAT much if he's going to break up with you, possibly get with other girls during the month he's gone, and then perhaps get back to you afterward if he feels like it. He seems really selfish and inconsiderate of your feelings.

If he'd bought up that idea to me I seriously probably would have laughed. It's like... how desperate can you get? He sounds kind of like a moron. You don't deserve to be left hanging for a month, wondering if he'll come back or not. Just tell him like it is and show that you have no interest in getting back with him.