Okay, so yesterday, I met this girl. Sweetest girl ever! She was a little obnoxious, sure, but she was adorable and REEEALLY nice.

So we talked, and she started talking about how much her mother hated her (oh lawd, I shoulda run) and then she tells me that she's suicidal and shows me the scars on her wrist.

I'm like, "O.O"

Anyway, I changed the subject.

So... if you tell someone that you've just met that you're suicidal and show them the scars on your wrist... why would you do that?! It just makes people uncomfortable.

UGGH.

Discuss, plz.

that's strange but sometimes you feels most comfortable telling people you don't really know secrets, not sure why but i always feel like i can talk to them easier about some things

maybe she's trying to reach out and get help. ): way to be a big help.

at first i thought you meant that you met her on the internet, because sometimes people say things like that. but wtf. maybe she wanted attention? someone to be there for her? but that's really weird, telling a stranger that you cut yourself o___o tell her to see a therapist, my only advice.

There was this girl in my class whose mother, at birth, had to choose between her own life and the the girl's. She was convinced that the rest of her family blamed her for her mother's death and she used to cut herself because of it :(

She was my best friend in kindergarten and was always so nice and funny...

I don't know if she was really suicidal but it's kinda similar? But I understand why you changed the subject... I wouldn't have the slighted idea of how I should respond without offending the person

Well maybe it was a cry for help :c She's obviously troubled and maybe she needs help and doesn't know where to get it, or maybe she's just too afraid to get help? And maybe she wanted to let somebody know. In all honesty I don't know why someone would show someone they just met rather than a best friend or something.

Ahh. That really fails. That's not really something you should tell someone when you first meet them, though. I think she should've got to know you more before even hinting about something like that. I don't know if you can really help people who are already cutting, just be a good friend to them and help them when they need it.

I've only had that problem a few times, and I've helped them whenever they needed it. I'm like an emotional sponge. D':

Well, what was I supposed to say? I didn't know her!

If I said, "Don't do that," She'd think I was insensitive.

Sometimes it's easier to tell someone something like that when you barely know them, compared to when you know them really well. She's probably just looking for help and doesn't know what to do. Perhaps she just needed to get it out.

it could be that she was just putting all her cards on the table for the sake of your maybe future friendship

it's like 'before we start anything, there are a few things you need to know..'

i can understand that it's extremely awkward but it just seems like...

This girl is suicidal and confides in you. Your response: "ew... i didn't want to know" This girl has a serious issue and youre upset because it makes YOU uncomfortable?

I would have asked her why she thought that was helping, why she thinks suicide is the solution. And I'd tell someone when I got home :/

I'm sensitive to the issue though cause my friend was the same way.

obviously she was looking for help! don't run away, be close to her. people really need companionship when they are going through this. when you run into her again apologize if you were maybe insensitive or scared. say that you don't want anything to go wrong and you can always be a listener.

you may think you can't help her, but all people like that need is a pair of ears, really!

I've had stuff like that happen to me.. There was this "new girl" at my school. And during gym me and my friends were talking to her. She started talking about how she saw her dad OD on heroin and how her mom was addicted to cocaine. And how she ran away from home all the time and finally her cousin's family took her in. Which is how she got where she is now. It was kind of awkward but I guess she just wanted to get that stuff out in the open. "Take me for how I am" kinda deal. I give her respect for that.

I agree that she might be looking for help. Maybe she doesn't have any people she trusts and she thought you were nice, so that's why she told you?

As everyone has previously said, it seems that she's looking for help. She might have told you about what's going on in her life while you guys are strangers because if she does commit, she won't feel more upset or guilty about leaving someone. I could be totally wrong, but anything is possible. Maybe you could get to know her more and help her with her problems. I hope everything turns out okay.

I didn't say "Ew, I didn't want to know."

I said, "That's terrible..." And she looked at me like I was a freak so I changed the subject.

Anyway, she's going to my school next year and we have a really super duper counselor who works during the summer, so maybe I can talk to her about seeing him. I didn't want to seem like a bitchy person or seem judgmental, because I really liked her. And we'll see each other a lot during the summer...

so...

i'll talk to her.

Oh how odd...maybe she needs help?

ugh, omfg it's too weird. there was this guy at my work who, on the first day, was telling us how he hates his life because he was a mistake and his family hates him. Every single shift, he would tell people he hated himself, and that he'd make jokes about him killing himself. Hi, awkward. :(

It is strange but for people who are suicidal it's important for them to get out their feelings. It's part of the healing process.

That was a bad reaction ): I've had friends come up to me and confess that they've gone through the same thing. No matter how well you know someone or not, you should always be willing to listen and try to help them out. If you can't listen at least put some effort in and try to introduce her to someone who will.

I doubt she was just doing it for attention if she barely knows you, it was probably a cry for help. By pushing her away it just reinforces how upset/lonely she must be feeling, which obviously isn't a good think for someone who is suicidal /:

Sorry it was 'awkward' for you, but you should have handled it better.