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Sep 22, 2020 5 years ago
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TW: Animal Abuse Yesterday, my boyfriend's cat got brutalized by his now ex-roommate because he told him he's got to move out before going to work yesterday morning. (The roommate was having trouble with my boyfriend's cat, who would hiss and swat at him, which was alien for her. I've met her: she's so social, playful, sweet and outgoing with everyone. Even with the vets today, despite being in agony, she was calm and cooperative so everyone's taking this as a sign that he's repeatedly abused her; there's been in incident every day with this guy since he moved, and he moved in a week ago.)

The tally is as follows:

  • Her lip's been torn from the bottom jaw
  • Two of her fangs have been fractured
  • Her tail's been pulled so hard it's got nerve damage (that'll require amputation if it doesn't get better)
  • And her leg's been broken in half at the ankle joint and has compressed up into her leg; it requires surgery asap.

It's such a bad break that they're considering amputation of that leg. We can't worry about the dental yet but in my experience, that'll be an extra $1500 - $3000. (My cats fangs had to be removed after he had been brutalized by a psychotic neighbor I had years ago but that's a whole other story.) Regardless of whether we try to save it or not, we're looking at thousands of dollars spent aside from euthanasia, which we don't want to do as she's only four and both of them lost her companion cat to old age just a week before all this started. We're even in talks of surrendering her if it means she gets the medical attention she needs.

Things are dire right now and I've been saying "we" because I'm paying. He can't afford this on his own and honestly, I usually couldn't either; I recently got two grand from the government due to late taxes being all filed at once, (long story,) but that won't even pay half of of what we were cited at my vets: $4-6 thousand dollars (Canadian.) As it is, we're being referred to a hospital out of the city for not only a specialist but for "cheaper" rates (though how much "cheaper" is is unknown. I'm hoping it shaves a grand off the price at least.)

I don't know what to do. I'm more than willing to sacrifice my plans to save that baby's life but I'm scared I'll never see this money again. My friend is both working and on disability but the former may end soon due to his employment and his rent is so high he can barely afford groceries even with this job. Even the $250 euthanasia fee is an expense he wouldn't be able to spare without sacrificing his food budget. We are considering a GoFundMe but right now, we have no numbers to go off of and I worry we won't get enough shares/donations to help out with surgeries that can't wait.

The man responsible for this tragedy has a history of animal abuse, according to his family, of whom we've been in talks with. He's currently staying with his great uncle right now; the man responsible for the living arrangement with my boyfriend who tried to do him a solid after this guy "had trouble finding a place." No, we were not warned he had a problem with animals but they opened up about it after hearing the extent of this incident. We're not happy and we're filing a report as soon as animal services opens this morning. We called the cops and got told who to actually call before being abruptly hung up on.

update We've reluctantly decided to go with amputation as my boyfriend just can't let her go after losing his first cat two weeks prior to this mutilation. (He died of natural causes a week before the abuser moved in.) I told him that it may still come down to surrender decision if anything else goes wrong, he cried but understood and also admitted to being just as divided as I was over this decision but, ultimately, he needs her right now and tbh, I think she needs him too. I told him how I felt, how I didn't fully approve of the plan but, we have come this far and am not abandoning either of them now. He cried again and apologized for all of this. I wish I could hug him over the phone. Between calls, I've told him to watch amputee cat videos to familiarize himself with their appearance, how they walk, run, play, etc. He's been really good and has been doing everything I've told him to do and Cuddles is doing great at the clinic. No status on her tail quite yet but they said before that, due to the drugs she's on, she's not going to be aware enough to feel like moving it. "She's--ahh, you know--pretty drunk right now." Today though she's alert, unable to eat due to having surgery this afternoon but was eating and drinking yesterday and the day before.

update 2 Cuddles surgery went smoothly and while she struggled to eat at first, she's eating more now and is being extremely affectionate with the staff at the vets, which is more like her old self. It's a huge relief to us; the anxiety's been unreal. Here's hoping she's back home by Wednesday.

Update 3 Cuddles has been home since Thursday. She's slowly adapting to her new condition. The meds keep her pretty sedated. She ran yesterday when my guy's aunt and uncle came over and is getting in and out of her enclosure without assistance. Her stitches are due to come out this Sunday.

Sep 22, 2020 5 years ago
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I have no idea what it looks like in your country, but besides crowdfunding, which sounds like a good idea, aren't there any local animal welfare organizations you could try contacting? Maybe someone who's working with abused animals on a daily basis could give you some advice, not only when it comes to vet care, but also law and getting the money. Also, definitely make scans/copies of every bill you're paying for judicial proceeding (or whatever is it going to be).

