I'm very torn right now.

Mike and I have been together since just after Christmas, and we're pretty much head over heels for one another. He's my everything, and he tells me that I'm his.

It killed me when he had to move to Montreal (granted, it's two hours away, but still) in Mach, but we've happily kept a relationship, and he's down constantly for family, so we're always seeing one another.

But...

He's going to be going to university there, which means he's only going to be able to come up once or twice a month. He's told me it's going to be hard, but he wants to try, and I do, too.

Is it good choice, though? I want him to be happy, and he's the kind of guy who would stay with me despite the distance because he doesn't want to see me hurt. Even if his eye was one someone else, he's not the type to leave under that set of circumstances, and I don't want him to feel tied down if that happens.

He said he wants to try and make it work when school starts, and only god knows how much I want to try it to. I love him with every inch of my hert. But is it better to tell him that we should just call it off?

So... what should I do?

I've never personally been in a long-distance relationship to that extent so I'm not sure how great my advice may be, but.. If you're both really willing to try it out, and you're both really in love like you said, why not? You obviously really love the guy, so why should the distance between you two ruin that, you know? The fact that both of you really want to try it and make it works seems promising enough.

You've only got a problem if he isn't sure about trying. If he is willing and eager to try it, I'd definitely say give it a go. He sounds like a good guy-- tell him that if he isn't happy with the situation, he should just be honest with you. That way, you will at least have put your best effort into it, which is very good to know in case it doesn't work.

Try it.

Better than wondering about what could have been later on. Do video cams on msn or skype to keep in touch and see each other. :)

if both of you are receptive, you should give it a try -- if, at very least, you learn how you deal with long distance relationships. it is probably best to always keep your head about you and trust your instincts. if the relationship starts to fade, perhaps a friendship is best. either way, two hours isn't all that bad! ^_^

I couldn't do it. Thought, the same happened to my boyfriend and I. We live in South America, and he wants to go to Berklee, in Boston. He'd be able to see me once or twice a year. But oh well, it's easier for us, I think. He's 17, so he'll go to a music college here, and when I finish school we will both go to Boston. :)

If you really, really, really love him, you should try it. If not, you can always think about moving. ;) Just kidding. You shold try. :)

He's told me that when I'm done school, he'd like me to moe to Montreal with him, assuming we're still together (which I can see).

I'm more than willing to try. I even bought us pir of webcams so we could chat on MSN. :) Thanks, guys. I guess I just need to feel as if I'm not making a big mistake by asking for advice. I think maybe sitting down and talking through everything might be a good idea?

Go for it ^^ And two hours isn't bad, there's more than that between my and my guy. But MSN and Skype do wonders for this kind of relationship ^^

ive had a long distance relatonship and it didnt last very long. maybe a month... and especially with him going away for college. he'll be having fun, and will be meeting new people. itd be risky. but if you both r commited try, i dought it will work out

I've never had a long distance relationship so I can't speak from experience. But my thought on this is that you should give it a shot- it's worth it, I reckon. I mean think about it, it might actually work out ! :)

MSN+ Webcamming = ❤ I use it to keep in touch with my close mates who have moved overseas HOURS away from me. We're still the very best of friends. On a similar note, I'm sure it'll work on the same basis with relationships. :D

Only you can make the final choice, i think next time he comes home, you should tell him youre concerned for him and only want him to be happy, and heres the thing, no matter what sort of person he is, if hes that miserable, you will know.

If you do try it, there are some things you can do to keep close while hes gone, sometimes my bf has to go home for a month and these are some of the things we do to keep close, first and foremost, get skype and headsets and mics, hearing voices will cause like 90 percent of issues to cease, no misunderstood tones or anything like that. If you both have computers in your room, just lay in bed on skype and talk til you fall asleep. Watch the same movie together while on skype. Communication is going to be the most important thing about keeping close while youre not together. Good Luck.

I think you should go for it. I've been in long distance relationships that were states away, but two hours is really not that far.

wow, crazy coincidences going on here. I have a boyfriend named Mike and we started dating in November of 2007 and we spent almost every moment together, up until the time I moved away for graduate school last August....a mere 16 hour drive away.

We are still together and things are going great. I was really worried about the change from seeing him every day to only a few times a year, but if you both put in the effort you can make it work.

It requires both people to want to make it work though. We speak on the phone a couple times a day, talk on IM/skype, we're such dorks that we even play cribbage, euchre, and other games on yahoo together. You also have to trust each other. I have absolutely zero concerns about infidelity when it comes to my man, but I know that other couples who have tried to do the long distance thing and this has caused serious problems/fights.

Ultimately it is up to you, and I'm not going to lie, long distance sucks and it is hard, but I know that for me it will be worth all the trouble, since I am positive that he is the one for me.