Hi everyone, hope everyone is doing well. I'm so in my head about something, I hope it'll make me feel better just to even write it out. I talked to my best friend about this current issue, but I'm still at a standstill. My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year and a half. We see each other nearly everyday, all day. At first, it was amazing. But now as the relationship gets older, I'm getting... bored? Over it? Checked out? I can't even give you a single word how I feel about it, that's how torn I am. I don't know if it's because I'm not working at this current time, so that means I have more time on my hands to think about things? Or am I actually realizing I could do better? I hope I'm not sounding as cold hearted like I feel, but this is just how I feel and I know it's not right. Just more and more things have been coming to the surface, and it's not the same that it use to be when we first started dating. He's a great boyfriend, don't get me wrong, but I feel like that's kinda all he cares about. Like trust me, he shows me that I'm loved, but with him losing his work ethic by starting a new job within the past 6 months; my point of view changes. I want nice things in my life, and so does he; but he doesn't work hard enough for it. I've been such a supportive girlfriend that best I know how, but I'm not going to hold a grown man's hand to do his own work when I have my own things to do. His mother has even spoken to him that he needs to kind of get his priorities in row. I understand that this is a tough time on everyone, but I want to make this a growing experience. I do love and care for him, but I feel like there's too many things that I get turned off by than on? His mother and I use to have a good experience until recently she had a couple too many glasses of wine and I got verbally abused by being called names and so forth. I use to deal with that as a child, you think I want to deal with that now that I'm an adult? No. I'm his first girlfriend so I try to put in consideration that this is "new" to him. But like I said prior, he's a great boyfriend by showing me love, but too much sometimes. I feel like he needs to put that energy back into him to work harder and do the things he wants to do. I feel like he put me on the front seat, while he threw everything back which is NOT what I want whatsoever. I'm just hoping I could get some sort of advice about this. I'm torn because I'm not sure how I feel at the moment and that's been causing a lot of tension and stupid fights between him and I. I feel like I'm the problem?

Do you live with him? If not its perfectly fine to say with all this going on you want a day for you to focus on something new for you. Its not that you'll be out of contact but be honest of what you go to do. Like me recently I got into my chinese inking kit and working on making decorations out of stones and other supplies I have. So maybe this is a good time for you to take a day aside and try out a thing?

Overall there's nothing wrong with questioning if this situation is still good for you. Maybe write out the pros and cons? Its said if cons outweigh pros it could be time to cut things. But also look at the cons. Can they be helped and worked on? Is it worth investing to.e to fix them. Answer these honestly for YOU. I have so many stories about exes its unreal. Some funny some heart breaking, but its all part of life.

Honestly his immaturity and lack of work ethic are huge red flags, and I'd say being verbally abused by his mother is a dealbreaker. You're describing a man who doesn't want to grow up. It sounds like you're frustrated because you want a boyfriend who's interested in being an adult, not a man-child. I don't see you (or anyone else) having a bright future with this person. From what you've written, he sounds like the type who wants his significant other to be a mother figure rather than a partner. Do what's best for you. I wish you luck. ❤️

just have a discussion with him directly about this. have a few talking points about when you’ve been feeling and why and maybe how you guys can fix things. or take a break and see if maybe you two should move on. sometimes the solution can be breaking up. a year and a half isn’t too long but if you’ve become uninterested already in that time, then maybe you’re ready to move on. but definitely have an open and honest talk with him. maybe also suggest therapy to him, the work ethic thing could be cause by depression or something else. but also therapy in general tends to help people move on to the next stage of life or “grow up”.