Edit: It has been a while now.
Things around me are changing and for the better. I'm over the break up and have new things to worry about.
Thank you all for listening, the advice and the support. That means a lot to me.

And I'm not sure what to think or do.
I feel empty inside.
I've been crying on and off.

We decided to remain friends but It still hurts... I just hurt.

And..... maybe it's for the best?

You see he said he didn't feel he could treat me the way he felt I should be treated. That maybe he couldn't love me the way I loved him.

I guess I understood his feelings and I let him go.
I guess I'm happy he was honest at least.

I guess what I want isn't sympathy but maybe... just a chance to vent and some cheering up....

Aww, I'm sorry! hugs You're very right to be happy that he was at least honest. A lot of guys, at least in my case, couldn't be honest. So there's that. But try and cheer up! I'm going to see what I can do to throw some presents under your tree and just try to make the best out of the holiday season. Things get better! ❤️

My ex decided to leave me a week before we moved together to California from Florida. We have been here 11 weeks. It has been the best 11 weeks of our time together! I have never felt closer to anyone before, even her after three years. I am not telling you you experience is going to be the same, but give it a shot! :]

Thank you. It is still so odd and tough to get through though. I'm having a hard time talking to him after he wrote that... I should explain, It was an online relationship. He was and hopefully still is a good friend from another website. We started talking on skype after we were talking through PM on the other website. But even though it was online it still meant a lot to me.

I just needed to vent and subeta was up at 1 am...
I'm... proud I posted this.
It got out my feelings I really needed to say.

And maybe.... I hope we will still be friends after this.

Aww...sorry to hear your relationship ended. -hugs- It always hurts at first but it'll soon pass. Just be happy he'll still be in your life.

I'm trying. I'm hoping he is still in my life. Right now I've been to afraid to contact him... Today I spent a lot of the day away from the computer to just take the time to think.
I still need to think things through.

I'm really sorry. ): I hope you feel better. I'm no good at cheering people up but I can say that I recently ended a nearly four year relationship. My ex had on several occasions said things to the effect of "I can't treat you right" and "I don't love you like you love me", etc etc, and I was so sad over it thinking that he was just wrong and that I was never gonna be happy again. I ended up breaking up with him because I just knew I wasn't happy anymore, with him. But still I was so sad because I was like "I just wish he knew that he WAS treating me right and he DID love me like I loved him he just didn't get it" Well, fastforward a bit and I'm now with a new person, done some growing up and realized that I was so wrong about everything. While I thought he was THE ONE FOR ME and that I loved him so much I realized that he really didn't treat me at all well and there are other people I could be spending my time with and pouring my energy into and receiving the same amount back. I think my advice to you is just to keep your chin up, try to work on the aspects of yourself you aren't happy with, do some learning about yourself and you will be okay, I promise. But, be careful of "being friends." That caused me a lot of problems at first and made me very upset sometimes when I would miss my ex horribly (even after I was with a new guy and thought my ex was an ass)... I didn't hang out with my ex for at least 2 months after break up.

I'm starting to feel better.

I've decided to move on and learn more about who I am and how to love myself before I can love another.

I guess I've realized it was more like where where just friends anyway.... I know online relationships can be difficult but I was usually the one trying to reach out to him, even though he Technically started the relationship. To be honest I am a bit wary about staying friends with him but at the same time I'm not.... I dunno what I'm getting at. lol. In my opinion my ex was a nice guy. Still is to me.

Think I'm happy right now. :3

Yes! Learn about yourself. Take up old hobbies you forgot about. Try to push yourself to do more things you have been scared to before. That was my big thing after my break up (which is a bit different than your situation I guess, because I was with him nearly four years and he was my first relationship), I just like did all the stuff to my hair I'd been too scared to do and a bunch of other stuff. Tried to not turn down any opportunities to hang out with people (because that was a problem with me, I'd rather just sit at home). I've been infinitely happier.

I totally get it. That was a problem with me, I was wary of being friends with my ex because I thought of how he had actually been a huge dick to me sometimes, but I still thought he was a nice guy and cared about him. I have hung out with him a decent amount, but it's looking like our friendship might actually be dwindling down and might end soon. I don't mind it, now that I'm not dating him I see a lot more of him that I didn't before and I'm like errrrk... glad I got out of that haha. But do what feels right to you. Ask close friends for advice too though, that helped me a LOT. And if you know, you ever need advice you can ask me, I don't mind.

I got back into costume making after the break up, namely fursuits. Something I haven't done in a few years even before I got together with him. I'm also getting back into Subeta, and improving my artwork and story telling skills ten fold. Doing what ever I can to try and learn about myself. :3

I've gone to a few friends and actually found that it's been easy getting over this hill. They really have cheered me up.
Honest to gosh I'm very happy I posted this topic. I got out my feelings and got advice and words I needed to hear.

Thank you. It really means a lot.

I know I'm late to the game, but what you're doing sounds like it's working fantastically. It's nice to be able to stay friends but that's going to require at first that everyone has enough time separate to settle in with themselves and rebuild on their own. You're doing a great job!!

what do you do? you cry. You grieve. You feel sad for a while and then you move on. You might need some distance from him before you can be friends (most people do, fyi, but if you dont that's cool too) but you just have to let the process run it's course. You'll be fine though, and good luck!

Thank you. It's been a few weeks now And I'm getting better. Much better. Things around me are changing for the better and I can see that now. :3

That's really great! Something I've learned after 2 marriages and countless boyfriends is that you may love that person, but there's never 'the last one'. If you break up, there will be others, and it wont feel the same as it did with the last person, but sometimes it can be amazingly better.