Title pretty much says it. I've never been so suddenly ghosted by someone. This was more of a blossoming friendship-not romantic relationship. All IRL and phone calls. We spent a lot of time together, had common interests, and could finish eachother's sentences. We talked regularly...and the calls were all pleasant. No bitter words exchanged...we even made plans ot hang out again (that he cancelled) Then the calls stopped and the texts I sent him-his replies were just two words..and it would take him days to respond. I felt like I was bothering him just by texting. After that, I figured I'd wait for him to initiate contact so I didnt seem clingy. Well, it's been two months and nothing from him. Gone.

 I already have anxiety and racing thoughts. Now I'm constantly wondering what I could have done wrong. Every piece of advice says to not worry-it's more about him than me and probably not my fault, but I'm so frustrated w/o the closure. I think it hurts for me because it's different than a romantic fling type of situation; I felt like I made a great new friend and he just disappeared :( 

I know being ghosted is (sadly) common. How have you worked through/gotten over being ghosted?

I'm sorry you went through that. :( sadly i'm the one doing the ghosting, ooops. I can only speak for myself -i do it because i'm an introvert. i was also depressed {i still am, but medicating} and keeping the convo going was beccoming difficult. Sometimes i had nothing so say. :( Or sometimes, some people write a few miles long message, and i don't have the time and energy to read all that. {not to mention that at times, the info was repeated again and again and again}

I made a friend from Japan -i even forgot how, lol And we used to talk a lot. just as friends, as he never showed any romantic interest. not that i wanted him to. Then, he's been on a trip through Europe, we met, and after that, we didn't talk as often/much. He had to go back to work and recover the time he spent in Europe (3 months). And then he met 2 girls and married one of them. The other one wasn't into him at all. And after that, we really stopped writing. But i also don't want his wife to get weird ideas, you know? {i do think men and women can be JUST friends, but not everyone thinks this, and i don't know his wife}.

i do miss talking to him. something similar happened with another user here on Subeta. i do miss talking to them. It's just that at times, people come in our lives for a short period of time. What can be done is just accept it, appreciate the nice memories and see what was the meeting supposed to teach you, i guess.

Sorry, i ca't help more. :(

I think you'll find that every piece of advice says that because it tends to be true. It is more about him than you and it's probably not your fault. Like said, there could be a lot of contributing factors but with the state of the world at the moment it's probably a mental health situation - especially if his messages began to wane like that. Alternatively, he could've gotten a jealous girlfriend, or gotten busy with school or work, or broken his thumbs.

But if the issue is with closure, have you considered just asking him why he stopped replying to you? Sometimes people don't realise how affected you are until you draw attention to it. It might feels awkward, or embarrassing, but I think that once you bite the bullet and just ask, you'll realise that it feels like a bigger situation than it actually is.

Also, as for how I deal with being ghosted - I just forget about it. As you can tell, my coping mechanism isn't a good one, or even a viable one. Like I'm usually the person doing the ghosting, because my memory is awful.

Well he doesn't go to school or work. Always seemed more bored than busy. I'm gonna go w/the jealous g/f thing to make myself feel better lol. As for closure, he's more into calling vs texting, but whenever I tried recently to ask, his phone rang and then went to voicemail. We both discussed mental health situations and were open about them, and I let him know I understand b/c I have similar situations. He doesn't use social media, so I can't even spy on it to get an idea of what's going on. Thank you for your insight! Broken thumbs lol Either way I'm putting more energy in than what it's worth I guess.

Thank you, you did help! It's helpful to get perspective from people who do ghost. And it's a shame we live in a world where (a lot of) people think a man and women can't be "just friends" ugh!

Hey my Birthday is next week. If he can't even bother with a "Hey HBday" text/call then meh. It just really sucks.

Yes, if he doesn't bother saying happy bday, try to forget about him. :( Friends should at least say that. But what do i know? i need to be reminded it's this person's or that person's bday -_- hence i should keep my mouth shut.

Well I think he's gone for good anyways. I know I can't put too much thought in ppl remembering Bdays, but he can't forget CHRISTMAS lol

That's for sure! XDD

Well I reached out and got my closure. Apparently he wanted to be more than friends, but suddenly decided I was too fat for him. He went on this whole speech about how gorgeous if I would be if I got skinny.

Which is weird bc I met him in person and hung out with him at my current weight.

So... I'm still confused but unghosted I guess. It sucks because it seemed like he'd be a good friend.

If he said that, you're better off without his superficial ass. It still hurts, no doubt there, but at least you've lost how many ever pounds by him leaving.

yeah he made it sound like he's attracted to my personality, but not my body, and is ashamed to be seen w/me so doesn't wanna be friends either.

That's a good way to put it! 😂 def better off. Thanks you made my night