before you read this i have to point im not the sort of person to get upset about ANYTHING, i get annoyed or stressed but never actually upset, or scared :(

but lately I've been having some pretty bad flash backs of my dad, and there honestly scaring me. I've not seen the man in two years and until a few weeks ago i hadn't ever thought to much about it and some how I'd got it into my thick skull that he was never physically abusive to me, only mental but then my mum mentioned some thing a few weeks ago and i keep getting random flash backs that send me into tears :(

I'd had nightmares and stuff about my brothers and mum before and they upset me but i had completely blocked out everything about me, and now I've got this horrible feeling or dread, im like on edge constantly, and scared and i don't know why. i stayed at my aunties and i couldn't sleep half the night because she still has a husband and i was expecting them to start fighting! it's so stupid :(

they happen at the most random times, e.g. mum: we haven't had KFC in a while Me: oh yeah -insert random horrible memory from having KFC a few years ago-

any one have any idea how to get rid of them? because there just getting worse :( help please i can't sleep im so scared :(

(if your wondering my dad was arrested for 15 years of child and domestic abuse, but he's still a fucking teacher!)

Wow... I'm sorry to hear your dad was like that :/.

There's not much you can do, really. I think this is just your way of grieving perhaps. What I'd suggest doing is whenever one of these thoughts pops into your head, either try and take your mind off it, by keeping busy - time heals all ailments!

Or, instead of thinking about the bad times, think about how it's not like that anymore and be happy that it isn't :).

i try to but it just annoys me so much he didn't get what he deserved (wow i sound like a psycho) like he's a teacher, and my little brother and sister still have to see him, and he isn't violent to them but he is really horrible yo my sister (because she's a girl) then i think of that and i get all up set again i don't know were it's all coming from though, i last two years with out it actually hitting me this badly :(

thanks for the help though :)

I'm sorry to hear your that you had a rough past with your Dad. :(

Only time can get 'rid' of your flashbacks. Think about it this way, the past has passed. :) Live everyday as a brand new day ~

that's what I'd been doing for the last two years, I didn't every cry the day he was arrested XD and i was working great, then randomly i started getting flash back, it was confusing to say the least

Guess I'll just have to try harder XD

thanks :)

I think that you should get help, counseling perhaps. They help you deal with flashbacks.

i think you have some serious anxiety and the flashbacks are merely a result of an over-stimulated brain. if you feel there is no way that you can manually work yourself through the anxiety (via meditation and relaxation), then i strongly suggest going to a doctor about it.

i suppose i could try going to some one, but then i've got to ask mum about it :( if they get any worse i'll talk to her, i just don't want to worry her about it

What I have to do. (same thing but with my birth mom) I have to just forget. The memories still come back. But i push them in to a dark place and just pretend that it was a silly dream it never happened. that seems to be the only way it can not really hurt me.

As for you sis. it is time for you mother to step in and stop that shit from even happening! As a parent she shouldnt even want ANY of her kids around that man!

But that is just my humble little opinion.