Geez, I don't even know what else to say... I wish you the best of luck. My boyfriend's parents' dog recently got attacked by a dog of their neighbours, lost an eye and has many wounds on her throat and head, but managed to survive and is getting better every day, so I hope there's a chance also for your boyfriend's cat.

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Sep 24, 2020 5 years ago
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I am so sorry your poor kitty had to go through this. Are you looking into criminal proceedings towards the insert several colorful metaphors here who did this? I would sue him to within an inch of his worthless life. I agree with what Quidam said as to making copies of the vet bills for judicial proceedings. Let us know if you do crowdfunding - I'll donate and I'd bet a lot of others would too. If I were you, I'd contact a local humane society or rescue organization. I used to volunteer for one and most of them will give you lower cost vet care, if not help you out financially, especially if you tell them you're considering giving up the poor kitty because of your financial situation - they would much rather spend the money on helping a cat stay in a loving home instead of spending the money on taking care of the cat themselves until they can find it another home. Please let me know what happens, okay? I have two fur babies of my own, and quite honestly, I would be hard pressed not to beat the living shit of the son-of-a-bitch myself. I really hope everything goes well for you, your boyfriend, and sweet baby kitty.

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Sep 24, 2020 5 years ago
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Quote by Quidam
I have no idea what it looks like in your country, but besides crowdfunding, which sounds like a good idea, aren&;t there any local animal welfare organizations you could try contacting? Maybe someone who&;s working with abused animals on a daily basis could give you some advice, not only when it comes to vet care, but also law and getting the money.
Also, definitely make scans/copies of every bill you&;re paying for judicial proceeding (or whatever is it going to be).</p>
<p>Geez, I don&;t even know what else to say... I wish you the best of luck.
My boyfriend&;s parents&; dog recently got attacked by a dog of their neighbours, lost an eye and has many wounds on her throat and head, but managed to survive and is getting better every day, so I hope there&;s a chance also for your boyfriend&;s cat.
There are pet loans/loan services that pay for the bulk of it but we have to pay them back over time. We've spent most of today finding a new cosigner when the original one we found was discovered to be on disability, which will disqualify her. (It did for me.) Animal services here are... lacking. Like, they're there but unless you want to give up your pet, they won't help it.

His kitty, Cuddles, is in stable condition at my vets; eating and urinating just fine but still hasn't moved her tail. We're worried about that but it's too soon to expect any movement anyway. She is purring though when examined which is a good sign. As for crowd funding, we're definitely looking into it.

I'm sorry to hear about their dog; did they seek medical attention or just let him heal on his own?

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I am so sorry your poor kitty had to go through this. Are you looking into criminal proceedings towards the <em>insert several colorful metaphors here</em> who did this? I would sue him to within an inch of his worthless life. I agree with what Quidam said as to making copies of the vet bills for judicial proceedings. Let us know if you do crowdfunding - I&;ll donate and I&;d bet a lot of others would too. If I were you, I&;d contact a local humane society or rescue organization. I used to volunteer for one and most of them will give you lower cost vet care, if not help you out financially, especially if you tell them you&;re considering giving up the poor kitty because of your financial situation - they would much rather spend the money on helping a cat stay in a loving home instead of spending the money on taking care of the cat themselves until they can find it another home. Please let me know what happens, okay? I have two fur babies of my own, and quite honestly, I would be hard pressed not to beat the living shit of the son-of-a-bitch myself. I really hope everything goes well for you, your boyfriend, and sweet baby kitty.
Yes though it's been a trial: they told us this was animal control's problem, then we were directed to animal welfare and we were told to go back to the cops who didn't send anyone out until 7:30AM yesterday. There's finally someone on the case and yes, we know where the little peckerwood is staying and have given that info to the police. They have to get another jurisdiction to pick him up but, so long as no one's told his aunt, (who's trying to protect him for some reason,) they shouldn't have any trouble finding him. (His great aunt and uncle ratted him out. They're pissed with him. Everyone we've spoken to is pissed with him and he's already got a previous warrant out for his arrest so... two birds, one stone?)

As for the humane society; lol no. I did go to them saying that we were considering surrender if we couldn't get help (but obviously wanted help first) and they took that as an invitation to harass my boyfriend at work and my vets over it. I had to send them a stern email telling them to not do that again and reiterate the terms: that surrender was a last resort. When they called him the first time, they said his only option was surrender too. No option for financial aid, under the table care, nothing. To them, my guy "can't take care of her" if he can't pull $4-6k Canadian out of his ass to try and save her leg. (And that's just to start. If this doesn't work, then it's another 2-4k to amputate, same if her tail doesn't regain function and at least $1500 for her future dental. I know this from when my cat needed dental surgery and we went through the same process then.)

