So that whole issue between the family turned into my dad finding out my mom's been cheating on him and her, my sister, and that kid leaving. They're getting divorced after 25 years.

I don't know what to do...I really don't.

I don't have anyone else to talk to, and I don't wanna upset my dad more by talking about it...

We're gonna lose everything...

That's rough.

Well, you won't lose everything. Family is family. You and your sister may be apart, but you're sisters. You'll ALWAYS have each other. It's not like you won't be able to see each other again. =)

As for your mom cheating on your father, that is something that they may have to work out themselves. It's a personal situation that only THEY can work out.

I'm really sorry that you and your sister are caught up in all of this...

My sister was in on everything. She threatened to kill both myself and my dad after I told him about the kid she snuck in.

We will. I make maybe $600 a month, get paid bi-weekly, and my dad's disabled and unable to work. We won't be able to pay bills or anything. Most of our family's income came from my mom and sister's SSI.

I called her mom. She's coming down in the afternoon to help us out with trying to figure things out.

I don't know what to do.

I wish it was all a nightmare but it's not...

I'm so sorry. I cannot even fathom the amount of pain this situation must have put you through. :(

Is there a possibility your father can get unemployment or medical assistance? There's always welfare- which is an ugly word for a lot of people, but at this point every little bit helps. There are also church organizations that can help your family by donating foods, clothing, and appliances. Everyone needs help now and then.

I would also see if there is some free counseling (if you are still in school, there should be) that you can get. Or support groups. Those are so helpful as you have the ability to vent all your frustration with no judgments and support from people who understand what you're going through.

Hang in there.

EDIT- I would also talk to a court. Seeing as you're her daughter, she does have some legal issues to attend to on your well-being. She cannot just walk away free, especially with her infidelity. The court will rule in favor of your father as infidelity is frequently despised by court jurors/judges.

I cried hard enough to make myself vomit. =/

He's on disability and SSI, but that only brings in about $200 a month. We also get food stamps, but that's less than $40 a month. We're gonna have to turn to the church =/ I hope they can help us out.

I'm in a trade type college and there's no counseling whatsoever. =/ I'm gonna have to go back to MHMR...

I'm trying. I dunno if I'll be able to get through this...

I wish I could do more for you. This... no one should ever have to suffer through this. If I think of anything, I'll be sure to let you know. One of my former professors was a lawyer, I can always ask him the recommended procedure for your situation.

Okay, thank you.

I just don't know what to do.

Divorce takes a toll on everyone. My boyfriend learned that the hard way. He nearly died when his parents got divorced. =/ He got really depressed, his weight soared, and he ended up with diabetes and had to have surgery.

-sigh-

I don't know where to start...

Well, my parents divorced very early on so I haven't been through the experience of knowing what is happening when it is happening. I know the older you are, the harder it is. I know it hurts from where I sat.

It's painful, but you're close to that age where you're getting ready to leave and start your own life. You have a choice to keep in contact with your mother. It would not make you a bad person if you chose to cut off ties with your mother and sister. It is understandable to feel betrayed and though they are family, you're not under obligation to have them be in your life.

I'll be honest, it messes you up and you never really heal from your family split. But, it will get easier. Just keep yourself busy and try not to think about it. I recommend jogging. I jog because I feel that helps me to run away from my problems. It releases endorphins which make me feel a little better and when I'm out there, I'm not forced to face the problems I have to deal. It's that moment you take out of each day for yourself.