Ok. So I have to go to work, I am a caregiver to the elderly that have no one else to come and help. I love my job, but right now, with this corona crap going on, I am not as keen to go, however I have to, special approval and all. I work anywhere from 8 AM to 4 PM, however if they remember that "oh, so sorry, can you make me a salad quickly?" at 3:55, I won't say no, 'cos...you know...So I'm not really sure when I get home. When I do, my boyfriend is asleep, 'cos he gets home earlier and loves to take a nap. In the morning we barely have time for each other, when I get home we barely have time to talk, the only together time we have is in the evening, after 8 PM, when the main news are over and we can watch some crap on tv. AND talk. And then he speaks for 2-3 hours on whatsup or skype with his sister. I love her dearly. But they have all day, they have all them hours I'm not there, not on MY time! When he speaks with her, I do not exist. I can talk till I'm blue, purple, red, or any other color, to the walls, getting the same answer as the walls would give me. So tonight I finally broke and told him I would really want to have this time as "our time", to talk, kiss, watch, comment, whatnot. And now he's mad. Furious, really, as in "how dare you?! Who are YOU to tell me when to talk to my sis?!" All I wanted is this 2-3 hours "ours". Am I being insensitive, am I THAT selfish for asking this? I feel lost somehow, and lonely, and mean...Am I? Is he right? Why do I feel stupid?

24 hours later EDIT: Thanks for all the advice, seems I really AM stupid waiting for an answer...

You do need to have time with your man. I think maybe he could take an hour or so out of the time spent talking to his sister in order to make that happen. I don't think you're stupid. You just need to stand up for your rights to be with him. He obviously can't see that you're trying to be a part of his life, too. It goes both ways. You both have to want to be together. Relationships take work in order to last. If one of the people isn't willing to put forth the effort, the relationship suffers. I would think he would understand this. You need to make it clear that you need time with him.

Had I seen this post 24 hours ago, you would have had an answer.

Thanks for taking the time for that advice ❤

i know this is a bit late, but maybe when things calm down, suggest a weekly date night. start with planning out time to talk or watch a movie or cook together. if he's not willing to hear you out and spend a little more time with you, he needs to work on himself. i hope you guys can work everything out.

Thank you, never late for good advice ❤

He speaks to her every night? If thats the case he can surly spare at least one night to spend with you. If he is not willing for even an hour then he needs to work on himself. You deserve someone who WILL make time!