Is this acceptable...?
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If you're in a relationship, and it's your birthday. Your love is far away, but they promise to call you on your birthday.
You wait all day.
.... And they never call.
Here's my story...
I've been dating this special someone for a month as of today. She went away to her Dad's so she was hell-bent on calling me on my birthday which was yesterday, the 27th. She was going to use her brother's phone. She swore nothing would stop her from calling me.
I waited all day.
And I finished the last slice of my birthday cake alone at 11 PM last night because I realized she wasn't going to call.
It really hurt a lot, and now today is our one month anniversary. Ten to one...she forgot and she's not going to call. I reminded her five times in one week because she kept forgetting and I kept hinting at it.
sighs
Discuss, please.
THIS IS ADDITIONAL INFORMATION ADDED FROM YESTERDAY
She called me yesterday and apologized for about five minutes. She knew it was my birthday, and as I posted somewhere along the way, it's her new favorite number. That's how she remembers. She told me she kept getting dragged out of the house by her family whenever she came remotely close to calling me on one of her family member's cell phone (that could text, but oh well).
I think we're ok, I just...eh.
Aww, well it does sound like she doesn't care :(. Perhaps tell her it meant a lot to you and you waited and ask her to try to remember better next time. Well...happy belated birthday at least XP.
People can forget dates, best not to look too deep into it.
Well its just a one month anniversary. Idk, maybe if it was a YEAR anniversary..
It was also my birthday yesterday. That's the main thing that I was kind of really miffed about. =/
She knows the day. It's her new favorite number. o.o
She apologized for five minutes straight since she actually called today...surprisingly. And she sounded sincere about it. I told her it was alright, I was just sort of confused.
Additional thanks to you, Jasher~
i seriously think people get too hung up on stuff like that. i am terrible with memorizing significant dates and i make no bones about saying so. i have certainly missed my share of dates that people find significant and i am sure to apologize appropriately.
however it bothers me somewhat when people continue to hold me to dates when clearly i am not interested in (or incapable of) remembering. is it insensitive of me to acknowledge my personal quirks or is it insensitive of others to hold me to the inability to keep them in memory?
i write important dates on my calendars (yeah, more than one), but life gets in the way. acknowledging a birthday or something remotely close to the actual date should be just as good. i think the older you get, the less important this stuff is.
Well...to be honest, some people just forget.
I know that I don't even really care about birthdays, and I say this upfront to people when I first meet them. I'll say happy birthday to them because I'll probably remember, but I just have a really pessimistic view on the world where your birthday is just another year older and another year closer to dying/wasted in high school.
Maybe she's just that way, and don't get hung up over it. It doesn't mean that she doesn't love you or whatever you think it means. She just forgot.
Something could have come up. You never know. Have you talked to her? If she was promising to call, but didn't, I would be worried before I was angry.
And if she did genuinely forget, I think that you should let her tell her side of the story, or at least apologize, before you hold it against her. Everyone messes up sometimes.
Sometimes people forget or things happen. I would have been worried, but at least she apologized?
I got my surprise of the day when it comes to remembering dates; it's me and my boyfriend's one year anniversary. We're not making a big deal out of it really. But then, one of my roomies suddenly texted me, congratulating us :D I didn't have any idea she of all people would care for such a date ^^
