27 and i still live at home with my mother. i'm pathetic. i've tried to get my degree two different times (two different fields) and failed. i am disabled and working at starbucks to survive. the person i'm "dating" i don't know if i'm truly dating them, because it is ambiguous and i cannot get my heart broken right now. i am more fragile than i think i am at the moment. ruining my dinner will send me spiraling into dark thoughts. i'm pathetic.

edit: funny how i posted almost the exact same thing over two years ago. i can't believe i've screwed up my life so hard and thought i was getting better. i'm worthless.

You're not worthless. Please don't think that. ❤ You're far from the only person in that situation; it's unfortunately very common since many jobs don't pay a living wage even if you do have a degree. I've worked with many people over the years who "did all the right things", went to school, got a degree and they kept working at Walmart because they couldn't find a job in their field.

You're still here, you're you and you are important. You don't have to know exactly where you want to be in the future, what's important is that you're still here. It might be hard to see that right now but it's true.

You might not be in the right place right now to make plans and that's okay. It takes time. Honestly, idk if it's comforting or not but a lot of people feel the same way you do. I'm not trying to downplay how you're feeling - I feel the same way most of the time tbh - I just mean that you're not alone and you're NOT a failure!

When you feel ready you can look at options for what you want to do. For right now what's important is you have a good support system, or build one, and that you keep being you and keep going. You're not a failure for being where you are. That kind of thinking is something that's drilled into all of us and it's incredibly toxic by design.

Sorry if this is rambly, I'm a bit tired. Just saw your post and wanted to say something cause it struck a chord. I really hope things get better for you soon. ❤

I completely get this. I've been living with parents far too long for my age too, feel down about being a failure despite trying to do everything right in life, and feel like I haven't made any progress in 2 years as well despite trying with things like therapy. With things being so similar between our life stories it's objectively not you or your fault. Everyone our age is suffering like this.

I've been trying really hard to undue all that negative programing moderns society keeps throwing at you. it's really, really hard because if you push back against the wrong person they'll just re-traumatize you by saying that's the way society is as if it's an objective, immutable fact. As if anything arising from a human culture is objective or immutable. It's not the equivalent of saying a lungless fish has to live in water -- it's not a naturally law that we have to be well-paid successes to be worth anything. We need to keep reminding ourselves of that.

Society has a lot of baloney standards. I think people living with their parents at your age is more common than it was even just 20 years ago because cost of living is so high. Rent prices certainly aren't going down, and if anyone's judging you for not being able to afford your own place, they're a donkey. Disabilities add insult to injury since we can be seen as leeches who don't contribute to society. I could go on about that last bit, but it's more about my own grievances as an autie than likely what you're dealing with.

In other words, you are not pathetic for being in the situation you're in. The system as it exists right now is designed to screw us over in the name of profit, and your suffering doesn't make you a bad person or any of those negative judgments people tend to make of their peers.

On a less negative note: If I wanted to couch it in simple terms, one could describe what you're going through as a 'setback'. You thought you were getting better, and you might have been. It's possible you're not giving yourself enough credit for any accomplishments made between then and now.

Mine one step away from living alone, after mine mother's death the household has dwindled to two. ATM mine sharing this house with mine father, and when he passes mine the sole occupant.

Mine used to it now, tho the idea of so much house and one living is not odd. Just inevitable, mine disgusted by the idea of making a family when mine don't have to. It's only a different set of difficulties, why make it hard on mineself?

This mine gknow, an endeavor like this can't be done without support. Friends and family, little else.

you're not alone. Our economy is unstable, and the healthcare system is broken. I'm 25 living with my parents, chronically ill + no job. I'm lucky to have my fiance who is working very hard for the both of us, but I feel like a failure most days too.

you're not worthless, and you aren't alone either