i'll try to keep it short.

i'm in a relationship with this guy, Alex, and i was trying to keep it fairly casual with him, because i recently got out of some serious shit with my now ex fiancee.

but things have been moving really fast; he told me he loved me. we've been dating for ~4 months. about 3 weeks ago, i found out i was pregnant. i went to my doctor, thinking i could just terminate and get it over with, but it turns out i've had some complications.

at first they told me they didn't know what was wrong with me, so they made me get bloodwork done every two days. it was awful, expensive, stressful, and tiring. a few days ago i had a procedure done, and my doctor assured me that everything was over with and i would be fine. great! i'm done, i don't have to worry.

doc called yesterday and told me they found something, it's a partial death/molar pregnancy i guess. it's scary, i don't want to think about it.

so now i have to go through more procedures and more stress and more hospital visits. i hate this. i'm scared. my boyfriend is trying to be supportive, i know he is, but i'm afraid he's going to leave and this is going to be too much for him. i'm afraid he's going to stop talking to me. i'm just really lost and confused and i don't want to lose him. or if he sticks around, what if we can never go back to normal? what if this is just a permanent, awkward thing between us?

Four months isn't really a long time, but crazy things happen.

Guy's in general, tend to freak out about commitment type things. This isn't as big as stay with me forever, but it can translate that in some ways I suppose.

For this situation I would just say keep calm. It'll be a tough ride but confidence and self reliance will keep him around longer then clinging and falling apart. I'm not saying you have to keep it together around him all the time but just remember that you're in the part of a relationship where you still need to give each other space.

Lean on him a little, but you can still turn to friends and family to even out the weight. To much pressure isn't good for any one.

At this point, what happens happens. I don't mean to be fatalistic, but things happen all the time that develop and change our relationships and that's just part of having any kind of relationship with anyone. It's up to him whether this is too much for him or not. I know it's tough to have to remind yourself that, it is for me sometimes, but it really is his choice and there is definitely the opportunity to grow closer through the experience. I agree with Evil, also: even out the pressure and get support from family and friends.

I think at this point in time the person you need to focus on is yourself. Getting yourself better health wise. I completely understand the stress of being in hospitals and procedures . But that's why you have family and friends for , to support you in these times. :) I think right now you have to try and focus on the positives. Also, I suffer from anxiety myself and the best way I find to deal with it is by distracting myself.

As for your guy, I think that if he is the right one, he'll stay. If not, he will leave. I'm sure he will though. c:

You're borrowing tomorrow's problems and right now you -need- to focus on you and your health. He's been supportive so far. Allow him to continue to do that. Lean on him as much as you need to. What you both need to do is keep the lines of communication open. Talk to one another. There is a very real possibility he's feeling the exact same way as you and that he has some very similar fears.