i honestly hate family drama, especially when you're in the middle of it.

okay, so here's my story.

i am sixteen years old, with an alcoholic mother and a father that neglects me for his obsession with ebay. see, this obsession doesn't sound too bad, but trust me, it took over his life. he's just obsessed with selling and buying sports jerseys and other sports items. it has filled up our house with all his items, and it got so bad, i can hardly walk through the hallway because there's boxes everywhere of his "inventory".

but anyways, my alcoholic mother has been in and out of my life. month in to month out, going to rehabs and jail. she hasn't been to jail lately and thankfully, but rehab has been her home, and strangely enough, none of them have worked.

my mother just came back about two weeks ago from being away for about 8 months at rehab. the second day she came back, she drank.

see, i love my mom and i wish her the best. but her drinking has always been so out of hand, she's ruined a lot of things for me, my brother, and my dad. honestly, life was a lot drama free when she was gone. but since she's been back and drinking, it's been a fight almost every night.

the best thing for me i think, would to get out of the environment because it's extremely stressful and makes me annuity worse.

i guess the reason i am making this thread is because i guess i just want someone to talk to. maybe a friend, or maybe someone to explain to me their story.

i've just been isolated lately and need some help.

Hi sweetie, I'm sorry to hear you are having a rough time. I feel I can relate with you but opposite parent. My dad was the one with the alcoholism ...and obsession with online gambling. And it mostly came down to throwing our computer screen out of the window or breaking light bulbs my step mom bought, etc. in his drunken fits. And my step mom just added fuel to the fire. I'm sure I had some great childhood memories, they are just all drowned out by the other mess.

I don't really want to say my dad was the only reason I moved out, because he wasn't. I don't think there is enough time for it all. xD but I moved out when I was 17 and it was the best thing for me. I just separated myself from all the negatives and focused on the positives in my life. Though I was in and out of a lot of places and it was hard, I eventually got myself on my feet without help from either my dad or step mom. And after a few years of a few "hi's" every now and then, my dad and I are closer together.

My step mom on the other hand, we never had a relationship to begin with and I was constantly the "Cinderella" between my 3 other siblings from her side. It felt like I was shunned from my family because of her. I forgive her and have moved on now...it still bugs me that she couldn't take me in as one of her own. It was always a battle between us for my fathers affection when in reality all I wanted was a mother to be there for me when I needed someone!

My biological mom on the other hand was in my life until I was two years old. With the occasional "I have a little something for you in the mail for your birthday" and nothing ever came. Kind of stuff. But I don't feel much about that as I don't know her to well.

I don't want to tell you how to live because everyone's situation is different, but I know personally that getting out of a situation like that will only release that stress. I felt like my whole past could finally be behind me and I could move on to do what was right for me. Not what others wanted me to do for what was right for /them/. It just makes it harder when they are family.

i'm sorry to hear about your family problems as well :c i guess no life is perfect, huh? that's what i try to tell myself.

i am super proud of you that you got on your feet all by yourself, most people cave in and move back in with whomever they use to live with. and i'm hoping i don't do that. me and my boyfriend are trying to save up for an apartment, because me and him both want to get out where we live. thing is, we have to stay in my town, because of the school i go to. i can't switch schools because i go to an alternative school, where it's pretty much my last chance at passing highschool. but i must say, it helps out a lot. we looked around for apartments around our town, and there's one about 10 minutes away which is drive-able to my school. but probably no school buses go out there is the problem. neither of us even have our license, so that holds us back a lot too. he can get his anytime, but he just never has a ride to the DMV, and same with myself.

i just hate relying on people, i really do. it's honestly one of my pet peeves, because more than half of the time, people don't go through with plans, and you get let down.

i just wish i could be done with all my school, have a successful job, and a beautiful house. but i guess that's what dreams are made for.

It will get better, there is always something to look forward to even if you don't know exactly what is planned for you! I'm sure everyone out there has problems no matter how big or small they compare to, it's what you make of it! I know I'm such a cliché but I feel it's the truth. :P

Thank you, and I know you will do it too! Just stay strong and focus on the positives, I will always be here to talk to if you need an ear. ❤️

Ah, that's understandable, I didn't have my license when I moved out either so I know that's tough. Maybe there is a way to request a bus route close to the place you are looking at? I know some schools have that option but I'm not to sure, could be something worth looking into though ^_^ . What about duplexes in your area? They seem to go for about the same price range, and may be closer to school? I barely manage to graduate high school with everything that was going on but I know that it is one of the top priorities for me. Just keep focus on those wonderful dreams of yours and I'm sure you will make them come true!

i completely agree. and yeah, i've been trying to stay positive through everything, i really have. but sometimes when you're low, it's kind of hard too at times :c my boyfriend helps me through a lot though, i must say.

no city buses in our town, which sucks. and i don't believe we have any duplexes in our area, now that i think of it. i'm just gonna focus on school, and when i'm graduated, i'm going to focus on getting a job. i just want to move out already with my boyfriend, ugh.

I'm so glad to hear you are keeping a positive attitude and that you have awesome support with your boyfriend! hugs Keep them close by ^_^

yeah, he's been a lot of help c: we fight and argue, but we always make up at the end of the day. i've been searching for awhile for someone like him c:

I'm sorry about your problems. I'm not so badly off, but my dad can be an idiot sometimes. I'm not sure where I should start.

My middle brother has a lot of medical problems and he needed to move back home because he cannot live on his own. My mom and I would make constant trips to town, so she can make his bed, do his laundry ect. He got kicked out after me because has anger issues, was abusive towards my mom and was just not taking care of himself, including not taking his medicine. When he was still out on his own, he had a heart attack and my dad did not once go to the hospital to see him. His excuse? "I have to pay the bills". Since he moved back, my mom said my dad said he's a burden, ect.

I got kicked out because my OCD was really bad because I experienced a traumatic event. No one could touch me when I came out of the shower because I would go back down and wash for 20 minutes, or until it felt "just right". I was called names like "psycho" and "I should call the cops to get you locked up". My dad even called me fat during thanksgiving once. I put on quite a bit of weight since my incident.

My parents have been fighting a lot too. My mom doesn't love my dad anymore and cant stand him. She sleeps in her own separate bedroom. My dad has this knack for making us look and sound stupid because he's absolutely perfect.

My mom's back is totally shot and she's seeing a back surgeon in January. He sits in front of his computer 24/7 and doesn't do anything to help her out. He never really has helped her out.

Anyway... just little stuff.

oh wow, i am so sorry to hear that. it sounds like you have a lot to go through as well, and if you ever need someone to talk to; to either vent or just get your mind distracted... it'd be happy to help. hopefully things get better for you, i really do.

I've been over during a few fights and I just wanted to cry. It feels like I'm always in the middle of them. My mom constantly talks about my dad and what he does. It's so fucking annoying. I told her I don't like when they fight in front of me and she told me to "grow up"