I asked if I could be first in line to adopt her if he did surrender her and got a spiel about how it's a "first come first serve" basis and that they have many factors to assess, especially since they know Kai doesn't like other cats (but liked the stray they helped me with.) I'm sure he'd love her btw since she's female and he's male (albeit fixed, but that instinct never dies.) But sure, hem and haw lady. e_e;

As for a GoFundMe, we just set one up... and I can't link it due to the TOS. SIGH.

Sep 24, 2020 5 years ago
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I&;m sorry to hear about their dog; did they seek medical attention or just let him heal on his own?
They had to, at least without finding a vet immediately to stich the wounds the dog would have bleeded out, I suppose. And everyone was afraid as hell that the damaged eye would start rotting as pus started coming from it and it generally didn't look well. Fortunately, my boyfriend's mom is very stubborn and managed to find a good vet – now the eye is quite useless, but at least it didn't have to be removed.

Humane Society sucks hard, then. I'm quite surprised – I used to volunteer in a local organization, a kind of a cat shelter, and if we couldn't do anything for someone asking for help, at least we were giving phone numbers of our best vets and sharing donation requests on out Facebook (and people donated, there was a group who always donated – the organization itself survived thanks to such people, as the government doesn't care much).

Glad to hear the kitty is doing... fine, considering her state, let's say. Good she still wants to eat. Doesn't the tail move at all, any part? I just wonder, because in the organization we had some cats with damaged tails (broken at some point or completely limp), and in most cases amputation wasn't needed as long as there were no risk of infection.

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Sep 25, 2020 5 years ago
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They had to, at least without finding a vet immediately to stich the wounds the dog would have bleeded out, I suppose. And everyone was afraid as hell that the damaged eye would start rotting as pus started coming from it and it generally didn&;t look well. Fortunately, my boyfriend&;s mom is very stubborn and managed to find a good vet – now the eye is quite useless, but at least it didn&;t have to be removed.</p>
<p>Humane Society sucks hard, then. I&;m quite surprised – I used to volunteer in a local organization, a kind of a cat shelter, and if we couldn&;t do anything for someone asking for help, at least we were giving phone numbers of our best vets and sharing donation requests on out Facebook (and people donated, there was a group who always donated – the organization itself survived thanks to such people, as the government doesn&;t care much).</p>
<p>Glad to hear the kitty is doing... fine, considering her state, let&;s say. Good she still wants to eat. Doesn&;t the tail move at all, any part? I just wonder, because in the organization we had some cats with damaged tails (broken at some point or completely limp), and in most cases amputation wasn&;t needed as long as there were no risk of infection.
After today, I understand why they had to. Wasted a lot of time running to the specialist clinic only to be told that the entire procedure would be $6200-$7400 CDN. It included future xrays, bandage changes, etc but... that's more than a down payment on a car and I could only get approved for $2500 flat, which will cover her eventual amputation tomorrow at my clinic.

I'm not happy about this decision at all. She doesn't deserve to lose her leg because of what this asshole did but our backs are against the wall. He doesn't want to surrender her and we can't afford the specialist clinics here. The one we tried outside of Toronto can't help for two weeks, but by then the injury will heal wrong, for sure and we're stuck doing this anyway.

I have no idea how her tail's doing; I'm just dreading the bill when it comes to that, if it comes to that. As for the humane society, IDK, it's just different here, I guess. The city has too many cats and is too expensive to live in. I'm considering moving after this because I've had it. Everything's cheaper outside of the city. Part of me is wondering if I should be like that mother and keep looking but we just don't have the time nor money... but I'm still not fine with this.

Sep 25, 2020 5 years ago
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By the way, how old is the cat? Do you keep her at home or did she use to leave? Hovewer brutal it may sound, from my experience I think she'll get better even if amputation is inevitable, and the most important thing is to avoid her from getting infections from the wounds. She'll need time to learn how to walk and run again, but... yeah. Do you have any x-rays already? Could you upload it, or any other "current" information on the GoFundMe page? It just sucks so much everything sounds so expensive; it may be expensive here, too, especially if some complex rehabilitation is needed after the surgery, but... eh, I don't know. I've checked for other animal welfare organizations in Toronto, but it doesn't seem to be many of them; found also Toronto Cat Rescue and Cat Busters Animal Rescue, are they also that useless?

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Sep 26, 2020 5 years ago
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She's a four year old indoor and, it's funny you say that because, while I had a breakdown over the decision last night, we finally came to one: we chose to amputate the leg so he can keep her in his custody. I'm not in love with the decision as it means taking more than what I felt was necessary in order to keep her with us, but looking at her yesterday at the specialist? All she wanted was out of that cage and in her daddy's arms. It was heart breaking.

