Hi everyone!!

My baby shower is on Sunday!

We sent invitations to friends and family through WhatsApp almost 2 weeks ago. Most people replied and said thank you for the invite and told us the typical "Thanks I'll be there! response"

I want to confirm how many of them are actually coming to get an estimate for food and everything.

I need your advice on how exactly ask them that? what to tell them in another message so they can confirm

or should I even do that?

thanks!

I know sometimes it's hard to be straightforward, but I would be here. Just send another message saying "Hey, the baby shower is on this date at this time and I just want to confirm again how many people are going to be there."

You could also possibly include something about how people said yes like 2 weeks ago but plans may have changed since then so you want a better estimate now that it's closer to the actual time but that's up to you if you feel like elaborating to that degree.

I'd send out something like this a little closer to the date, like on June 6th or something:

"Hi everyone! Just a reminder that the baby shower is this upcoming Sunday, June 9, at [TIME]! I want to make sure that there will be enough food [and anything else, like space, activities, etc.] for everyone, so please RSVP to let us know if you plan on coming if you haven't already. I'm so excited to celebrate with you!"

It's to the point and doesn't call anyone out if you send it to everyone at the same time on WhatsApp (I don't use that app, and I'm not sure if this was a group message or something). If there's someone who you'd reasonably expect to be there--a best friend, family member, etc.--who hasn't responded, I think it's appropriate to ask them privately if they got your message or plan on showing up.