There was no comfort offered by the HS. They wouldn't tell us anything about her progress, care or even when they'd have her up for adoption; who knows if they would've kept the leg, especially considering the prices we were quoted by the specialist--though amputees are harder to adopt so who knows how much of their budget they'd blow on her?--but they hemmed and hawed so much over my request to adopt her, I couldn't trust them not to just skip over my application even if I was first in line. We could arrange others to join in the attempt but again, no guarantees of any of them getting approved.

Needless to say, we managed to get approved for the loan in order to do this but even that was a trial. Our beneficiary didn't bring any paper work with her so I ended up switching roles from cosigner to beneficiary. I'm much better suited to pay off this loan anyway, as she makes less than me. I've got to call them back at a less chaotic hour to discuss details like payment dates, rates, interest percentages, etc since our original cosigner was pressed for time and so was the woman helping us over the phone.

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I&;ve checked for other animal welfare organizations in Toronto, but it doesn&;t seem to be many of them; found also Toronto Cat Rescue and Cat Busters Animal Rescue, are they also that useless?
Sadly, they're totally useless. Catbuster's is a poorer version of the HS and at the top of the Veterinary Services of TCR, they state:
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With limited resources, we are unable to assist owners with veterinary care for their cats. However, there are several resources available to help you keep your pet healthy and safe.
Now, tbf, they do list The Farley Foundation on the same page which sounds like a Godsend: a charity that's supposed to "help" people on disability pay for vet care, but owners can't register themselves, they have to go through a registered vet so, I checked. Annoyed to find mine on the list of approved vets, I called them up and went, "HEY," only to find out that it's more of an allowance they grant the clinic and they had ran out of said allowance, which is why it was never suggested to us at the time. (I have no idea if it's yearly, monthly or what. Forgot to ask. I think it's yearly or the charity gives the vet like, 10-20k to spend on one person.)

As for xrays, yes, we have them but seeing as we already came to the decision, it seems pointless to post them now but we have updated it with the decision we were forced to make. The specialist was confident it could be done "easily," but the price point made it impossible and the recovery time lengthy.

Sep 26, 2020 5 years ago
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Eh... at least she's not that old, then, so chances are she'll recover faster. Of course it depends on the cat itself – I remember sterilizing my cat, vet told me she would spend a few hours sleeping and then about 2 days not leaving the box we brought her in at all, but after 2 hours or so I found her trying to go through the whole flat to reach her litter box – and beginnings, weeks, maybe months may be difficult, but she'll learn everything again, even if a lot of love and patience will be needed. But reading your posts, I'm sure she's getting those anyway.

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Sep 27, 2020 5 years ago
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Have you considered starting a public fund through GoFundMe or another platform so that people can chip in to help?

I'm sorry that you all had to go through this, none of you deserved what happened.

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Sep 28, 2020 5 years ago
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We've got one but it's against the TOS to link it here because it contains personal info.

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Eh... at least she&;s not that old, then, so chances are she&;ll recover faster. Of course it depends on the cat itself – I remember sterilizing my cat, vet told me she would spend a few hours sleeping and then about 2 days not leaving the box we brought her in at all, but after 2 hours or so I found her trying to go through the whole flat to reach her litter box – and beginnings, weeks, maybe months may be difficult, but she&;ll learn everything again, even if a lot of love and patience will be needed. But reading your posts, I&;m sure she&;s getting those anyway.
She will, for sure. He's even taken off two weeks from work to look after her and has pet sitters lined up for when he has to go back. Unfortunately, while she's not in dire straights right now, she also isn't eating (much or at all. It's unclear right now as my vets is very popular and therefore, very chaotic.) That may be due to being fed vet food that's completely alien to her or her broken fangs hurt when she tries. If she doesn't eat by tomorrow, I'm going down there and giving them whiskas to try instead (the only brand she's been raised on.) If she doesn't eat after that, it's another emergency I'm scared I don't have the funds for. But on the other hand, I'm sure I'm just being very impatient. She's got a lot to adjust to and is in an alien environment that's very busy and full of scary things.

Sep 28, 2020 5 years ago
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That's for sure, and it's quite usual for cats to stop eating when they're stressed. But only for short time, especially since she needs a lot of energy now. I hope she'll start eating again soon, and giving her things that she knows and likes is a good idea. You may also try blending the food and giving it for her to lick from a finger or feeding her with a syringe (but without forcing her) if you think she may not want to eat because of the teeth.

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Sep 29, 2020 5 years ago
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Thanks so much for the advice. Luckily, she started eating again at the vets and is being very affectionate, which is her normal self, which is so relieving. Hopefully she'll be back by Wednesday the latest so we can start familiarizing herself with the apartment again. ^^

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